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Anonymous wrote:I hate the whole breast is best push. If you don’t want to do it then don’t do it. Formula is just fine and won’t harm your kid. It is more money but outside of that it makes life so much easier all around. You can split the work with your partner and you can get back to being a person yourself. You can bond just as well with your child by giving them a bottle and snuggling as if they are biting your boob.0

Breast is best. That's why formula companies spend millions trying to make formula more similar to breast milk. A split in a household isnt 50/50each task. Like you and your husband dont each cleana toilet and then say ok you clean this half.of the kitchen and I'll do my half.
If you are breastfeeding and that's all on you then your partner needs to pick up things to do elsewhere.

It’s not true that breast is best. Very little to support that.

That is odd. I have actually never heard that. Everything I have read points to breast milk is better than formula.

My baby is almost 4 month and I hated at the beginning. I used nipple shields for a couple of weeks because my nipples hurt so bad. Now I like breast feeding because it’s so convenient for me, I just whip out my boob instead of having to get up to make formula. I no longer feel any type of pain. If it’s been 4 month and you still hate it just switch to formula.

Stop breastfeeding if you want to.

I hated it too. Once I started bottle formula feeding, I felt so much better which I am certain my baby could feel. We absolutely bonded more once I ditched nursing.

Op, do what you think will benefit your baby. For us, my misery was terrible for both of us.

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Anonymous wrote:It wasn’t a love-fest with me either but I kept going. It really does get easier. But, bottom line, there are sacrifices we make as mothers for our children. It’s just the way life is. Don’t expect to love every aspect of motherhood and you’ll be better off in the long run.

Worst. Advice. Ever.

I disagree. You’re saying there are no sacrifices we make as mothers? The PP wasn’t saying she hated breastfeeding and said it got easier.

No, I don’t think any mother should suffer (like OP) but just not loving something is not a reason to put yourself above your child. Who loves changing a poop diaper? Who loves reading the same book seven hundred times in one day? Who loves pretending to be the driver of the trash truck for hours?

I read the same book a couple of times and then insist on a different one. And I pretend to the be the trash truck for about 25 seconds and then we either do something else together, or my DD plays by herself or with her sister. Catering to your child's every whim is not the same as showing them they are loved.

True but jeez - giving the kid more than 25 seconds is taking action that indicates love. Can the kid at least get 5 minutes of your precious time?

Anonymous wrote:I said it and I feel relieved. I feel extremely guilty because I know it’s the best nutrition and I make more than enough for him to eat but I hate it. It has never made me feel closer or bond more with him. I actually feel more tied down and starting to resent it. Feedings take forever and I still have some pain issues because of my sensitive and flat nipples. He often wants to nurse just for comfort and I’m tired of being a human pacifier. I hate that I’m the only one who has to do the work at night. I hate that I have to pump while I will be at work. I just hate it. It has not been a magical thing that everyone has told me it would be. Can anyone else relate?

then don't

OP, switch to formula. Read "Crib sheet" by Emily Oster. The benefits are slim to none. According to studies, the vast majority of antibodies go from Mom to baby via bloodstream during pregnancy. Very small share goes via digestive tract during breastfeeding. I formula fed my baby from day 1 by choice, he is healthy, happy, and hitting all developmental milestones, now in his 2nd year. Do what works for you, don't let lactivists pressure or shame you.

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Anonymous wrote:How old is the baby? If it's been a week and you hate it, I might say give it a little longer. But there is no shame in stopping breastfeeding at any time. Formula is perfectly fine. Your health and happiness matter, too.

OP here. He is 4 months old.

OMG. There is no benefit after 3 or 4 months. Just switch to formula. You will not regret it!

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Anonymous wrote:I hate the whole breast is best push. If you don’t want to do it then don’t do it. Formula is just fine and won’t harm your kid. It is more money but outside of that it makes life so much easier all around. You can split the work with your partner and you can get back to being a person yourself. You can bond just as well with your child by giving them a bottle and snuggling as if they are biting your boob.0

Breast is best. That's why formula companies spend millions trying to make formula more similar to breast milk. A split in a household isnt 50/50each task. Like you and your husband dont each cleana toilet and then say ok you clean this half.of the kitchen and I'll do my half.
If you are breastfeeding and that's all on you then your partner needs to pick up things to do elsewhere.

It’s not true that breast is best. Very little to support that.

Im not talking about social pyscho compounding factors that make formula feeding easier or a better overall choice. Breast milk > formula. However, not everyone produces enough breastmilk. Some women dont have access to the funds or personnel to support issues encountered during breastfeeding. There are other factors that make formula more appealing like limited leave for parents causing anxiety, stress, and the need for pumping. Some women dont respond well to the pump. Some kids have allergies or GI issues that require amino acid or elemental formulas. Im in a group for a disorder where a lot of babies need formula due to medical reasons. Formula is an amazing choice to have since most women are uncomfortable with wet nurses and there is a long, sordid history with wet nurses in this country, but it is not equal to breastmilk. It is a substitute. It is also a highly marketed product worth millions of dollars.

Marginally. Not enough to make an argument out of it, even though it makes you feel better about yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:How old is the baby? If it's been a week and you hate it, I might say give it a little longer. But there is no shame in stopping breastfeeding at any time. Formula is perfectly fine. Your health and happiness matter, too.

OP here. He is 4 months old.

Quit. He'll be fine.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate the whole breast is best push. If you don’t want to do it then don’t do it. Formula is just fine and won’t harm your kid. It is more money but outside of that it makes life so much easier all around. You can split the work with your partner and you can get back to being a person yourself. You can bond just as well with your child by giving them a bottle and snuggling as if they are biting your boob.0

Breast is best. That's why formula companies spend millions trying to make formula more similar to breast milk. A split in a household isnt 50/50each task. Like you and your husband dont each cleana toilet and then say ok you clean this half.of the kitchen and I'll do my half.
If you are breastfeeding and that's all on you then your partner needs to pick up things to do elsewhere.

It’s not true that breast is best. Very little to support that.

Im not talking about social pyscho compounding factors that make formula feeding easier or a better overall choice. Breast milk > formula. However, not everyone produces enough breastmilk. Some women dont have access to the funds or personnel to support issues encountered during breastfeeding. There are other factors that make formula more appealing like limited leave for parents causing anxiety, stress, and the need for pumping. Some women dont respond well to the pump. Some kids have allergies or GI issues that require amino acid or elemental formulas. Im in a group for a disorder where a lot of babies need formula due to medical reasons. Formula is an amazing choice to have since most women are uncomfortable with wet nurses and there is a long, sordid history with wet nurses in this country, but it is not equal to breastmilk. It is a substitute. It is also a highly marketed product worth millions of dollars.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:It wasn’t a love-fest with me either but I kept going. It really does get easier. But, bottom line, there are sacrifices we make as mothers for our children. It’s just the way life is. Don’t expect to love every aspect of motherhood and you’ll be better off in the long run.

Worst. Advice. Ever.

I disagree. You’re saying there are no sacrifices we make as mothers? The PP wasn’t saying she hated breastfeeding and said it got easier.

No, I don’t think any mother should suffer (like OP) but just not loving something is not a reason to put yourself above your child. Who loves changing a poop diaper? Who loves reading the same book seven hundred times in one day? Who loves pretending to be the driver of the trash truck for hours?

I read the same book a couple of times and then insist on a different one. And I pretend to the be the trash truck for about 25 seconds and then we either do something else together, or my DD plays by herself or with her sister. Catering to your child's every whim is not the same as showing them they are loved.

NP. So you think there are no sacrifices in being a parent?

NP but I can't handle how stupid people are on this board. Where did PP say there are no sacrifices to being a parent? Jesus. Learn how to read.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn’t a love-fest with me either but I kept going. It really does get easier. But, bottom line, there are sacrifices we make as mothers for our children. It’s just the way life is. Don’t expect to love every aspect of motherhood and you’ll be better off in the long run.

Worst. Advice. Ever.

I disagree. You’re saying there are no sacrifices we make as mothers? The PP wasn’t saying she hated breastfeeding and said it got easier.

No, I don’t think any mother should suffer (like OP) but just not loving something is not a reason to put yourself above your child. Who loves changing a poop diaper? Who loves reading the same book seven hundred times in one day? Who loves pretending to be the driver of the trash truck for hours?

I read the same book a couple of times and then insist on a different one. And I pretend to the be the trash truck for about 25 seconds and then we either do something else together, or my DD plays by herself or with her sister. Catering to your child's every whim is not the same as showing them they are loved.

NP. So you think there are no sacrifices in being a parent?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn’t a love-fest with me either but I kept going. It really does get easier. But, bottom line, there are sacrifices we make as mothers for our children. It’s just the way life is. Don’t expect to love every aspect of motherhood and you’ll be better off in the long run.

Worst. Advice. Ever.

I disagree. You’re saying there are no sacrifices we make as mothers? The PP wasn’t saying she hated breastfeeding and said it got easier.

No, I don’t think any mother should suffer (like OP) but just not loving something is not a reason to put yourself above your child. Who loves changing a poop diaper? Who loves reading the same book seven hundred times in one day? Who loves pretending to be the driver of the trash truck for hours?

I read the same book a couple of times and then insist on a different one. And I pretend to the be the trash truck for about 25 seconds and then we either do something else together, or my DD plays by herself or with her sister. Catering to your child's every whim is not the same as showing them they are loved.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate the whole breast is best push. If you don’t want to do it then don’t do it. Formula is just fine and won’t harm your kid. It is more money but outside of that it makes life so much easier all around. You can split the work with your partner and you can get back to being a person yourself. You can bond just as well with your child by giving them a bottle and snuggling as if they are biting your boob.0

Breast is best. That's why formula companies spend millions trying to make formula more similar to breast milk. A split in a household isnt 50/50each task. Like you and your husband dont each cleana toilet and then say ok you clean this half.of the kitchen and I'll do my half.
If you are breastfeeding and that's all on you then your partner needs to pick up things to do elsewhere.

It’s not true that breast is best. Very little to support that.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn’t a love-fest with me either but I kept going. It really does get easier. But, bottom line, there are sacrifices we make as mothers for our children. It’s just the way life is. Don’t expect to love every aspect of motherhood and you’ll be better off in the long run.

Worst. Advice. Ever.

I disagree. You’re saying there are no sacrifices we make as mothers? The PP wasn’t saying she hated breastfeeding and said it got easier.

No, I don’t think any mother should suffer (like OP) but just not loving something is not a reason to put yourself above your child. Who loves changing a poop diaper? Who loves reading the same book seven hundred times in one day? Who loves pretending to be the driver of the trash truck for hours?

You’re missing the most important fact, which is that there is a perfectly good subsitute for breastfeeding that allows the “sacrifice”
to be distributed without regard to gender.