Anonymous
03/03/2020 21:05
Subject: Re:Boyfriend told me that I smell.
I would not want to have sex with someone who smelled either. I tell DH to shower if he stinks. I don’t think this is a dealbreaker.
I had a friend who was told her privates stunk. It really hurt her feelings. I would have just showered before the deed.
I had a friend who was told her privates stunk. It really hurt her feelings. I would have just showered before the deed.
Anonymous
03/03/2020 19:37
Subject: Boyfriend told me that I smell.
Anonymous wrote:If this is a new relationship as you say, then this guy is too much of a coward to end it himself. He’s giving you an out as this is pretty much the ultimate insult. DTMF ASAP
You could follow this option alternatively, and would be well within your right.
Anonymous
03/03/2020 19:36
Subject: Boyfriend told me that I smell.
Anonymous wrote:We still don't really know what happened. OP is aware she has a smell issue, and her bf has so far been with her and has to be aware, too.
There is a huge difference between the BF saying "You stink and are gross and I can't be with you" versus "I can't [x] because there is a smell."
How did he handle the issue? That's what counts.
If she was shaming of you, OP, that tells you what you need to know about him.
But if he was just direct and he set a limit, as much as it hurts, that is different. It could be that he is a keeper--he has been with you even though there is a smell problem. He may really love you! He's put up with it when he can. But he can't really be expected never to be bothered. Maybe it was super bad that day. Would you rather be alone or dumped?
OP, here is wisdom. No preference of being alone/dumped should matter. But the info prior is gold. You want someone comfortable enough being honest. And are you comfortable to be honest with him? Good luck.
Anonymous
03/03/2020 19:21
Subject: Boyfriend told me that I smell.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why is this happening now if you've been dating for months?
Because lust blinds all our senses the first few months.!! Geez no brainer.
List for someone he thinks smells unbearable? For months vs one night? Uh, ok.
Anonymous
03/03/2020 19:19
Subject: Boyfriend told me that I smell.
Anonymous wrote:Why is this happening now if you've been dating for months?
Because lust blinds all our senses the first few months.!! Geez no brainer.
Anonymous
03/03/2020 14:19
Subject: Boyfriend told me that I smell.
Dump him. And see a doctor. It sounds like you have a lot of health issues that could get worse.
Anonymous
03/03/2020 13:52
Subject: Boyfriend told me that I smell.
If this is a new relationship as you say, then this guy is too much of a coward to end it himself. He’s giving you an out as this is pretty much the ultimate insult. DTMF ASAP
Anonymous
03/03/2020 13:23
Subject: Boyfriend told me that I smell.
Why is this happening now if you've been dating for months?
Anonymous
03/03/2020 13:18
Subject: Boyfriend told me that I smell.
Is it just your breath?
As a guy, if this was the only issue, I would just use it as an excuse to go down on you a lot more.
As a guy, if this was the only issue, I would just use it as an excuse to go down on you a lot more.
Anonymous
03/03/2020 12:07
Subject: Boyfriend told me that I smell.
Anonymous wrote:Until you get to the root of the problem (in case it takes awhile), could you try swimming? The long periods of time in chlorine may clear out some odors and would leave a chlorine scent behind.
Yes, by all means, bleach your backside . . .
Anonymous
03/03/2020 10:45
Subject: Boyfriend told me that I smell.
Anonymous wrote:This is a fairly new relationship. We've been dating for almost 3 months now. Last night before bed he told me that I smell and he doesn't want to have sex with me. I am beyond embarrassed. I didn't respond to what he said as I don't know what to do. He knows that I shower and brush my teeth as i have done both at his house before. The other day, he joked about me having dragon breath. Disclaimer: I am aware that I smell, but I do not know the culprit. I have consulted my dentist and other physicians, but haven't been able to find the root cause. I do suffer from chronic constipation and other digestive issues and I sweat more than most people, but I am aware of this so I chew gum often, wear extra strength deordant, and shower 2x a day. I was bullied a lot by my family bc I smelled as a kid so this really hurts and brings back memories. I really don't know what to do. I obviously do not want to be involved with someone who isn't happy with my hygiene, but I'm not sure how to even approach this with him. I think I should end things as I don't feel like there isn't more that I can do to improve the situation and I don't want to be involved with someone who doesn't want to kiss or have sex with me.
Just based on what you said, I wouldn't necessarily dump the guy. It seems you really do have a problem emitting malodorous fumes. Obviously he smells it, but is he aware of your past and all the efforts you take to cover up the odor? Perhaps he thought the jokes were a subtle way of getting you to step up your hygiene and when that didn't work just tried to be blunt.
If he really likes you he may be willing to wait to see if a solution to your odor problem presents itself. If you really like him you could explain your situation, tell him you're search for a solution and ask him to be patient.
Anonymous
03/03/2020 09:56
Subject: Boyfriend told me that I smell.
I think with your symptoms- heat intolerance w/fainting, acne, chronic constipation and bad breath- that you need to see an MD. If they have no answers for you, see a Naturopath. I found out I have an imbalance of my GI flora. I take probiotics now and I feel one million times better.
Anonymous
03/03/2020 09:46
Subject: Boyfriend told me that I smell.
We still don't really know what happened. OP is aware she has a smell issue, and her bf has so far been with her and has to be aware, too.
There is a huge difference between the BF saying "You stink and are gross and I can't be with you" versus "I can't [x] because there is a smell."
How did he handle the issue? That's what counts.
If she was shaming of you, OP, that tells you what you need to know about him.
But if he was just direct and he set a limit, as much as it hurts, that is different. It could be that he is a keeper--he has been with you even though there is a smell problem. He may really love you! He's put up with it when he can. But he can't really be expected never to be bothered. Maybe it was super bad that day. Would you rather be alone or dumped?
There is a huge difference between the BF saying "You stink and are gross and I can't be with you" versus "I can't [x] because there is a smell."
How did he handle the issue? That's what counts.
If she was shaming of you, OP, that tells you what you need to know about him.
But if he was just direct and he set a limit, as much as it hurts, that is different. It could be that he is a keeper--he has been with you even though there is a smell problem. He may really love you! He's put up with it when he can. But he can't really be expected never to be bothered. Maybe it was super bad that day. Would you rather be alone or dumped?
Anonymous
03/03/2020 09:41
Subject: Boyfriend told me that I smell.
I had a good friend who smelled. A friend and I bought him deodorant and told him to wash his clothes. He never was the freshest, but it really did help. Thank god he took our advice. Because, other than his smell he was an amazing person. But ... can't hang too close to somebody who smells like yesterday and the day before.
Anonymous
03/03/2020 08:37
Subject: Boyfriend told me that I smell.
Seems like some have had luck with this product for body odor.
http://www.pureayre.com/TMAU_body_odor_disease.htm
I've used this stuff for cat urine and it works pretty well to break down the compounds that cause odor. I saw it on Shark Tank and thought I would try it.
http://www.pureayre.com/TMAU_body_odor_disease.htm
I've used this stuff for cat urine and it works pretty well to break down the compounds that cause odor. I saw it on Shark Tank and thought I would try it.