Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are engaging in a self fulfilling prophecy- didn't want a dog, and now you have it so you are proving why you didn't want it.
Get up.
Make an effort.
Stop being an ass.
Make a plan with everyone involved.
Love is a verb.
This dog and your kids deserve better.

Look in the mirror to see the awful person, PP.

OP, the dog deserves nothing. You deserve happiness and peace with your family.

Get rid of the dog. Today.

What?! The dog deserves a loving home, attention, and care. OP may not be the person to provide these things, but the dog certainly deserves them.

No it doesn’t. A dog is a pet that exists for the enjoyment of the family who owns them. It’s an animal and doesn’t intrinsically deserve a loving home anymore than say, a thanksgiving turkey or a slaughterhouse pig. What makes you think a dog “deserves” all these things? If having a dog enriches ops family life they should keep it. If not, get rid of it. It’s really pretty simple. Some of you people are completely insane. It’s just an animal!

Troll.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are engaging in a self fulfilling prophecy- didn't want a dog, and now you have it so you are proving why you didn't want it.
Get up.
Make an effort.
Stop being an ass.
Make a plan with everyone involved.
Love is a verb.
This dog and your kids deserve better.

Look in the mirror to see the awful person, PP.

OP, the dog deserves nothing. You deserve happiness and peace with your family.

Get rid of the dog. Today.

What?! The dog deserves a loving home, attention, and care. OP may not be the person to provide these things, but the dog certainly deserves them.

No it doesn’t. A dog is a pet that exists for the enjoyment of the family who owns them. It’s an animal and doesn’t intrinsically deserve a loving home anymore than say, a thanksgiving turkey or a slaughterhouse pig. What makes you think a dog “deserves” all these things? If having a dog enriches ops family life they should keep it. If not, get rid of it. It’s really pretty simple. Some of you people are completely insane. It’s just an animal!

PLEASE listen to your heart and regime the dog before it gets too old or too disobedient. It’s ok not to have a dog.

I enjoyed our dogs so much when I was younger and didn’t have kids. After kids and with a job no not really.

Anonymous wrote:
Lying about how much time, effort and expense it takes to own a dog doesn't serve anyone well. Maybe the house breaking is quick but puppies chew everything, can't be left unattended for long periods, and have small bladders. Dogs get discarded and abandoned because of misrepresentations like above. Dog ownership isn't for everyone. It's not a SMALL effort, get real if you don't want bad outcomes.

Also, even if you can meet the dog's biological needs, they need attention and affections, lots of it, regularly. It doesn't sound as though the family is going to be providing that.

Re-home the dog and there will be two happy families (yes, OP's kids will be sad for awhile, but their attachment is pretty limited right now.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP are you rich? I have family member who got a dog
During the pandemic that turned into a huge stressor and they sent the dog to some boot camp where someone else trained him.

Short of that you need to just have a come to Jesus moment with your spouse.

People are lazy AF. It takes about 2 weeks max to house train a dog. Train them young and it is a breeze. Walk around with a belted pouch with mini dry treats and they will do whatever you want. Add a clicker for good behavior and there is nothing much to train a dog past 4 weeks in the house.

You made the mistake of not setting up written guidelines and have everyone sign them. Dogs that are ignored and deemed bad because you and your family don't want to put in a small effort to train them suffer long term. If you are ALL at home, there is no need for this dog to not be trained, healthy, and loved.

No offense, but people suck. Dogs do not.

Lying about how much time, effort and expense it takes to own a dog doesn't serve anyone well. Maybe the house breaking is quick but puppies chew everything, can't be left unattended for long periods, and have small bladders. Dogs get discarded and abandoned because of misrepresentations like above. Dog ownership isn't for everyone. It's not a SMALL effort, get real if you don't want bad outcomes.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Family meeting which can be a teaching moment for the kids (and your DH) about how you all made the choice to get a dog and you all need to participate in training the dogs. Kids can teach lessons like "sit" which are easy and stepping stones for the dog to understand that he/she needs to listen and gets a reward for doing so. DH can work on more complex tasks (stay--which requires more work). Find a few good youtube videos on training. I'd put effort into getting the family to work together before thinking about getting rid of the dog. My .02

This. Take control. The dog is there so now make the plan to deal with it. Divide things up (feeding, potty time, etc.) Enlist a dog walker or doggy day care. Get a trainer in to help. The alternative is to give the dog back.

Look, I'm not going to ride you too hard. It can be tough at first, but the rewards are many if you can stick it out. But, you can't just whine about it. DO SOMETHING. Or give the dog back and be the bad guy.

This is stupid. OP doesn’t want to be the point person for the dog. She doesn’t even want a dog. She’s stepping up because she doesn’t want dog pee on the carpet.

The solution is to rehome the dog.

A dog can bring a lot of joy to your life, but there's both a large upfront cost (the time and effort to train your pet) as well as ongoing obligations (walks, feeding, health, etc). Not everyone has enough time in their lives for kids, or for home ownership, or for taking care of a pet. If looking after a dog is too stressful at this point in life, then it will not bring you joy, and neither the dog nor you will be happy. This is unfair to both of you.

If the rest of your family really wants to keep the dog, they have to step up to the plate and look after it. If they are not willing, then the dog needs to be given to another home. There is absolutely no shame in doing this. It is not a failure on your part. Life is short, and you need to find happiness. Dogs do not automatically make everyone happy.

P.S. I do not understand people who leave their dogs outside barking all night long. We had one neighbor whose dog would bark nonstop for hours. It was outside when it was 100 degrees in the summer and below freezing in the winter. Do these people not love their pets enough to look after them and ensure their comfort? I just assume that the dogs are either physically uncomfortable or lonely outside.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are engaging in a self fulfilling prophecy- didn't want a dog, and now you have it so you are proving why you didn't want it.
Get up.
Make an effort.
Stop being an ass.
Make a plan with everyone involved.
Love is a verb.
This dog and your kids deserve better.

Look in the mirror to see the awful person, PP.

OP, the dog deserves nothing. You deserve happiness and peace with your family.

Get rid of the dog. Today.

Getting rid of the dog may cause problems in the family. Kids and husband want the dog.

I LOVE DOGS. But this is ridiculous. If they loved the dog, they need to step up and take care of it. No rights without responsibilities.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP are you rich? I have family member who got a dog
During the pandemic that turned into a huge stressor and they sent the dog to some boot camp where someone else trained him.

Short of that you need to just have a come to Jesus moment with your spouse.

People are lazy AF. It takes about 2 weeks max to house train a dog. Train them young and it is a breeze. Walk around with a belted pouch with mini dry treats and they will do whatever you want. Add a clicker for good behavior and there is nothing much to train a dog past 4 weeks in the house.

You made the mistake of not setting up written guidelines and have everyone sign them. Dogs that are ignored and deemed bad because you and your family don't want to put in a small effort to train them suffer long term. If you are ALL at home, there is no need for this dog to not be trained, healthy, and loved.

No offense, but people suck. Dogs do not.

Anonymous wrote:OP are you rich? I have family member who got a dog
During the pandemic that turned into a huge stressor and they sent the dog to some boot camp where someone else trained him.

Short of that you need to just have a come to Jesus moment with your spouse.

People are lazy AF. It takes about 2 weeks max to house train a dog. Train them young and it is a breeze. Walk around with a belted pouch with mini dry treats and they will do whatever you want. Add a clicker for good behavior and there is nothing much to train a dog past 4 weeks in the house.

You made the mistake of not setting up written guidelines and have everyone sign them. Dogs that are ignored and deemed bad because you and your family don't want to put in a small effort to train them suffer long term. If you are ALL at home, there is no need for this dog to not be trained, healthy, and loved.

No offense, but people suck. Dogs do not.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did this. Then we posted here. People were awful and judgy because we were bad "dog parents". We weren't, but we hated taking care of him. He was cute. And...he wasn't human. Long story short. We gave him away to a loving family that were dog people and went back to just our lovely, easy 10yo cat. You know what you want. It's OK. Do it. Life is too short.

Best answer!

OP, I agree with this. We just got a puppy and they are tons of work. (Is yours a puppy or full grown adoption? It makes a difference). I can list a bunch of ways to make life easier. But if the person who wanted the dog isn't doing most of the work......this isn't going to work. It's not fair. Not to you or the dog. It's best to rehome him.

If for some odd reason you are interested in tips to make it easier, I will list them. But right now I'm on Team Rehome!

Not OP. Please provide tips! We have a puppy that only 1/2 of the household wanted and 1/4 doing 90% of the work.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are engaging in a self fulfilling prophecy- didn't want a dog, and now you have it so you are proving why you didn't want it.
Get up.
Make an effort.
Stop being an ass.
Make a plan with everyone involved.
Love is a verb.
This dog and your kids deserve better.

Look in the mirror to see the awful person, PP.

OP, the dog deserves nothing. You deserve happiness and peace with your family.

Get rid of the dog. Today.

What?! The dog deserves a loving home, attention, and care. OP may not be the person to provide these things, but the dog certainly deserves them.

Seriously- HIRE A DOG TRAINER.

Hire a dog trainer.