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Anonymous wrote:I'm very close to quitting.
3 kids, 3 schools.
total craziness.

I've been working for 20 years straight and I'm sort of relishing the idea of a break. The income is not insignificant for us but neither is my sanity.

You had more kids than you can handle. Stop complaining.

Yeah! If you wanted to have 3 kids you needed to be Ivanka who can have 3 full time nannies. Who do you think you are having 3 kids? Infact people who pay taxes should not have kids. Look at POTUS. 5 kids and no taxes since Barnone has been born.

Losers!

Trump did not raise any o this kids.

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Anonymous wrote:As a SAHM, these articles about women quitting all seem pretty obvious to me. Yes, a few of you managed to marry a fully “woke” equal partner who will do 50% or more of the “mental load” in addition to housework and child rearing, but I learned pretty quickly I did not marry such a man.

And I’ll be damned if I’m going to carry the whole mental load, run the house, care for the kids AND work a full time job. I’m not a martyr.

So don’t do the mental load and housework. Just say no.

Prioritize yourself and your career. You deserve it the same as a privileged man does. Again no one is forcing you to do housework. You basically allowed your husband to force you to quit working and when your kids are older you’ll deeply regret it.

Because of the flexibility of my job and inflexibility of his, there was no question of who would manage DL. But DH does way more housework to compensate. And we’re doing way more takeout. And I’ve let go of my initial perfectionism about managing DL. We’re both working much longer days, and are tired, but hanging in there. So there are ways a DH can make a fair contribution, and women do need to insist on not doing simply everything. But it’s hard regardless and everyone needs to figure out the best way to preserve their well being.

Many times the only way to get a man to do his share is to force it. Don’t buy groceries. Don’t order toilet paper. Don’t watch the kids. Don’t schedule things. It’s amazing what they can do when they have to. Keep in mind all of these men likely managed their own life before their secretary/cook/cleaner/nanny moved in.

I tried this. My husband did not pick up the slack. What he did do is start constantly yelling at the kids to do all the stuff I had cut back on. Wash the dishes, do the laundry, take out the trash, clean the kitchen, etc. He knew he couldn't order me to start doing all of that again so he started ordering the kids around. Miserable. And I don't mean that he asked the kids to help with some of this - they already did that. I mean he had them doing it all. And since he can go the whole day without eating, if I didn't shop for food or make anything, he would just ignore it and not eat. If I didn't ultimately make something, the kids would make themselves PB&J when they got desperate. Not a great way to live and not a long term solution.

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Anonymous wrote:I understand a single mom.

But no married woman should quit her job. I am married and will NOT be quitting. There is NO reason that woman should need to quit their jobs while men do not! Just say no, ladies. Is your husband going to quit his job to do housework and distance learning? Of course not. Women have to stop voluntarily sacrificing their careers and financial well-being when men do not.

Your post makes no sense. You think a single mom can quit her job? How is she going to buy food and pay the mortgage? Married women are the only ones who have this choice.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm very close to quitting.
3 kids, 3 schools.
total craziness.

I've been working for 20 years straight and I'm sort of relishing the idea of a break. The income is not insignificant for us but neither is my sanity.

You had more kids than you can handle. Stop complaining.

Yeah! If you wanted to have 3 kids you needed to be Ivanka who can have 3 full time nannies. Who do you think you are having 3 kids? Infact people who pay taxes should not have kids. Look at POTUS. 5 kids and no taxes since Barnone has been born.

Losers!

Anonymous wrote:I understand a single mom.

But no married woman should quit her job. I am married and will NOT be quitting. There is NO reason that woman should need to quit their jobs while men do not! Just say no, ladies. Is your husband going to quit his job to do housework and distance learning? Of course not. Women have to stop voluntarily sacrificing their careers and financial well-being when men do not.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a SAHM, these articles about women quitting all seem pretty obvious to me. Yes, a few of you managed to marry a fully “woke” equal partner who will do 50% or more of the “mental load” in addition to housework and child rearing, but I learned pretty quickly I did not marry such a man.

And I’ll be damned if I’m going to carry the whole mental load, run the house, care for the kids AND work a full time job. I’m not a martyr.

So don’t do the mental load and housework. Just say no.

Prioritize yourself and your career. You deserve it the same as a privileged man does. Again no one is forcing you to do housework. You basically allowed your husband to force you to quit working and when your kids are older you’ll deeply regret it.

Because of the flexibility of my job and inflexibility of his, there was no question of who would manage DL. But DH does way more housework to compensate. And we’re doing way more takeout. And I’ve let go of my initial perfectionism about managing DL. We’re both working much longer days, and are tired, but hanging in there. So there are ways a DH can make a fair contribution, and women do need to insist on not doing simply everything. But it’s hard regardless and everyone needs to figure out the best way to preserve their well being.

Many times the only way to get a man to do his share is to force it. Don’t buy groceries. Don’t order toilet paper. Don’t watch the kids. Don’t schedule things. It’s amazing what they can do when they have to. Keep in mind all of these men likely managed their own life before their secretary/cook/cleaner/nanny moved in.

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Anonymous wrote:Ivanka has a job. And she has kids. And she has no qualifications. And she pays no taxes.

Why aren't more women like her?

she has always had full time nannies

And she has no qualifications for getting her job. Just like her dad!! And she pays no taxes. Does she pay for her full time nannies?

Anonymous wrote:I understand a single mom.

But no married woman should quit her job. I am married and will NOT be quitting. There is NO reason that woman should need to quit their jobs while men do not! Just say no, ladies. Is your husband going to quit his job to do housework and distance learning? Of course not. Women have to stop voluntarily sacrificing their careers and financial well-being when men do not.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm very close to quitting.
3 kids, 3 schools.
total craziness.

I've been working for 20 years straight and I'm sort of relishing the idea of a break. The income is not insignificant for us but neither is my sanity.

You had more kids than you can handle. Stop complaining.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm very close to quitting.
3 kids, 3 schools.
total craziness.

I've been working for 20 years straight and I'm sort of relishing the idea of a break. The income is not insignificant for us but neither is my sanity.

You had more kids than you can handle. Stop complaining.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ivanka has a job. And she has kids. And she has no qualifications. And she pays no taxes.

Why aren't more women like her?

she has always had full time nannies

Anonymous wrote:I'm very close to quitting.
3 kids, 3 schools.
total craziness.

I've been working for 20 years straight and I'm sort of relishing the idea of a break. The income is not insignificant for us but neither is my sanity.