Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DS has been dating a girl for almost a year. I know they are considering it. I have been advising against it happening yet, and I have been thwarting opportunity, but I am a realist.
Ummm...this was me when I was 15. Unfortunately, I had already been having sex for a good 6 months with the guy I had been dating for a year, and we kept telling our parents were hadn't done it yet. We lied even though my mom was wonderful and open to all of these discussions and would have told me she thinks I should wait but would have bought me condoms, etc. Long story short...we had an abortion at 16. I still to this day think about it every day and wish I didn't terminate because I have no kids now at 41. So, yes, buy condoms like yesterday.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here - a sincere and heartfelt thank you to whoever wrote "The problem is that OP is trying as hard as she can to get her son to understand that he shouldn’t be having sex this young, but it looks like he’s just going to do it anyway." That is exactly the case.
I have no desire to break them up. She is an admirable girl, and they have a healthy relationship. (Most importantly - neither is the boss.) It is in face very likely that they won't have sex anytime soon because she is levelheaded. But my son is most certainly a romantic who sincerely believes himself ready for many adult things. (He'd like to vote and drive as well!) Of course I know that this very delusion proves that he's immature. This situation shouldn't be happening, But it is. So what would you do?
14 is young even for dating, much less a serious relationship.
You didn’t date as a HS freshman?
Nope
Interesting. My Gen X peers and I had Gf/Bf relationships then.
14 is young poster-- you are the weird one.
Anonymous wrote:Far more important that they are somewhere he knows he can get them easily then to make him have some ridiculous "rite of passage" to buy at CVS or whatever. Better safe than sorry!
We always made sure our teens knew there was a box in the linen closet. No questions asked.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You do realize that condoms basically ensure they will get pregnant, right?
Ensure? No.
Birth control availability + good sex ed = lower rates of pregnancy.
Nope. Unplanned pregnancy rate has increased with availing of birth control and sex ed. Meanwhile, condom actual use fail rate staggered high, higher among teens.
https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/contraception/index.htm
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1070796/
I don’t see where those links say that condom access causes increases teen pregnancies, much less ensures it.
If anybody wants to see a different perspective: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/files/6813/9611/7632/Reducing_Teen_Pregnancy.pdf
Anonymous wrote:He is 14 and has had a girlfriend for a year already?? No. I would just say you aren’t old enough to date. I mean, neither of them can even drive. When/where are they going to have sex? But I suppose too late for that. He needs responsible for getting his own condoms. He should also be asking his girlfriend what she is doing for contraception and have that conversation with her.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here, answering the question: Is there some reason your kid can’t walk into CVS and buy his own?
Yes. He's 14. GF is 15.
So? If he's too damn embarrassed, that is further proof that he is too young for a girlfriend.
P.S. 14 is too young for a girlfriend anyway.
Anonymous wrote:Is there some reason your kid can’t walk into CVS and buy his own?
Anonymous wrote:My DS has been dating a girl for almost a year. I know they are considering it. I have been advising against it happening yet, and I have been thwarting opportunity, but I am a realist.
Anonymous wrote:Never. I will teach about safe sex. But, I will not provide contraceptives. I do not condone sex out of wedlock.