Anonymous
12/10/2020 23:20
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:"Completely understand that you are not looking to expand your bubble at this point in the pandemic."
But she didn’t really refer to the pandemic. She’s just not “in the market for new friends”... I would block her.
But she already rejected OP. Blocking her sounds stupid.
May be stupid, but also slightly satisfying.
Anonymous
12/10/2020 23:16
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:Why would you not reply? That makes you seem bothered.
Of course she’s bothered. Anyone would be bothered to get such a reply. It’s what the person wanted. Goal achieved.
Anonymous
12/10/2020 23:15
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:Why would you not reply? That makes you seem bothered.
OP is bothered by the rude reply. I don’t see the need to make the other person feel better for sending it by some absolving “no big deal” response.
Just let it hang in the air.
Anonymous
12/10/2020 23:15
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:Why would you not reply? That makes you seem bothered.
Uh anyone with a brain would be bothered.
Anonymous
12/10/2020 23:12
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Why would you not reply? That makes you seem bothered.
Anonymous
12/10/2020 23:02
Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:That was very rude of her, I’m sorry.
Agree- she could have been much kinder. No need to add “new friends”.
It’s not you.
Anonymous
12/10/2020 23:00
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:Agree with others that no reply is the best reply. Let her text live out there in cyberspace forever, retrievable whenever you need.
Yep. This. Do not let her live in your head another moment.
Anonymous
12/10/2020 22:58
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Agree with others that no reply is the best reply. Let her text live out there in cyberspace forever, retrievable whenever you need.
Anonymous
12/10/2020 22:54
Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
I think I would actually respond - oh sorry I thought I was texting (her name). Then I'd wait for the "that's me" and say oh, awkward. And just leave it hanging there LOL.
But seriously don't feel bad. She sounds like a wack job.
But seriously don't feel bad. She sounds like a wack job.
Anonymous
12/10/2020 22:52
Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:OP, if you want to give her the benefit of the doubt that she’s not generally a rude and obnoxious person (you said you really liked her), then I would construe her text as she doesn’t want to expand her pandemic bubble/activities, and it just came out weird and wrong and off-putting, but she didn’t mean it that way. If you want to engage, you could respond that you understand if they aren’t socializing right now even outdoors, and to reach out to you if they’d like to get together again in the future when things calm down. (Emphasis on “again” in case maybe she’s somehow confusing you with someone else?) Then I’d leave it alone.
I have a friend/acquaintance who says off-putting things sometimes over text or email that make me feel bad, and I just have to not engage. I really like her when I see her in person, but when people act like that, it’s hard to want to be better friends with them.
The onus is on the rude friend to reach out and apologize/clarify what she meant when realizes her friend has ghosted her. Perhaps it would be a good time for some self reflection on how she treats people. Until then, she said what she said. Leave it be. No need for OP to infer on her behalf - and get her feelings hurt even more if the woman says it has nothing to do with Covid.
Anonymous
12/10/2020 22:48
Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
OP, if you want to give her the benefit of the doubt that she’s not generally a rude and obnoxious person (you said you really liked her), then I would construe her text as she doesn’t want to expand her pandemic bubble/activities, and it just came out weird and wrong and off-putting, but she didn’t mean it that way. If you want to engage, you could respond that you understand if they aren’t socializing right now even outdoors, and to reach out to you if they’d like to get together again in the future when things calm down. (Emphasis on “again” in case maybe she’s somehow confusing you with someone else?) Then I’d leave it alone.
I have a friend/acquaintance who says off-putting things sometimes over text or email that make me feel bad, and I just have to not engage. I really like her when I see her in person, but when people act like that, it’s hard to want to be better friends with them.
I have a friend/acquaintance who says off-putting things sometimes over text or email that make me feel bad, and I just have to not engage. I really like her when I see her in person, but when people act like that, it’s hard to want to be better friends with them.
Anonymous
12/10/2020 22:46
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:OP, I’ll tell you exactly what to do. First, put your big girl pants on and make peace with the fact that you are not everyone’s cup of tea. Thank God because can you even imagine if everyone wanted to be friends with everyone?! Second, you absolutely must reply. Do not give her the satisfaction of thinking she hurt your feelings. You reply “Haha totally get it! Hope you you guys are safe and well!” Third, you move on...for real. Not just stewing about it. The pandemic is playing mind tricks on all of us. She doesn’t matter so stop giving her space in your brain. K?
What a desperate sounding reply. OP whatever you do, please do not do this. No need to make yourself a doormat while you’re at it. Personally, I wouldn’t respond at all. Some interactions really do not need to be dragged out and this is one of them. I would never reach out to her again and would be courteous but ice cold if I ran into her.
Anonymous
12/10/2020 22:33
Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
You dodged a bullet. This person has zero social skills and some mental, anxiety, or on the spectrum issues.
Anonymous
12/10/2020 22:33
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
OP, I’ll tell you exactly what to do. First, put your big girl pants on and make peace with the fact that you are not everyone’s cup of tea. Thank God because can you even imagine if everyone wanted to be friends with everyone?! Second, you absolutely must reply. Do not give her the satisfaction of thinking she hurt your feelings. You reply “Haha totally get it! Hope you you guys are safe and well!” Third, you move on...for real. Not just stewing about it. The pandemic is playing mind tricks on all of us. She doesn’t matter so stop giving her space in your brain. K?
Anonymous
12/10/2020 22:31
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
I feel like she totally deserves a "bye Felicia". What a tacky thing to say to someone when she could have just uses the pandemic as an excuse