Anonymous
Post 09/05/2020 22:18     Subject: Re:Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a cousin who did what you are thinking of doing and her kid ended up in foster care because I am childfree and have no interest in raising any children. So you need to think carefully if something does happen.


That's really crummy you wouldn't take the kids.

Hopefully the kids went to a loving home.

But yeah she does seem like a selfish person
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2020 20:54     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
OP here, thanks for the feedback. As much as I would like another child (something I've wanted for a long time), I've come to terms that it's just not in the cards for me. I'm blessed to have a beautiful daughter. Again, thank you for the feedback.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2020 20:48     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Let me start by saying I’ve been divorced for 8 years. I have a 15 year old and I really want another child. My dating life is nonexistent so I’ve been considering having a baby on my own. I know it’s better to get married first, but I’ve been there, done that. Plus if I wait until I meet the right one, it may be too late. I’m almost 42 so I would like to have a baby with the next year or two. Am I crazy for considering this?


Are you crazy? I don't know but it is irresponsible to and stupid to have a child without a committed partner. Also, 42 is too old nomatter what anyone says.


Says who? I have two grandmothers who had kids in their 40s.


Says the child-woman who had a baby at 17 and is now a 33 year old grandmother herself.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2020 19:39     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:I think many (most? all?) of the PPs who are saying “go for it” skipped over the part where you have a 15yo already.

I have a teen and I totally understand the desire to go back to the period when you had a sweet little nugget who didn’t talk back. And I get that you’re staring down the empty nest years and looking for a project.

But seriously, just remodel the kitchen or get a puppy like everyone else. Your teen NEEDS you right now. She needs you present, rested, able to carpool and eavesdrop, able to listen whenever she starts talking (which will be at the most inconvenient times). She does not need to feel like she’s being replaced by a smaller, cuter model.

This is not a good idea for your family as a whole. Adopt a pet, volunteer, wait for grandchildren.


I find the idea of having children Just because someone wants a cute baby to be irrational. That baby is going to grow up and be one of those annoying teenagers everyone complains about on DCUM.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2020 14:17     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:This is a terrible idea. Everyone gets some kind of baby fever as they get close to menopause. It's hormonal, and it will pass. You'd be crazy to do this without a spouse or co-parent since you already have a child who needs you.

LOL my hormones told me to have another when my twins were 18 months. It passed thankfully.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2020 14:16     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
I think many (most? all?) of the PPs who are saying “go for it” skipped over the part where you have a 15yo already.

I have a teen and I totally understand the desire to go back to the period when you had a sweet little nugget who didn’t talk back. And I get that you’re staring down the empty nest years and looking for a project.

But seriously, just remodel the kitchen or get a puppy like everyone else. Your teen NEEDS you right now. She needs you present, rested, able to carpool and eavesdrop, able to listen whenever she starts talking (which will be at the most inconvenient times). She does not need to feel like she’s being replaced by a smaller, cuter model.

This is not a good idea for your family as a whole. Adopt a pet, volunteer, wait for grandchildren.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2020 14:09     Subject: Re:Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a cousin who did what you are thinking of doing and her kid ended up in foster care because I am childfree and have no interest in raising any children. So you need to think carefully if something does happen.


That's really crummy you wouldn't take the kids.


It was crummy for the idiot woman to have a baby, then not want it and expect her relative to take it. Just because you can have babies doesn't mean that you should.


It sounds like the cousin died. Sheesh.


A child has two parents. Why do men get away with crap and other women have to bear the brunt of their choice to f@#?
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2020 14:06     Subject: Re:Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a cousin who did what you are thinking of doing and her kid ended up in foster care because I am childfree and have no interest in raising any children. So you need to think carefully if something does happen.


That's really crummy you wouldn't take the kids.


+1
Awful person


I’m a crummy person because I don’t want to be saddled with 2 kids under 5 who were going to be foisted on me just because of shared DNA? What about their deadbeat dads? I wasn’t responsible for their existence. I’m the daughter of a single deadbeat mom myself and I just don’t have rose tinted glasses on. I dealt with my own s*** and never gave anyone else issues. As I told my cousin, it’s easy to make children but not easy to care for them. I know that first hand but she was dumb and got involved with no-Gooder types and went downhill from there. Not my circus, not my monkeys.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2020 13:49     Subject: Re:Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a cousin who did what you are thinking of doing and her kid ended up in foster care because I am childfree and have no interest in raising any children. So you need to think carefully if something does happen.


That's really crummy you wouldn't take the kids.


It was crummy for the idiot woman to have a baby, then not want it and expect her relative to take it. Just because you can have babies doesn't mean that you should.


It sounds like the cousin died. Sheesh.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2020 13:17     Subject: Re:Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a cousin who did what you are thinking of doing and her kid ended up in foster care because I am childfree and have no interest in raising any children. So you need to think carefully if something does happen.


That's really crummy you wouldn't take the kids.


It was crummy for the idiot woman to have a baby, then not want it and expect her relative to take it. Just because you can have babies doesn't mean that you should.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2020 20:07     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
I was 41 when i adopted as a single mom. My experience was/is so wonderful my 39-year old sister gave birth as a single mom too, 3 years after me. My parents are thrilled with their unexpected grandchildren.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2020 20:05     Subject: Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
You people are nuts. It's is all on you when you decide to reproduce. Don't think others will become responsible for your kids if something happens to you. Isn't that in your legal papers anyways even before you give birth?
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2020 19:52     Subject: Re:Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a cousin who did what you are thinking of doing and her kid ended up in foster care because I am childfree and have no interest in raising any children. So you need to think carefully if something does happen.


That's really crummy you wouldn't take the kids.


+1
Awful person
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2020 19:49     Subject: Re:Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a cousin who did what you are thinking of doing and her kid ended up in foster care because I am childfree and have no interest in raising any children. So you need to think carefully if something does happen.


That's really crummy you wouldn't take the kids.


NP: It's crummy to have kids when the only person you know who could take care of them doesn't want kids.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2020 19:16     Subject: Re:Single mom by choice-Am I crazy?
Anonymous wrote:I have a cousin who did what you are thinking of doing and her kid ended up in foster care because I am childfree and have no interest in raising any children. So you need to think carefully if something does happen.


That's really crummy you wouldn't take the kids.