Anonymous wrote:..also, her parents should know. She could have a UTI.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand all the “say nothings.” I would definitely want to know if one of my kids had a substantial accident all over someone’s couch.

Same! "Hi, Julia's had two accidents at my house this week. Since I'm sure you deal with this often, do you have any suggestions for my couch? Also, do you want to send some pull-ups she can wear while she's here, or ... what has your ped or the urologist said is the best way to handle this?"

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Ugh, no. That sounds completelty obnoxious. Just remind her to use the bathroom or keep her on hard surfaces or outside. This shouldn't be that big of a deal.

Anonymous wrote:I have a child who still accidents past the age of 6. First, while a small percentage, this issue is more common than you realize. So the posters who are being rude have no idea. The mom gave a warning, so clearly she is aware. We have taken my child to many specialists, who do not want her back in pullups. It is harder to have the awareness of being wet or dry when in a pull up. There are entire clinics at some of the big hospitals dedicated to this exact issue. For some children, the issue does not resolve until puberty, as a pp said. The child did not say anything because they were either too embarrassed ( a common reaction for kids like this) or with small accidents they really are sometimes unaware (neurologically the need to go and fact they went does not always register- also not uncommon for someone who has accidents past age 5).

As a parent of a child like this, I probably would not have started a pod without giving the host mom more guidance. However, shaming the child or talking to the parent like they have no idea is not right either. Your options, OP, are you can either say nothing, but since you are starting a pod this may happen again. Or, you can say "Larla had an accident our house the other day. I know you had mentioned this happens sometimes. Since we will be spending a lot of time together in this Pod, do you have any suggestions of what I can do help? I am happy to give bathroom reminders every so often or keep a change of clothes for her at our house." Both the girl and the mom are probably already feeling badly about this issue in general.

I want to emphasize- This issue is not one of bad parenting or a kid who is "not potty trained" or being bad. More kids than you realize really do have this issue. I have literally cried over this with my child and done everything I possibly can, but I still have a 9 year old with accidents.

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Anonymous wrote:Since you've formed a pod, let them know. Don't make a big deal about it,she is six. But they should know if she got excited or anxious and lost control.

I’m with you. Since this little girl is going to be in your life daily, kindly ask her parents what is the best way to handle. Maybe she just needs reminding till she outgrows it. Obviously don’t talk to the girl or embarrass her, but get some guidance from her parents.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say anything. I don’t see the point.

Honestly has your couch never been peed on or puked on before? Just clean it and air out the room.

Next time the girl is over (if you have her again- your choice of course) remind her to use the restroom regularly.

Just the type of stuff that happens with small kids IMO

NP here. I have two kids ages 9 and 12, and neither of them has ever peed or puked on a couch. I don't think this is that unusual. I cannot believe that a) a six year old peed on a couch and b) said nothing to anyone. Appalling.

Mom of 3 and I agree that this is pretty strange. No pee or puke on couches here.

Same here. I have 3 young children, so I’m no stranger to cleaning up messes. That said, I cannot believe someone would get to the point where pee and puke on a couch is considered normal? That’s bizarre.

My oldest child is 5 years. She has never peed on my couch and neither have any of her friends. I can’t imagine a situation where a kid makes that big of a mess and doesn’t tell anyone. This is basic hygiene!!!

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand all the “say nothings.” I would definitely want to know if one of my kids had a substantial accident all over someone’s couch.

Same! "Hi, Julia's had two accidents at my house this week. Since I'm sure you deal with this often, do you have any suggestions for my couch? Also, do you want to send some pull-ups she can wear while she's here, or ... what has your ped or the urologist said is the best way to handle this?"

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say anything. I don’t see the point.

Honestly has your couch never been peed on or puked on before? Just clean it and air out the room.

Next time the girl is over (if you have her again- your choice of course) remind her to use the restroom regularly.

Just the type of stuff that happens with small kids IMO

NP here. I have two kids ages 9 and 12, and neither of them has ever peed or puked on a couch. I don't think this is that unusual. I cannot believe that a) a six year old peed on a couch and b) said nothing to anyone. Appalling.

Mom of 3 and I agree that this is pretty strange. No pee or puke on couches here.

Same here. I have 3 young children, so I’m no stranger to cleaning up messes. That said, I cannot believe someone would get to the point where pee and puke on a couch is considered normal? That’s bizarre.

My oldest child is 5 years. She has never peed on my couch and neither have any of her friends. I can’t imagine a situation where a kid makes that big of a mess and doesn’t tell anyone. This is basic hygiene!!!

You can't imagine a situation? How about because she's 6 and mortified because she knows it's not age-approriate. Judging by some of the reactions here she would be valid in that thinking. For the love of God, people want her to go back to diapers (pull ups)??

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If a 6 year old makes a huge mess at someone’s house the age appropriate thing to do is to tell an adult. Really.

This girl did two things that are completely age inappropriate. First was peeing on the couch. Second was not telling anyone and getting help.

To be that says she’s so used to peeing herself that it didn’t even register as something big. Even my 3 year old understands that he needs to tell a grown up when he has an accident AND he notices that he’s become soiled and wants clean clothes. This girl is 6 and she either didn’t notice or didn’t care that she was soiled. This is a huge red flag. I would be very weary of hosting this girl inside my house.

Wary. The word you want is wary. Weary = tired. Wary = cautious about potential danger/problem

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If a 6 year old makes a huge mess at someone’s house the age appropriate thing to do is to tell an adult. Really.

This girl did two things that are completely age inappropriate. First was peeing on the couch. Second was not telling anyone and getting help.

To be that says she’s so used to peeing herself that it didn’t even register as something big. Even my 3 year old understands that he needs to tell a grown up when he has an accident AND he notices that he’s become soiled and wants clean clothes. This girl is 6 and she either didn’t notice or didn’t care that she was soiled. This is a huge red flag. I would be very weary of hosting this girl inside my house.