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Anonymous wrote:It depends on your build.

I am 5ft7 and 115ish. I look healthy and have a nice body. At 140, I'd look overweight.

Someone with my same height with a different build would look underweight at my weight.

I'm sure you look fine.

This thread seems to be a convergence of anorexics.

This is a competitive town. Most of my friends are a size zero. It's like the Incredible Shrinking Moms. Every time I see them, they're skinnier.

I'm the same height and weight as OP, and I am large compared to every mom friend, with only one exception.

I'm at the gym 6 days a week, so I see these women. They are rail thin and almost look diseased. It just does not look good and on a woman who is 35 and over it just flat out makes them look old. Super skinny looks nrmal on a teen, a size zero or two on a grown woman just looks frail and old.

I'm not sure if I agree with you that it is competition. I think middle to upper class women are plagued with body image and food disorders. They are chasing down a time in their lives long long ago and have a warped view of what looks good.

To the OP, if you think 140 is overweight, you need help. If you are flabby, then you don't need a diet, but you need a gym with some weights.

I disagree. It is a competition. And they look great, which is why they do it/want to do it. There are very few heavy socialites in this area. And even fewer fat wannabee-socialites.

I don't know any socialites, the Housewife thing is not my cup of tea, but I am an instructor at a local gym that caters to upper income customers and the super skinny 40 somethings look pretty creepy. Something about the way the muscles stretch over the bones that makes them look so much older,. And the skin on the face, the lack of body fat on the facejust makes for a haggard look.

Anonymous wrote:This is OP - Thanks for your opinions everyone. My whole life I have been considered thin and I'm the sort of person most women hate because I don't watch what I eat and don't exercise (except yoga once every week or two). I have a small frame (not big-boned) and am NOT curvy at all (wish I was!). Over the past 5 years, I've very gradually put on about 10 lbs. Prior to that I hadn't gained weight since my teen years - even after two kids I lost all my baby weight right away. I have been feeling insecure and fishing for compliments lately. I work full time and have been struggling with motivating myself to fit exercise in my routine and trying to eat better. I can see how some people end up with eating disorders - it's difficult to determine how others see you.

OP, I'd say thinnish side of average, if we are talking about average without factoring in how obese our country actually is. If you take into account the "real" average. you and I are both sticks. Wisps of grass, even.

I'm shorter and weigh less (since I'm shorter) but I know EXACTLY how you feel, and would characterize myself the same way. I don't like how I feel but think in a perfect world my "stats" put me at thin end of average, just like yours do. Yet, with 2 kids, longish hours at work, and a busy life because we want to do it all, time at the gym or exercising comes last. You andf I BOTH need to change that. The thing is, right now, it's about how our clothes fit and how we feel. We struggle with this internally and hope we can control it by eating, but it doesn't seem to be enough. But, if we don't start working out now, there will come a day where it is not about how your clothes fit but is instead about how you can't lift the grocery bags or walk hunched over because you injured yourself by letting a muscle get weak and now it seems like it is permanently damaged. We have to start getting oil changes for the car, if you know what I mean. Stop looking back at the thin and beautiful days, and instead look forward to the I need a functional body days. I am preaching to myself, I promise, not just you. I'm thinking it is time for me to make the shift. I'm 44. Some days I have a sense that I should have been paying attention to the idea of preserving function starting at least ten years ago. If you are younger, start now and you will be way ahead of me by the time YOU are 44.

Thin but not skinny

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It depends on your build.

I am 5ft7 and 115ish. I look healthy and have a nice body. At 140, I'd look overweight.

Someone with my same height with a different build would look underweight at my weight.

I'm sure you look fine.

This thread seems to be a convergence of anorexics.

This is a competitive town. Most of my friends are a size zero. It's like the Incredible Shrinking Moms. Every time I see them, they're skinnier.

I'm the same height and weight as OP, and I am large compared to every mom friend, with only one exception.

I'm at the gym 6 days a week, so I see these women. They are rail thin and almost look diseased. It just does not look good and on a woman who is 35 and over it just flat out makes them look old. Super skinny looks nrmal on a teen, a size zero or two on a grown woman just looks frail and old.

I'm not sure if I agree with you that it is competition. I think middle to upper class women are plagued with body image and food disorders. They are chasing down a time in their lives long long ago and have a warped view of what looks good.

To the OP, if you think 140 is overweight, you need help. If you are flabby, then you don't need a diet, but you need a gym with some weights.

I disagree. It is a competition. And they look great, which is why they do it/want to do it. There are very few heavy socialites in this area. And even fewer fat wannabee-socialites.

I am the 5'7" 115lb PP. I don't wear a size 0 and I don't live in DC, so my weight isn't affected by being in a competitive town. I am genetically thin, all the women in my family are this way. No bones are sticking out, not anorexic look.

Also not in my thirties, so I expect to gain a bit of weight as I get older...

On the thin side, but fine.

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Anonymous wrote:I would say right where you should be. If you are small boned, perhaps slightly (5lbs) over, but not if you have a lot of muscle. If larger boned, you are slim.

I am about your height (just under 5'9) and I look my best about 140 and fit. I am larger boned and curvy. I currently am about 155 and I still wear a 4 or 6 in a skirt or dress. 8 in jeans. Everyone's body type is so different. I would like to lose about 10 at this point in my life. No one ever believes I weigh as much as I do.

My doctor said her main concern is fitness.

PP, I'm about your height (5'9" exactly), and I am currently 158, but I am a size 8-10! And you say you're larger boned if you are 155 and fit into a size 4?

You're absolutely right, everyone's body type is so different. I am big-boned and muscular with large shoulders; I don't think I could EVER fit into a size 4, even if I was a total skeleton. But I weigh only 3 more pounds than you do!

Thanks PP, that's me as well! I am your height and weight and a size 8-10. At 145 lbs I am able to fit into a size 6, but at my lowest weight ever (in the 120s as a teenager struggling with an eating disorder) I still did not fit into anything below a size 6 (maybe barely a 4)

You are the same weight and height as a model; Amber Rose. You're fine.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/03/14/amber-rose-reveals-her-we_n_835291.html

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It depends on your build.

I am 5ft7 and 115ish. I look healthy and have a nice body. At 140, I'd look overweight.

Someone with my same height with a different build would look underweight at my weight.

I'm sure you look fine.

This thread seems to be a convergence of anorexics.

This is a competitive town. Most of my friends are a size zero. It's like the Incredible Shrinking Moms. Every time I see them, they're skinnier.

I'm the same height and weight as OP, and I am large compared to every mom friend, with only one exception.

I'm at the gym 6 days a week, so I see these women. They are rail thin and almost look diseased. It just does not look good and on a woman who is 35 and over it just flat out makes them look old. Super skinny looks nrmal on a teen, a size zero or two on a grown woman just looks frail and old.

I'm not sure if I agree with you that it is competition. I think middle to upper class women are plagued with body image and food disorders. They are chasing down a time in their lives long long ago and have a warped view of what looks good.

To the OP, if you think 140 is overweight, you need help. If you are flabby, then you don't need a diet, but you need a gym with some weights.

I am 5'6" and 135. I wear the same size as when I weighed 125. It's muscle. Height and weight alone just don't give you a good picture.

I'm 5'7" and 140. I'd have to lose 5-7lbs to be considered thin. After my dad died I lost a ton of weight and got down to 115 like the pp who is my height. For me that was waaaaay too skinny. I looked like I was in a concentration camp - bones sticking out everywhere and size 0 was too big.

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Anonymous wrote:It depends on your build.

I am 5ft7 and 115ish. I look healthy and have a nice body. At 140, I'd look overweight.

Someone with my same height with a different build would look underweight at my weight.

I'm sure you look fine.

This thread seems to be a convergence of anorexics.

You don't think that's a pretty mean thing to say? I'd never respond to a woman who weighed much more than I do with "This thread seems to be a gathering of whales." Oh well, you seem unhappy with your own body or you wouldn't feel the mean to joke about anorexia. I am confident in myself, so I feel no need to be rude to fat women.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It depends on your build.

I am 5ft7 and 115ish. I look healthy and have a nice body. At 140, I'd look overweight.

Someone with my same height with a different build would look underweight at my weight.

I'm sure you look fine.

This thread seems to be a convergence of anorexics.

This is a competitive town. Most of my friends are a size zero. It's like the Incredible Shrinking Moms. Every time I see them, they're skinnier.

I'm the same height and weight as OP, and I am large compared to every mom friend, with only one exception.

Anonymous wrote:I would say right where you should be. If you are small boned, perhaps slightly (5lbs) over, but not if you have a lot of muscle. If larger boned, you are slim.

I am about your height (just under 5'9) and I look my best about 140 and fit. I am larger boned and curvy. I currently am about 155 and I still wear a 4 or 6 in a skirt or dress. 8 in jeans. Everyone's body type is so different. I would like to lose about 10 at this point in my life. No one ever believes I weigh as much as I do.

My doctor said her main concern is fitness.

PP, I'm about your height (5'9" exactly), and I am currently 158, but I am a size 8-10! And you say you're larger boned if you are 155 and fit into a size 4?

You're absolutely right, everyone's body type is so different. I am big-boned and muscular with large shoulders; I don't think I could EVER fit into a size 4, even if I was a total skeleton. But I weigh only 3 more pounds than you do!

Anonymous wrote:It depends on your build.

I am 5ft7 and 115ish. I look healthy and have a nice body. At 140, I'd look overweight.

Someone with my same height with a different build would look underweight at my weight.

I'm sure you look fine.

This thread seems to be a convergence of anorexics.