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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure mine is 'that kid.' He's 'that kid' when I'm trying to work with him, too. His being 'that kid' is part of the reason he got his ADHD diagnosis and is on meds. But, I still need to do my job, so I still need the teacher to deal with it.

My kid is also ADHD and I have compassion but it's my job as a parent to help him not be that kid. The teacher can't "deal with it" when they are not even in the same class room. What can the teacher do aside from muting and emailing me, when I'll have to deal with him anyway.

Yah, he's silly. I tell him not to be silly. However, I am not going to sit next to him through every call (which is probably what would be required to keep him properly still and seated and focused) because I have a job that is essential, and by the way, involves getting food & services out for people who need them more than ever right now. I am perfectly fine with the teacher muting him or whatever else she needs to do to minimize distractions. In fact, this system may even be helpful since presumably he's less able to distract his neighbors and less distracted by his neighbors. She can tell me he's a problem and I will reiterate to him that he shouldn't be silly (which of course he already knows), but the answer that OP advocates that I sit next to him isn't reasonable and isn't happening. Sorry.

You suck as a parent

No here—I disagree. What the heck else is she supposed to do? I got fired so I’m home with my kids and I can sit next to my distractible son and remind him to stop talking up so much, but he still forgets. It’s hard for me and the op is trying to work an essential job! Congrats on having such an easy kid. I have one of those too, is it all because of me? No. It’s her personality. Bravo to those trying to work and help their kids to school at the same time. It is not easy.

+1 Some people don't seem to realize that there are all kinds of people in the world. If you have multiple children, then you likely have multiple different TYPES of children, as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the best way to deal with these kids/parents is to forbid your kids from being friends with them or doing things with them outside school. Most of these defensive parents are the type who are super offended if someone suggests that little Larlo is a bad influence and won't be allowed to play with the other kids, so you might need to work it from that angle because it's the only thing they seem to understand.

It always surprises me how little insight teachers -- and apparently parents -- have into what makes kids tick. Give these kids some extra responsibility or otherwise utilize the extra zest they have in spades. Why punish a kid? The school's job is to teach them, and reach them. The only happy outcome of punishing is for sadists.

Please tell me this is sarcasm. Please!

No, it's not. There just aren't that many gifted teachers out there. We've had some, so I know they exist. Some teachers know how to work magic on kids like this -- some don't give a shit about them.

So every disruptive kid is just craving to be a helper and most teachers can’t see that? Riiiiight.

No. Some teachers have a few tricks up their sleeves, and know how to reach a variety of personalities. Some don't. I've seen both.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the best way to deal with these kids/parents is to forbid your kids from being friends with them or doing things with them outside school. Most of these defensive parents are the type who are super offended if someone suggests that little Larlo is a bad influence and won't be allowed to play with the other kids, so you might need to work it from that angle because it's the only thing they seem to understand.

It always surprises me how little insight teachers -- and apparently parents -- have into what makes kids tick. Give these kids some extra responsibility or otherwise utilize the extra zest they have in spades. Why punish a kid? The school's job is to teach them, and reach them. The only happy outcome of punishing is for sadists.

Please tell me this is sarcasm. Please!

No, it's not. There just aren't that many gifted teachers out there. We've had some, so I know they exist. Some teachers know how to work magic on kids like this -- some don't give a shit about them.

So every disruptive kid is just craving to be a helper and most teachers can’t see that? Riiiiight.

No. Some teachers have a few tricks up their sleeves, and know how to reach a variety of personalities. Some don't. I've seen both.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is the exact reason parents should not volunteer in the classroom.

Apparently sleeping in and shrugging your shoulders at your disruptive kids and letting the teachers deal with it, is the new cool mom that DCUM wants to be.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure mine is 'that kid.' He's 'that kid' when I'm trying to work with him, too. His being 'that kid' is part of the reason he got his ADHD diagnosis and is on meds. But, I still need to do my job, so I still need the teacher to deal with it.

My kid is also ADHD and I have compassion but it's my job as a parent to help him not be that kid. The teacher can't "deal with it" when they are not even in the same class room. What can the teacher do aside from muting and emailing me, when I'll have to deal with him anyway.

Yah, he's silly. I tell him not to be silly. However, I am not going to sit next to him through every call (which is probably what would be required to keep him properly still and seated and focused) because I have a job that is essential, and by the way, involves getting food & services out for people who need them more than ever right now. I am perfectly fine with the teacher muting him or whatever else she needs to do to minimize distractions. In fact, this system may even be helpful since presumably he's less able to distract his neighbors and less distracted by his neighbors. She can tell me he's a problem and I will reiterate to him that he shouldn't be silly (which of course he already knows), but the answer that OP advocates that I sit next to him isn't reasonable and isn't happening. Sorry.

You suck as a parent

No here—I disagree. What the heck else is she supposed to do? I got fired so I’m home with my kids and I can sit next to my distractible son and remind him to stop talking up so much, but he still forgets. It’s hard for me and the op is trying to work an essential job! Congrats on having such an easy kid. I have one of those too, is it all because of me? No. It’s her personality. Bravo to those trying to work and help their kids to school at the same time. It is not easy.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the best way to deal with these kids/parents is to forbid your kids from being friends with them or doing things with them outside school. Most of these defensive parents are the type who are super offended if someone suggests that little Larlo is a bad influence and won't be allowed to play with the other kids, so you might need to work it from that angle because it's the only thing they seem to understand.

It always surprises me how little insight teachers -- and apparently parents -- have into what makes kids tick. Give these kids some extra responsibility or otherwise utilize the extra zest they have in spades. Why punish a kid? The school's job is to teach them, and reach them. The only happy outcome of punishing is for sadists.

Please tell me this is sarcasm. Please!

No, it's not. There just aren't that many gifted teachers out there. We've had some, so I know they exist. Some teachers know how to work magic on kids like this -- some don't give a shit about them.

So every disruptive kid is just craving to be a helper and most teachers can’t see that? Riiiiight.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure mine is 'that kid.' He's 'that kid' when I'm trying to work with him, too. His being 'that kid' is part of the reason he got his ADHD diagnosis and is on meds. But, I still need to do my job, so I still need the teacher to deal with it.

My kid is also ADHD and I have compassion but it's my job as a parent to help him not be that kid. The teacher can't "deal with it" when they are not even in the same class room. What can the teacher do aside from muting and emailing me, when I'll have to deal with him anyway.

Yah, he's silly. I tell him not to be silly. However, I am not going to sit next to him through every call (which is probably what would be required to keep him properly still and seated and focused) because I have a job that is essential, and by the way, involves getting food & services out for people who need them more than ever right now. I am perfectly fine with the teacher muting him or whatever else she needs to do to minimize distractions. In fact, this system may even be helpful since presumably he's less able to distract his neighbors and less distracted by his neighbors. She can tell me he's a problem and I will reiterate to him that he shouldn't be silly (which of course he already knows), but the answer that OP advocates that I sit next to him isn't reasonable and isn't happening. Sorry.

You suck as a parent

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the best way to deal with these kids/parents is to forbid your kids from being friends with them or doing things with them outside school. Most of these defensive parents are the type who are super offended if someone suggests that little Larlo is a bad influence and won't be allowed to play with the other kids, so you might need to work it from that angle because it's the only thing they seem to understand.

It always surprises me how little insight teachers -- and apparently parents -- have into what makes kids tick. Give these kids some extra responsibility or otherwise utilize the extra zest they have in spades. Why punish a kid? The school's job is to teach them, and reach them. The only happy outcome of punishing is for sadists.

Anonymous wrote:OP is the exact reason parents should not volunteer in the classroom.

Anonymous wrote:OP is the exact reason parents should not volunteer in the classroom.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the best way to deal with these kids/parents is to forbid your kids from being friends with them or doing things with them outside school. Most of these defensive parents are the type who are super offended if someone suggests that little Larlo is a bad influence and won't be allowed to play with the other kids, so you might need to work it from that angle because it's the only thing they seem to understand.

It always surprises me how little insight teachers -- and apparently parents -- have into what makes kids tick. Give these kids some extra responsibility or otherwise utilize the extra zest they have in spades. Why punish a kid? The school's job is to teach them, and reach them. The only happy outcome of punishing is for sadists.

Please tell me this is sarcasm. Please!

No, it's not. There just aren't that many gifted teachers out there. We've had some, so I know they exist. Some teachers know how to work magic on kids like this -- some don't give a shit about them.