Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This poster has exceeded my capacity for empathy unfortunately. And i really tried. Op, you received thoughtful feedback but you don't seem particularly thoughtful or mature yourself. 1. You barely know the guy, I would not make any assumptions that he is the one. 2. You sound incapable of grasping the nuances involved in dual income couples with demanding careers and how they make it work. You heard from people in the trenches about the complexities. You persist in reiterating what you want, which is to protect your career. Based on these responses you can concl7de there is no stereotype of the doctor's wife. That's the feedback. Some wives are sahm, others have demanding careers too. You seem to have wanted a simplistic, stereotypical response. But you did not get it because there is no one way it goes down.

Excellent response.
I’ll add just one suggestion to OP: Get yourself a cat. Boom.

Anonymous wrote:This poster has exceeded my capacity for empathy unfortunately. And i really tried. Op, you received thoughtful feedback but you don't seem particularly thoughtful or mature yourself. 1. You barely know the guy, I would not make any assumptions that he is the one. 2. You sound incapable of grasping the nuances involved in dual income couples with demanding careers and how they make it work. You heard from people in the trenches about the complexities. You persist in reiterating what you want, which is to protect your career. Based on these responses you can concl7de there is no stereotype of the doctor's wife. That's the feedback. Some wives are sahm, others have demanding careers too. You seem to have wanted a simplistic, stereotypical response. But you did not get it because there is no one way it goes down.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s wrong with working PT or being a SAHM?

Raising children is an important and interesting job. And it doesn’t last forever, maybe 10-15 years of your entire working life.

You can always go back to full time work, particularly if you work in healthcare.

OP here. I worked really hard for my career and do not want to throw it away. I’m fine working PT but I think it’s important to protect my career and income. It’s important to me to have an income in the event something happens. Being a SAHM isn’t for everyone. I babysat for many years while in school and while sometimes it was fun, most of it was boring. I’m not very creative. I’m not cut out for being a SAHM. I love my career and think it’s amazing.

Not all healthcare jobs let you go back without updating schooling for your profession or doing things to keep your license current.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s wrong with working PT or being a SAHM?

Raising children is an important and interesting job. And it doesn’t last forever, maybe 10-15 years of your entire working life.

You can always go back to full time work, particularly if you work in healthcare.

OP here. I worked really hard for my career and do not want to throw it away. I’m fine working PT but I think it’s important to protect my career and income. It’s important to me to have an income in the event something happens. Being a SAHM isn’t for everyone. I babysat for many years while in school and while sometimes it was fun, most of it was boring. I’m not very creative. I’m not cut out for being a SAHM. I love my career and think it’s amazing.

Not all healthcare jobs let you go back without updating schooling for your profession or doing things to keep your license current.

Anonymous wrote:If you don’t want to date him I’m positive there is a long line of people who do... anesthesiologist make big money!

Anonymous wrote:What’s wrong with working PT or being a SAHM?

Raising children is an important and interesting job. And it doesn’t last forever, maybe 10-15 years of your entire working life.

You can always go back to full time work, particularly if you work in healthcare.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dating three months and you’re already planning your love together? He’s the one who needs to run.

That's my thinking. Besides that, OP is looking for a husband who works 9 - 5.

OP here. I’m not looking for a guy that works those hours. I’m fine with longer hours. I just want someone who doesn’t work weekends and holidays. I want a man who will be an involved father.

Anonymous wrote:What’s wrong with working PT or being a SAHM?

Raising children is an important and interesting job. And it doesn’t last forever, maybe 10-15 years of your entire working life.

You can always go back to full time work, particularly if you work in healthcare.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being married to a Dr: Last year we had three Christmas parties to attend. My DH was supposed to be off. For each one, I was all dressed up, babysitter there, waiting on him. He never came home. Cases get delayed, patients do poorly, emergencies happen and shift around things. Change Christmas party to school musical, important meeting, appointment. In short, it is an unpredictable life and you need to be flexible

He needs to call you if he’s going to be that late, especially if you two have plans. I wonder if he is very anxious at work and forgets about other things, like his wife waiting at home.
My husband has worked many Christmases, but there have been only a handful of times in the last decade that he has been hours late without texting or calling to let me know. I hope that things get better with you two!

I never said said he was "hours late." Obviously he does call of there is a foreseeable delay or a nurse calls if he can't. But often plan are already underway , I've started getting ready, and so on. But thanks for your faux concern.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being married to a Dr: Last year we had three Christmas parties to attend. My DH was supposed to be off. For each one, I was all dressed up, babysitter there, waiting on him. He never came home. Cases get delayed, patients do poorly, emergencies happen and shift around things. Change Christmas party to school musical, important meeting, appointment. In short, it is an unpredictable life and you need to be flexible

He needs to call you if he’s going to be that late, especially if you two have plans. I wonder if he is very anxious at work and forgets about other things, like his wife waiting at home.
My husband has worked many Christmases, but there have been only a handful of times in the last decade that he has been hours late without texting or calling to let me know. I hope that things get better with you two!

Anonymous wrote:Being married to a Dr: Last year we had three Christmas parties to attend. My DH was supposed to be off. For each one, I was all dressed up, babysitter there, waiting on him. He never came home. Cases get delayed, patients do poorly, emergencies happen and shift around things. Change Christmas party to school musical, important meeting, appointment. In short, it is an unpredictable life and you need to be flexible