HI all. OP here. thanks to everyone who weighed in on this situation over the past several months. I found most of the input to be very helpful.
As promised, I said I'd post on my experience.
My son was born August 9th (Monday) at Sibley. He was 39.5 weeks along. The delivery went very smoothly, and was really not bad at all (other than I just felt scared about the whole thing). But the surgery itself was cake. (WAY easier than labor!). He was born healthy and screaming his lungs out, and has not had any complications. We came home from the hospital on Thursday.
The bottom line for me? I made the right decision (for me), and it all worked out. I'm really glad I did the CS, as, IMO, the recovery (although tough this first week) is in many ways easier than my previous tailbone recoveries. Being able to sit is HUGE. I can nurse the baby. I can hold the baby. I can stand up and sit down and stand up and sit down again.
I think I had slightly unrealistic expectations about how easy the C/S would be. As my mom says, even with all the medical improvements, it is still "major abdominal surgery". I was able to keep my pain under control quite nicely as long as I took the pain pills. I tried to wean myself off the percoset on day2, and that was a mistake. But now I'm down to 2 per day, and 4 600 mg Motrin. I have noticed that I feel better each day when I wake up.
The flip side to the C/S, is that while I can sit... I had a hard time laying down when I got home. That made me less able to take quick cat naps as needed. The trouble is actually laying down, and getting up. I didn't know this, and maybe its not true for everyone... but for me, I absolutely Cannot lay on my side. It pulls on the incision and hurts a lot (although, I think I'll be able to do that in another 4-5 days?). So, you have to sit in bed, and then to STRAIGHT back... of course, this engages your ab muscles at about 45 degrees, which is no good either! So, the hospital bed was a real blessing in that regard. The first night home, I had to get my husband to hoist me up and down, and once i was down, I was kind of stuck. I have now figured out that its easier to prop myself up on 4 pillows and sleep only halfway back. And I can get up and down by myself. So it's getting easier.
So, for me, the primary benefits of the C/S were:
1) NO BROKEN TAILBONE! YIPPEE!
2) Still had healthy bouncing baby boy
3) No hemmoroids, ouchy perineum, or incontinence issues
4) It is MUCH easier to nurse/pump/etc. when you can sit. God bless sitting.
5) I think I will feel pretty good by 2 weeks... so while the first week or so seems a bit harder in some respects... I think the long term recovery will be much easier.
Primary drawbacks are:
1) No picking up heavy things (including my 4 and 5 year olds) for the next 6 weeks
2) Rule number one makes it hard to get laundry/etc. done, which is tough when you have 2 active preschoolers and a new baby.
3) Felt more tired for a few days longer (still feel a bit more tired), but I think in the next week, I'll feel pretty good.
4) No driving for 2 weeks (have to rely on hubby to do grocery shopping, etc.)
5) scar-- which I was really worried about, will probably be a non-issue. It looks pretty darn small and thin, but I guess only time will tell.
6) somewhat harder to lay down/sleep in the short term
I'm not going to tell anyone what to do, but this was my experience. To some extent, I realize I played the (pretty good) odds, and everything went as expected/hoped for. I'm sure that doesn't happen every time. Plus, I think a big factor that can only be determined by the individual, is HOW bad the tailbone problems are for YOU, and, based on your age/risk/etc., what is your BEST GUESS as to what your recovery time from a C/S will be?
I hope my story will be at least one helpful anecdote that may shed some light on that decision for other moms.
Thanks again for all your input everyone. If I'm not too busy, I may try to post back in another 2 weeks or so with an update.