Anonymous wrote:Better looking younger people of all races get treated better. Now that I am middle age with dad bod I am mistreated everywhere.

I went from at 27 seeing a Trendy club with long line walking straight in and getting comped.

At 34 I had to wait in line and pay the cover

At 45 on business trip decided to go to Club was told get off line you ain’t getting in.

At 55 they threw some nickels in my coffee cup as thought I was homeless if out that late.

People in retail or clubs profile and not always race. Ugly Lives Matter and Old Lives Matter is also a thing

I am white and obese. I have struggled with my weight most of my adult life and am finally just recently starting to lose some pounds. It is a struggle every single day. I understand how awful I look and how unhealthy I am. What I am also used to is how people look at me and treat me with such disdain and disgust. To be treated that way is normal for me.

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Anonymous wrote:I got pulled over on a empty dark stretch of road and the cop pulled his gun on me. I didn't get shot or even a ticket - I didn't do anything wrong and the cop gave no reason. But if I was black it likely could have been ugly.

That sounds pretty ugly to me.

Yeah fail to see the privilege here, that’s just horrifying

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Anonymous wrote:It really freaks me out as a POC when I see white people open packages and eat things or give things to their kids to eat or to play with in stores BEFORE they pay for them. Doing that could so easily get me arrested.

I’m white and those people disgust me too and they should be arrested.

Only if they try to leave without paying for what was consumed.

I'm white and those people disgust me too, and I also think that someone should speak to them about theft. It's basic decency that you don't use/open/consume things until you pay for them. It's also basic decency that you don't walk around a store with your fingers in some food, licking your fingers and touching things (even if it's 'just' the shopping cart) while you're eating. Other people have food allergies and they also don't want people putting grubbing, greasy and/or sticky fingerprints all over items for purchase or store fixtures/fittings.

It's a class issue. You can't buy class.

It's a class issue in that only people from the entitled class would dare to do it, other entitled Karens aside.

Anonymous wrote:I got pulled over on a empty dark stretch of road and the cop pulled his gun on me. I didn't get shot or even a ticket - I didn't do anything wrong and the cop gave no reason. But if I was black it likely could have been ugly.

That sounds pretty ugly to me.

Anonymous wrote:The receipt thing for me, too. Also, walking in with returns and not worrying about whether someone would think I had stolen it that day. DH is Latino and he helped me see this stuff. We joke about it between ourselves--he points out I strut around with all the confidence of a white lady.

Really? I am always worried about that.

Anonymous wrote:Mine is similar -- I've brought my own shopping bag into stores, strolled around putting a few groceries in it, and then gone to the checkout and emptied it onto the conveyor belt. Just to avoid dragging around a basket.

Pure white privilege. I've stopped doing it.

What the heck is wrong with that?

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Anonymous wrote:Mine is similar -- I've brought my own shopping bag into stores, strolled around putting a few groceries in it, and then gone to the checkout and emptied it onto the conveyor belt. Just to avoid dragging around a basket.

Pure white privilege. I've stopped doing it.

I do that too and I am asian

NP. I never do that. I’d be scared of someone accusing me of stealing.

- white woman

Another white woman who would never do that because it looks like stealing.

I have done it only recently because of covid 19, I don’t want my few items to touch the basket/shopping cart

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I understand the point of this thread but there have been many, many times that I've been treated better than the people around me, including white people.

I've had some horrible experiences with police officers. Most of my interactions with them have been overwhelming positive though.

I just don't like the way this thread portrays poc as completely victimized 100% of time.

But, of course you’ve noticed that you’re the ONLY one who has posted using or even suggesting anything at all “100% of the time — let alone victimization. You “just don’t like” other people recounting their own experiences? That’s.... interesting.

^ Oops it was Justine Damond. She called police twice to report what she thought was a crime and then was shot by the responding officer. No "white privilege" for her!

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Anonymous wrote:On the bus. Older black men will let me get on before them, and they will offer me a seat.

All of the black men I know are exceedingly polite and considerate to me, a white woman.

I’ve also noticed this and it makes me uncomfortable that they are so deferential. I feel like I’m unwillingly participating in some ugly legacy that has taught them to fear white women.

It really stands out because the average white guy is so rude.

Better looking younger people of all races get treated better. Now that I am middle age with dad bod I am mistreated everywhere.

I went from at 27 seeing a Trendy club with long line walking straight in and getting comped.

At 34 I had to wait in line and pay the cover

At 45 on business trip decided to go to Club was told get off line you ain’t getting in.

At 55 they threw some nickels in my coffee cup as thought I was homeless if out that late.

People in retail or clubs profile and not always race. Ugly Lives Matter and Old Lives Matter is also a thing

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I understand the point of this thread but there have been many, many times that I've been treated better than the people around me, including white people.

I've had some horrible experiences with police officers. Most of my interactions with them have been overwhelming positive though.

I just don't like the way this thread portrays poc as completely victimized 100% of time.

I've had horrible experiences with police officers too. In fact, I think half of my interaction with officers has been pretty unpleasant. And I volunteer in the community.

I'd love to know where all these people live who get off speeding tickets because they're white. I'm a decently attractive white woman. I've only had a couple of speeding tickets in my life but never got off with just a warning even though I was very polite and there's absolutely nothing sketchy in my background.

Justine Hammond was a white, blonde woman with no criminal record who was shot on sight by a police officer. Nobody is safe and it is incredibly frustrating to have people imply otherwise.

I’m white and remember being falsely accused by a grocery store manager of stealing cigarettes. I was just standing near the cigarettes and he demanded that I open my bag. He didn’t apologize when he saw I hadn’t stolen— just told me to leave his store. Guess my white privilege failed me that day.

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Anonymous wrote:It really freaks me out as a POC when I see white people open packages and eat things or give things to their kids to eat or to play with in stores BEFORE they pay for them. Doing that could so easily get me arrested.

I’m white and those people disgust me too and they should be arrested.

Only if they try to leave without paying for what was consumed.

I'm white and those people disgust me too, and I also think that someone should speak to them about theft. It's basic decency that you don't use/open/consume things until you pay for them. It's also basic decency that you don't walk around a store with your fingers in some food, licking your fingers and touching things (even if it's 'just' the shopping cart) while you're eating. Other people have food allergies and they also don't want people putting grubbing, greasy and/or sticky fingerprints all over items for purchase or store fixtures/fittings.

It's a class issue. You can't buy class.

Wow. I understand the point of this thread but there have been many, many times that I've been treated better than the people around me, including white people.

I've had some horrible experiences with police officers. Most of my interactions with them have been overwhelming positive though.

I just don't like the way this thread portrays poc as completely victimized 100% of time.