Anonymous wrote:The girl, because we would be at the abortion clinic yesterday and that would be the end of that.

+1

I don't know why people think that a boy can just walk away from his own child. He can't. He is legally responsible for that baby and is just as much a parent to the baby as the girl is.

I think that the physical aspects of pregnancy/birth would be hard to watch your teenage daughter go through. It's just a lot for a teenager to handle and I think that they underestimate and romanticize what it's like to have a baby before you are a self sufficient adult.

I'd rather be the parent of baby daddy. I have a son and feel blessed to have a kind, compassionate and generous one. In 2016 (he was 12) after Trump won, his group chats were on fire. His friends, one girl in particular was terrified that her parents would be sent back to their country and she'd be left here. I was checking his messages at that age. He told her he'd marry her in a text. Ugh

He's the type of kid that would step up and take it very seriously. He has an incredible paid internship (16 yo now) and works 2x week and manages school, junior year testing grind and a seasonal varsity sport. He's a responsible kid. His boss/owner (who I met once) said DS has a job for life. And this is a very wealthy business owner and high tech visionary with big plans. I was floored. Despite son's level of maturity, he has a foot in two worlds and is a youngish 16. He'd fall in love easily and not necessarily with eyes wide open.

Please dear Gd have mercy on us all in this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:The parent for sure. More access. It would devastate me to have a grandchild out there whose life I couldn’t be a part of.

Yeah but I would be more devastated if said child was in a situation I’m forced to be a part of 24/7 and witness the train wreck

You would be more devastated to see your grandchild 24/7 than never?

Just wow!

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry. Very low bar in parenting if teen pregnancy is acceptable in any way or form.

No one asked you . . . .

Beauty of DCUM, I can post on concerns of trailer trash issues anonymously.

The real beauty of DCUM is seeing someone trying to condescend to someone about a hypothetical scenario. My hypothetical child would never! All of your hypothetical children are trailer trash!

Yes, even my hypothetical children will not behave like children of trailer trash. Or do drugs. Or fail at school or life. Or date ràpe someone. Parenting and attitudes matter. And here are pages of people who are sharing their beliefs.

You’re an idiot with her head in the sand.

No. I am the person who believes in good parenting and morals. I am not a failed parent. I might be a rare breed and in minority, but just because many people have messed up kids, dysfunctional family lives, broken marriages, horrible relationships with their children, does not mean that it is normal and desirable way to live life. Take responsibility of your choices.

No your an idiot with your head in the sand.

My parents told me, a girl, that if I got pregnant they would force.mw to have an abortion. My parents told my brother they didn't believe in abortion, and that if he got any girl pregnant they would force him to marry her and support the child.

So they worked both angles, and both of us took a lot of precautions. Had no idea, until we were older and discussing our parents views on abortion and figured out they fed us two different stories because they were too tired and broke to take care of grandkids.

Anonymous wrote:The parent for sure. More access. It would devastate me to have a grandchild out there whose life I couldn’t be a part of.

Yeah but I would be more devastated if said child was in a situation I’m forced to be a part of 24/7 and witness the train wreck

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry. Very low bar in parenting if teen pregnancy is acceptable in any way or form.

No one asked you . . . .

Beauty of DCUM, I can post on concerns of trailer trash issues anonymously.

The real beauty of DCUM is seeing someone trying to condescend to someone about a hypothetical scenario. My hypothetical child would never! All of your hypothetical children are trailer trash!

Yes, even my hypothetical children will not behave like children of trailer trash. Or do drugs. Or fail at school or life. Or date ràpe someone. Parenting and attitudes matter. And here are pages of people who are sharing their beliefs.

You’re an idiot with her head in the sand.

No. I am the person who believes in good parenting and morals. I am not a failed parent. I might be a rare breed and in minority, but just because many people have messed up kids, dysfunctional family lives, broken marriages, horrible relationships with their children, does not mean that it is normal and desirable way to live life. Take responsibility of your choices.

The parent for sure. More access. It would devastate me to have a grandchild out there whose life I couldn’t be a part of.

IDK I think rather parent of boy. As parent of girl it’s a terrible decision to make either way to keep pregnancy or not. I would feel responsible making or supporting my daughter’s choice and if things didn’t turn out well.

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This is terrible but the boy has it way easier. He has so many more options at every step of the way. He’s not the one going through pregnancy, so his body and routine stays the same. He can walk away or not. Once the girl decides to keep the pregnancy her options are done.

He cannot walk away. He is responsible for child support payments for 18 years.

With what income???

They will both need to get incomes. He eventually will not pay child support because he’ll have 50/50 custody

Not true. The parent with the higher income pays child support even with 50/50. You clearly don't get how it works. And, if the mom has limited money or wants money, it will not be 50/50 as they will deny it over money.

It's not 1950 anymore... that is not how it works. They will expect the mother to work, they will not give her child support for her to live.... the money is for the child's needs and if she can't support the child and the man can she will be fighting for custody.

The grandparents with more money win actually.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry. Very low bar in parenting if teen pregnancy is acceptable in any way or form.

No one asked you . . . .

Beauty of DCUM, I can post on concerns of trailer trash issues anonymously.

The real beauty of DCUM is seeing someone trying to condescend to someone about a hypothetical scenario. My hypothetical child would never! All of your hypothetical children are trailer trash!

Yes, even my hypothetical children will not behave like children of trailer trash. Or do drugs. Or fail at school or life. Or date ràpe someone. Parenting and attitudes matter. And here are pages of people who are sharing their beliefs.

You’re an idiot with her head in the sand.

Anonymous wrote:Abort, abort. No one wants this zygote to turn into a human being. You all are discussing who is less up the shit creek and the consensus is that the boy can abdicate and walk away from his responsibility. This would be baby is eliciting the same response as mexican kids in cages at the border. You all don't care so please be humane and terminate. you

Either one can walk away from the “responsibility.” Or either one can decide that the baby will know who both birth parents are, whether parent #2 wants that or not. There’s no consensus here, so not sure where you got that idea. Also not sure where you got the idea that posters don’t care about kids in cages or actual, non theoretical children.

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This is terrible but the boy has it way easier. He has so many more options at every step of the way. He’s not the one going through pregnancy, so his body and routine stays the same. He can walk away or not. Once the girl decides to keep the pregnancy her options are done.

Right, but once the kid is here you're not just a parent, you're also a grandparent. So the bolded is not a feature, it's a bug.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry. Very low bar in parenting if teen pregnancy is acceptable in any way or form.

No one asked you . . . .

Beauty of DCUM, I can post on concerns of trailer trash issues anonymously.

The real beauty of DCUM is seeing someone trying to condescend to someone about a hypothetical scenario. My hypothetical child would never! All of your hypothetical children are trailer trash!

Yes, even my hypothetical children will not behave like children of trailer trash. Or do drugs. Or fail at school or life. Or date ràpe someone. Parenting and attitudes matter. And here are pages of people who are sharing their beliefs.