One of DH’s fraternity brothers has been given a permanent hall pass from his wife because she doesn’t want to have sex anymore. She’s Danish (I don’t know if that matters or not). Both are close to 50. He claims he hasn’t done anything with it though because (1) if they do divorce he doesn’t want it to be used against him for more $ and (2) he’s pretty lazy and affairs can be a pain in the ass. DH believes him.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a couple buddies who have. I have (long ago), and if I had to guess I’d say DW probably did at least once early in our marriage. Doesn’t really bother me.

The “big one” is a neighbor couple we know, the wife is close friends with my DW and her husband got drunk once and told several of the neighborhood dads about all his multiple affairs, women at work, etc. It’s annoying because this couple is like the “dream” marriage, all the wives fawn over what a great and involved dad this guy is, etc. And its a complete fake.

He could be a great and involved dad' though

But I know what you mean. One of my business partners screws everything he can and his wife is constantly gushing on facebook how perfect they are

Yeah that’s fair. I was a good “dad” even when cheating. But yes, the wife is CONSTANTLY gushing about what a great husband and dad he is, how selfless, blah blah. I’ll never say anything, but it’s aggravating.

Anonymous wrote:I know a couple buddies who have. I have (long ago), and if I had to guess I’d say DW probably did at least once early in our marriage. Doesn’t really bother me.

The “big one” is a neighbor couple we know, the wife is close friends with my DW and her husband got drunk once and told several of the neighborhood dads about all his multiple affairs, women at work, etc. It’s annoying because this couple is like the “dream” marriage, all the wives fawn over what a great and involved dad this guy is, etc. And its a complete fake.

He could be a great and involved dad' though

But I know what you mean. One of my business partners screws everything he can and his wife is constantly gushing on facebook how perfect they are

I know a couple buddies who have. I have (long ago), and if I had to guess I’d say DW probably did at least once early in our marriage. Doesn’t really bother me.

The “big one” is a neighbor couple we know, the wife is close friends with my DW and her husband got drunk once and told several of the neighborhood dads about all his multiple affairs, women at work, etc. It’s annoying because this couple is like the “dream” marriage, all the wives fawn over what a great and involved dad this guy is, etc. And its a complete fake.

I have a small social circle, but a close friend since childhood cheated on her spouse with a co-worker, but that ended more than a year. My friend never told her husband and as far as I know, the co-worker is still married to his wife. That's all I've got. I'm 42 and no one, other than one friend who divorced her first husband after a year of marriage, has divorced either.

Anonymous wrote:I cheated and I know that no one in my circle would ever think I’d do it.

Gross

I cheated and I know that no one in my circle would ever think I’d do it.

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Anonymous wrote:None. I'm divorced and most of my friends have divorced within the past 5 years. Everybody is single, free and living their best damn lives.

Oh, and we all divorced cheaters.

That’s statistically very high—all of your friends?

I’m 50 and none of my HS or college friends have divorced. No idea if anyone’s been cheated on. If they have, they’ve kept it private.

It’s less common the more educated and higher SES of couples.

Now this is some nonsense. More educated and higher SES means more to lose, so spouses look the other way. There is a crap ton of cheating in high SES circles.

You beat me to it.

Seriously, high net worth men, especially attractive ones all cheat. All of them. Women don't divorce them because they lose their social status

And low class women looking to gold dig/move up from their current spouse.

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Anonymous wrote:None. I'm divorced and most of my friends have divorced within the past 5 years. Everybody is single, free and living their best damn lives.

Oh, and we all divorced cheaters.

That’s statistically very high—all of your friends?

I’m 50 and none of my HS or college friends have divorced. No idea if anyone’s been cheated on. If they have, they’ve kept it private.

It’s less common the more educated and higher SES of couples.

Now this is some nonsense. More educated and higher SES means more to lose, so spouses look the other way. There is a crap ton of cheating in high SES circles.

You beat me to it.

Seriously, high net worth men, especially attractive ones all cheat. All of them. Women don't divorce them because they lose their social status

Zero (that I know of).

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Anonymous wrote:None. I'm divorced and most of my friends have divorced within the past 5 years. Everybody is single, free and living their best damn lives.

Oh, and we all divorced cheaters.

That’s statistically very high—all of your friends?

I’m 50 and none of my HS or college friends have divorced. No idea if anyone’s been cheated on. If they have, they’ve kept it private.

It’s less common the more educated and higher SES of couples.

Now this is some nonsense. More educated and higher SES means more to lose, so spouses look the other way. There is a crap ton of cheating in high SES circles.

I know 4 people who had affairs after they got divorced.

> I meant I knew about the affairs after they got divorced.

I know 4 people who had affairs after they got divorced. One at work, a colleague had an affair with her boss, got pregnant with him and got divorced. I know all 4 of them very well and are really nice people. Happened 15 years ago and I still cannot get my head around it. Immense damage as all of them had kids.

Another is a relative who had an affair with a colleague at work. Her husband walked in on them at home during lunch time. Thankfully they did not have kids.

Two friends had affairs and got divorced. One with a college friend. Other is with some random person.

I have no idea! I’m just doing my best to give my DH no reason to cheat and he reciprocates very nicely.

Studies show, you are who you hang out with. Cheaters and divorcees tend to associate with one another. They don’t get disapproval amongst their friend group and even encourage one another. Women who tell others how great cheating is and how much happier you will be divorced, etc. Hos tend to hang out with other hos and cheating bros with other cheating bros.