Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 12:21     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sincere question: why does anyone care how another person expresses their feelings? If you're happy with the way you express your feelings toward your spouse that's great. Why would it matter to you how another person chooses to express their feelings? It has no impact on you unless you let it. Why look at it? Why spend time on it? Let them do whatever it is you think is wrong/stupid/silly and just concentrate on your own behavior.


It rubs people the wrong way when others put on fake or grandiose public displays in a bid for attention and accolades.


My question stands. If it rubs you the wrong way why look at it/spend time on it? Wouldn't you rather avoid it?
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 12:16     Subject: Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There is one couple in my social circle that always leaves gushy comments on each other's posts not even related to the relationship and I find it so, so weird.

Think: She posts news of job promotion; he posts paragraph comment saying how talented she is and how hard she works and how amazing she is etc.

There is something so ... off about it that I am wondering what it wrong with them or the wrong in the relationship.


That sounds kind. You sound off.


LOL sounds like I hit a nerve.

A kind, secure, happy husband would just take you out to dinner to celebrate.

A husband who needs other people to see him drum you up on social media is selling something to other people -- or to you. Best of luck with that.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 12:11     Subject: Gushing about spouse on FB
the #mcm and #wcw spouses...ugh.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 12:10     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sincere question: why does anyone care how another person expresses their feelings? If you're happy with the way you express your feelings toward your spouse that's great. Why would it matter to you how another person chooses to express their feelings? It has no impact on you unless you let it. Why look at it? Why spend time on it? Let them do whatever it is you think is wrong/stupid/silly and just concentrate on your own behavior.

Or if you find it so appalling then unfollow them hell block them even. If they ask why be honest and say you’re too mushy over your spouse. They deserve to know what an asshole you are.


The person in question was gushing about her husband on social media but he isn't even ON social media. So she isn't expressing her feelings toward her spouse at all. You don't find that ... off?
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 12:10     Subject: Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:There is one couple in my social circle that always leaves gushy comments on each other's posts not even related to the relationship and I find it so, so weird.

Think: She posts news of job promotion; he posts paragraph comment saying how talented she is and how hard she works and how amazing she is etc.

There is something so ... off about it that I am wondering what it wrong with them or the wrong in the relationship.


That sounds kind. You sound off.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 12:08     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve been married 12.5 years, with my DH 22 years. I’d be really shocked if he’s cheated (obviously possible but seems very doubtful). We have young kids and plenty of stresses (eg he’s currently job hunting). He’s very anti social media and anti having his picture taken. Even so I write notes about him on our wedding anniversary, the anniversary of our first date and occasionally for other reasons. For instance, last year he watched the kids while I flew to my aunt’s funeral and I really appreciated that. At this point if I didn’t post about him occasionally I think my siblings in-law and his parents might wonder why - they’re the main audience who react to nice things I say about him. I agree the frequent posts are over the top. One of my friends now and then has “oh my! My husband is the most amazing man ever” and it’s a running joke because it’s always when she leaves her phone lying around and he posts it as a joke.


Top three saddest things I've ever read on this site. The bar cannot go any lower.


OMG, Yes, I agree. Isn't this just SOP????
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 11:59     Subject: Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:My first thought is always, “why are you talking to your spouse through social media? Isn’t he sitting right next to you?” It’s weird that you need to share your private relationship thoughts with everyone you know.


Yes! This!!
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 11:51     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:Sincere question: why does anyone care how another person expresses their feelings? If you're happy with the way you express your feelings toward your spouse that's great. Why would it matter to you how another person chooses to express their feelings? It has no impact on you unless you let it. Why look at it? Why spend time on it? Let them do whatever it is you think is wrong/stupid/silly and just concentrate on your own behavior.


It rubs people the wrong way when others put on fake or grandiose public displays in a bid for attention and accolades.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 11:17     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:have two friends that gush over their husbands constantly and both have awful relationships. Social media is just a way for people to cover up the real crap going on in their lives that nobody cares about.


Unfollow them instead of unfriending them. You won't have to see their gushing that you don't care about and they won't know that you've unfollowed them so there will be no hard feelings. Easy peasy.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 11:11     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
You know 2 people who gush about their spouse, but have a sh*tty relationship, therefore, everyone who does, must too? Get over yourself.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 10:41     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
have two friends that gush over their husbands constantly and both have awful relationships. Social media is just a way for people to cover up the real crap going on in their lives that nobody cares about.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 10:18     Subject: Gushing about spouse on FB
I try to look on the bright side. Sometimes people do things that thankfully raise such red flags that you can just avoid getting to close to them. Gushing over spouse on social media, having kids whose names rhyme with Brayden, etc. You just snooze or unfollow them and then make note to not get in too deep personally.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 10:01     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
Anonymous wrote:Sincere question: why does anyone care how another person expresses their feelings? If you're happy with the way you express your feelings toward your spouse that's great. Why would it matter to you how another person chooses to express their feelings? It has no impact on you unless you let it. Why look at it? Why spend time on it? Let them do whatever it is you think is wrong/stupid/silly and just concentrate on your own behavior.

Or if you find it so appalling then unfollow them hell block them even. If they ask why be honest and say you’re too mushy over your spouse. They deserve to know what an asshole you are.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 09:40     Subject: Gushing about spouse on FB
There is one couple in my social circle that always leaves gushy comments on each other's posts not even related to the relationship and I find it so, so weird.

Think: She posts news of job promotion; he posts paragraph comment saying how talented she is and how hard she works and how amazing she is etc.

There is something so ... off about it that I am wondering what it wrong with them or the wrong in the relationship.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 09:40     Subject: Re:Gushing about spouse on FB
Sincere question: why does anyone care how another person expresses their feelings? If you're happy with the way you express your feelings toward your spouse that's great. Why would it matter to you how another person chooses to express their feelings? It has no impact on you unless you let it. Why look at it? Why spend time on it? Let them do whatever it is you think is wrong/stupid/silly and just concentrate on your own behavior.