Anonymous
03/02/2020 10:13
Subject: Re:Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Charge him.
Tell him that you started a part time job watching other people's kids.
$30/hr sound reasonable?
PREACH- put some visibility on that invisible labor.
Love this response.
Anonymous
03/02/2020 10:11
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:To everybody saying relax it’s a joke and that she’s overreacting would be flipping their lives if a mother-in-law had said that.
This
Oh this is so true!
Interesting . . .
Anonymous
03/02/2020 10:11
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I guess I am the I my one who got Bob’s sense of humor. He was joking. Just relax and be kind.
I agree. It was clearly a joke. Maybe not a great joke, but a joke. A normal person could just laugh it off, or make a joke back, or whatever. You took it as a serious criticism of your life, so now you want to drag him for being hypocritical or something. But he didn't mean it that way, and you're being a doink.
+1
And then deleted the entire account as a result? Someone has issues here, and it’s not the guy.
Anonymous
03/02/2020 09:54
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:To everybody saying relax it’s a joke and that she’s overreacting would be flipping their lives if a mother-in-law had said that.
This
Anonymous
03/02/2020 09:47
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.
I would say no because this will be the same as job creep and he will be taking advantage of you all the time. Stop it before it begins.
I'm more of an "I'll help you out once" but won't let it become a habit type of person.
Anonymous
03/02/2020 09:30
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.
I would say no because this will be the same as job creep and he will be taking advantage of you all the time. Stop it before it begins.
Anonymous
03/02/2020 09:20
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
OP, I, as a full-time paid-to-work mom wouldn't be offended if I saw your post. I can only imagine how nice it is indeed to have a break from caring for your young kids. If he's truly a friend, I might say yes this one time and then if he continues to jab or to ask for such favors, I would call him on it then.
Anonymous
03/02/2020 09:20
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
To everybody saying relax it’s a joke and that she’s overreacting would be flipping their lives if a mother-in-law had said that.
Anonymous
03/02/2020 09:11
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Did you all read the OP that it wasn’t just the one post? He “jabs her about it often”. That would be a firm no from me.
Yeah, I don't believe her. I think he's joking, but OP is the kind of person who gets all wound up about random crap on social media. I think she takes innocuous comments as jabs and insults.
Once, maybe is a dumb joke. Tagging her husband is insulting. Continuing to joke about it is plain rude.
I wouldn’t do it anyways. One day in an emergency I’m there to help. A couple planned days off you just don’t want to handle is not my problem. Plenty of single parents can handle their children, and it sounds like he only has shared custody.
Anonymous
03/02/2020 09:02
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Did you all read the OP that it wasn’t just the one post? He “jabs her about it often”. That would be a firm no from me.
Yeah, I don't believe her. I think he's joking, but OP is the kind of person who gets all wound up about random crap on social media. I think she takes innocuous comments as jabs and insults.
Anonymous
03/02/2020 09:02
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Just to protect yourself, I would suggest you say no. Trying to help single parents who already resent you (ie, jealousy), and are looking for an excuse to poke at you, never end well. Ask me why I say this.
Anonymous
03/02/2020 09:00
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:I guess I am the I my one who got Bob’s sense of humor. He was joking. Just relax and be kind.
I agree. It was clearly a joke. Maybe not a great joke, but a joke. A normal person could just laugh it off, or make a joke back, or whatever. You took it as a serious criticism of your life, so now you want to drag him for being hypocritical or something. But he didn't mean it that way, and you're being a doink.
Anonymous
03/02/2020 08:52
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
PLEASE SAY NO!
Strike 1-tagged my DH
Strike 2-suggested that it was time for a part-time job
Strike 3-jabs me about it often
These are planned early releases; what was his plan for his child? YOU!
Also, be careful that you don't become his free "baby sitter."
I know that you'll probably do it BUT as you say yes, you have to say, "it's a good thing that I'm not working." lol
Strike 1-tagged my DH
Strike 2-suggested that it was time for a part-time job
Strike 3-jabs me about it often
These are planned early releases; what was his plan for his child? YOU!
Also, be careful that you don't become his free "baby sitter."
I know that you'll probably do it BUT as you say yes, you have to say, "it's a good thing that I'm not working." lol
Anonymous
03/02/2020 07:35
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.
This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.
I regret posting it and I’ve since deleted my account because I assessed my behavior and believe it’s desperate to post on FB. But he’s still a jerk who can’t stop wondering when I’m going to get a job.
I wonder when you are going to get a job too.
I’m sure you can point her to the many places that are looking to hire someone who can work from 9:30-12:30.
Anonymous
03/02/2020 07:01
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.
Oh lord. I likely would have said the same thing after my last little one went to school. There is nothing wrong with it.
+1. The people saying it was an obnoxious post have obviously never spent time as a stay at home parent. It is exhausting and 24/7. Nothing wrong with being excited to get a little time to yourself back.
I’m a SAHM of two. It IS exhausting and neither kid is in school yet. Occasionally I get my mom to take them both and I aimlessly shop at Target or HomeGoods OR if I can get my husband to do the drop off on his way to work then I stay home and sleep. Both options are glorious. I’m on FB all the time but NEVER would I make an obnoxious post bragging about my free time. At most I’d mention it directly to other SAHM friends at a later time who get how nice a middle of the day break is but it’s childish and silly to make a FB status about it. Clearly OP has learned this and left social media but I think she asked for it in this case and shouldn’t be petty to the neighbor. If neighbor dad lashed out on a non-bragging post (ex. if she posted something sentimental about sending her last little one off to school instead of bragging about lounging around and doing nothing and he still told her to go get a job) then I’d feel differently.
It’s exhausting but you are on FB “all the time?” Choose one.