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Anonymous wrote:I think that we as a society need to finally recognize that it's a zero sum game. We can't just sing lalala and pretend to be one big happy family. The fact is that inclusion is often detrimental to the other kids, especially when we're talking about behavioral issues. Therefore, in trying to "help" some kids by IGNORING the effect of their disruptions and continuing to offer them the "normal" educational system, we are literally HURTING the other kids. If we can admit that to ourselves and each other, then we can start asking the questions of HOW MUCH of a detriment is reasonable, if any at all.

Majority of kids with SN are not violent or disruptive or at least no more than your kids. There are a handful and those kids deserve more supports and better school situations but its near impossible for many families to access and those schools are not affordable for most. Instead of blaming the kid and families, look at the school system. Look at how much most of the major school systems like MCPS spend fighting families with attorney fees alone when that money could be spent on the kids. These kids don't want to act this way and need help. As a society we are failing these kids and we owe it to them and our society as they are are our future to do better for them.

"Behavioral issues" by definition means disruption, if not violence. If your child is SN in a way that really has no bearing on the rest of the class (e.g. speech issues or a dyslexia pullout once a week) then this is not relevant to you.

Nobody is arguing that these kids don't need more support than they're getting. What we're saying is that the level of support is not possible in the public school system without negatively affecting the other students. Clearing a room might be perfectly appropriate in a special school for kids with behavioral issues, but it is NOT appropriate in a public school setting unless in the case of a bomb threat or similar. A mainstreamed child should not be the equivalent of a bomb threat on the safety and wellbeing of other children.

Teacher here. I'm up late tonight still decompressing from stress and work stuff, and I am feeling really validated and grateful for some of the posts here.

I can say that 10 years ago I literally never heard of the idea of evacuating a classroom because of a disruptive student. Now, in my FCPS school, this is commonplace. Literally, commonplace.

A student wielded a sharp tool in one of our classes yesterday, threatening to hurt another child with it. This student was out of control. All students were evacuated from the room and the clinical team was called and the student spent the rest of the day with clinical and administrative support and guess what? The student was back in class again today. Not even a suspension. (And I'm not a big fan of out of school suspension in general, but what message does this send to the classmates who were literally terrorized yesterday?) Multiple members of this teaching team were in tears throughout the school day, exhausted with the stress of it all and the constant feeling of failing everyone because these one or two students take up 50-80% of their mental energy on any given day, and there is so little left for actual...teaching.

Our administration will do NOTHING to protect students or support teachers unless there is huge parental pressure and usually squawking up the food chain. They are utterly conflict avoidant and are content putting everything at a teacher's feet.

Tangible ideas:

1) Literally every day that a violent disruption occurs (or any significant disruption), document it fully in an email. If you believe this is true, please document that you believe the teacher is doing a good job and that this is not a criticism of teacher performance.

2) Document the disruption. Document the effect on your child.

Example:

Dear Mrs. Twaftwaddle,

I am writing with a deep concern about ongoing disruption in Larla's classroom that creates an unsafe learning environment and is interfering with her ability to learn. In one example today, Phil refused to follow the teacher's directions to get his laptop from the laptop cart, loudly interrupting the teacher, wandering the room and interfering with other children who were logging in, and then dropping his laptop on the floor with a crash. When the teacher approached him, he yelled loudly and used very graphic cuss words. All the while, no instruction was happening. As the student's behavior escalated, she instructed the rest of the class to go down the hallway and called the front office for assistance. My child was moved to Mrs. Smith's room where there were no spare desks and 44 students working with one teacher. The class ended up eventually scattered around the room and had about 10 minutes of silent reading time before their teacher was able to get them back to class. By that time, the Language Arts block was completely over.

Not only did she get no Language Arts instruction today, she and classmates spent the rest of the day nervous and on edge, wondering if their classmate would return. When he did return, he continued to exhibit refusal to participate, verbal attacks, and physical signs of frustration such as throwing writing implements on the floor and knocking books off tables.

Consequently, my child was fearful all day, and lost a great deal of instructional time due to this student's behavior. What supports can be put in place to ensure that this does not occur again tomorrow?

(keep doing this EVERY day your child reports major disruptions. Cc county-wide administrators and higher-ups if the first email doesn't have results.)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that we as a society need to finally recognize that it's a zero sum game. We can't just sing lalala and pretend to be one big happy family. The fact is that inclusion is often detrimental to the other kids, especially when we're talking about behavioral issues. Therefore, in trying to "help" some kids by IGNORING the effect of their disruptions and continuing to offer them the "normal" educational system, we are literally HURTING the other kids. If we can admit that to ourselves and each other, then we can start asking the questions of HOW MUCH of a detriment is reasonable, if any at all.

Majority of kids with SN are not violent or disruptive or at least no more than your kids. There are a handful and those kids deserve more supports and better school situations but its near impossible for many families to access and those schools are not affordable for most. Instead of blaming the kid and families, look at the school system. Look at how much most of the major school systems like MCPS spend fighting families with attorney fees alone when that money could be spent on the kids. These kids don't want to act this way and need help. As a society we are failing these kids and we owe it to them and our society as they are are our future to do better for them.

It is not the SN kids nor their families' fault that they are in the unfortunate situation they are, and as a society we do need to think about how we can support them better so that they can integrate into the mainstream. However similarly unfortunate things happen to many people who are not to blame either- think about people whose lives are crippled with huge medical bills for chronic conditions or massive student loans. Yes we should try to find a way to make things more easier for them too, but in the meantime the rest of us shouldn't have to sacrifice our basic rights, like the right for kids to learn in a non-violent, stable classroom without having to fight tooth and nail for it. It is not fair for the non-SN kids to have to bear the brunt of it.

Anonymous wrote:I think that we as a society need to finally recognize that it's a zero sum game. We can't just sing lalala and pretend to be one big happy family. The fact is that inclusion is often detrimental to the other kids, especially when we're talking about behavioral issues. Therefore, in trying to "help" some kids by IGNORING the effect of their disruptions and continuing to offer them the "normal" educational system, we are literally HURTING the other kids. If we can admit that to ourselves and each other, then we can start asking the questions of HOW MUCH of a detriment is reasonable, if any at all.

Majority of kids with SN are not violent or disruptive or at least no more than your kids. There are a handful and those kids deserve more supports and better school situations but its near impossible for many families to access and those schools are not affordable for most. Instead of blaming the kid and families, look at the school system. Look at how much most of the major school systems like MCPS spend fighting families with attorney fees alone when that money could be spent on the kids. These kids don't want to act this way and need help. As a society we are failing these kids and we owe it to them and our society as they are are our future to do better for them.

I think that we as a society need to finally recognize that it's a zero sum game. We can't just sing lalala and pretend to be one big happy family. The fact is that inclusion is often detrimental to the other kids, especially when we're talking about behavioral issues. Therefore, in trying to "help" some kids by IGNORING the effect of their disruptions and continuing to offer them the "normal" educational system, we are literally HURTING the other kids. If we can admit that to ourselves and each other, then we can start asking the questions of HOW MUCH of a detriment is reasonable, if any at all.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These threads make me so angry and rage cry. I've had a crap day and feel like slapping some of these posters.

My kid has some of these issues. The classroom has been cleared because of him. Do you know what we had to do in order to get him an appropriate placement where he is thriving? I'll tell you:

Thousands upon thousands of dollars of therapy, not including the amount of lost work/salary for me. I don't work anymore because it's too hard to manage.

At least 6 meetings with school a year, daily phone calls, IEP meetings, IEP revisions, FBAs/BIPs, etc. private testing. Daily phone call complaints from incompetent teachers, psychologists who told me "you don't seem to care about your kid (she got fired)," and a whole host of garbage comments from other parents.

Advocate and lawyer to help us through the process.
I had to have therapists who were baiting my child removed from the process after they admitted to baiting him to acting out.

More advocate and lawyer costs to get him into his correct placement, where he's thriving and doing very well.

And he's only in second grade. That's right, all of this and he's 7. This is a lifelong process for us. We'll do it again next year, and the year after, and the year after.

You know what I have to be able to do this: Time and Money. A lot of people don't have time and money to do these things. People can't quit their jobs to go to therapy. People can't pay lawyers and advocates to help them. We can and we're fortunate. I go to Special Ed group meetings near me and people are begging for help--they can't afford it, can't take time off, have trauma in their lives, etc.

Yes, some people ignore the problems until it's too late, or don't want their kid labeled, but I really believe that most people are doing the best they can, and, in some cases, they're relying on the school to help them through the process. You can't rely on them. You need need outside help and assistance and a lot of people can't afford that.

I don't want your kid to get his hand slammed in the door, or to have to evacuate the classroom. IT's not fair to any of the kids. But I also hate that this topic comes up once a week on this site and people don't seem to understand the other side of it. The lack of empathy for people on these threads is disgusting.

So I have an idea for you: Go use your voice to vote for candidates that support all aspects of public education, voice your concerns to your school board and principals, work for additional funding for schools, stop bitching about property taxes on your million dollar homes and then complain that we don't have enough aides for the SN kids. Stop thinking that parents aren't doing the best they can. Find some empathy for people who don't fit in the molds. Life is hard enough.

I have empathy and I feel very badly for you, I really do, but my child has started seeing tutors to help with reading and math because she's basically not being taught these subjects due to being in a class with not one, but two disruptive students and only one teacher and one aide. On top of that, all the attention spent on those kids means that other children are acting up more than normal and my child has a classmate constantly picking on and bothering her, and it has seriously impacted her ability to learn, her level of anxiety, and her love of school. We're also considering sending her to a psychologist to help with the anxiety issues. And yes, I've complained and documented and complained some more but apparently there's nothing the school can do for my child who was doing GREAT for two years before being put in this class with children the teachers can't handle. I really don't think this is fair to my child either, and has potentially long-term impacts on my child's mental health and well-being. You are not the ONLY one suffering.

This has nothing to do with one child. Your child is having tutors as they are struggling and probably also need assessed. Your child having anxiety probably is genetic or also something else going on. If its that bad ,send her to private. You don't get that these parents are doing the best they can and many are not equip to handle these indues and honestly, it doesn't sound like you can if you have to get tutors for a young child vs. working with them AND you are ignoring your child mental health.

Uh no, did you read PP. PP child was functioning well in school prior year. Current year PP's child has two disruptive children in her classroom. The disruption is severe enough
that PP has filed complaints. PP is a tax payer and should not have to pay to send her child to private school because disruptive classroom are not removed or disciplined in the school.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something needs to change. It’s just simply unacceptable that one child’s behavior can have such negative consequences on all of the others around them. I realize some parents are fighting for services, but as a society we need to come up with a better, quicker way. The pendulum has swung way too far on the side of favoring the disruptive child’s rights over everyone else’s (just like many things in our society, such as “emotional support animals”

The options are to overturn existing legislation that guarantees equal access to a free and appropriate public education or to actually fund a free and appropriate public education for all students. We are in the middle ground where FAPE is law but schools don't have the funds to provide FAPE so only the squeakiest wheels get it. And meanwhile, the head of the Dept of Education doesn't even know what FAPE is...

More funding will not solve the issues. It’s a mitigation strategy, not a solution. Violent children should never be mainstreamed. Period.

+1. We need to bring back institutionalization. Varying forms of it, but habitual violent students have no place in public schools.

agree.
As someone earlier said, most people want to help/ empathize with SN kids and their situations but NOT at the cost of their own kids education and mental well-being.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These threads make me so angry and rage cry. I've had a crap day and feel like slapping some of these posters.

My kid has some of these issues. The classroom has been cleared because of him. Do you know what we had to do in order to get him an appropriate placement where he is thriving? I'll tell you:

Thousands upon thousands of dollars of therapy, not including the amount of lost work/salary for me. I don't work anymore because it's too hard to manage.

At least 6 meetings with school a year, daily phone calls, IEP meetings, IEP revisions, FBAs/BIPs, etc. private testing. Daily phone call complaints from incompetent teachers, psychologists who told me "you don't seem to care about your kid (she got fired)," and a whole host of garbage comments from other parents.

Advocate and lawyer to help us through the process.
I had to have therapists who were baiting my child removed from the process after they admitted to baiting him to acting out.

More advocate and lawyer costs to get him into his correct placement, where he's thriving and doing very well.

And he's only in second grade. That's right, all of this and he's 7. This is a lifelong process for us. We'll do it again next year, and the year after, and the year after.

You know what I have to be able to do this: Time and Money. A lot of people don't have time and money to do these things. People can't quit their jobs to go to therapy. People can't pay lawyers and advocates to help them. We can and we're fortunate. I go to Special Ed group meetings near me and people are begging for help--they can't afford it, can't take time off, have trauma in their lives, etc.

Yes, some people ignore the problems until it's too late, or don't want their kid labeled, but I really believe that most people are doing the best they can, and, in some cases, they're relying on the school to help them through the process. You can't rely on them. You need need outside help and assistance and a lot of people can't afford that.

I don't want your kid to get his hand slammed in the door, or to have to evacuate the classroom. IT's not fair to any of the kids. But I also hate that this topic comes up once a week on this site and people don't seem to understand the other side of it. The lack of empathy for people on these threads is disgusting.

So I have an idea for you: Go use your voice to vote for candidates that support all aspects of public education, voice your concerns to your school board and principals, work for additional funding for schools, stop bitching about property taxes on your million dollar homes and then complain that we don't have enough aides for the SN kids. Stop thinking that parents aren't doing the best they can. Find some empathy for people who don't fit in the molds. Life is hard enough.

I have empathy and I feel very badly for you, I really do, but my child has started seeing tutors to help with reading and math because she's basically not being taught these subjects due to being in a class with not one, but two disruptive students and only one teacher and one aide. On top of that, all the attention spent on those kids means that other children are acting up more than normal and my child has a classmate constantly picking on and bothering her, and it has seriously impacted her ability to learn, her level of anxiety, and her love of school. We're also considering sending her to a psychologist to help with the anxiety issues. And yes, I've complained and documented and complained some more but apparently there's nothing the school can do for my child who was doing GREAT for two years before being put in this class with children the teachers can't handle. I really don't think this is fair to my child either, and has potentially long-term impacts on my child's mental health and well-being. You are not the ONLY one suffering.

This has nothing to do with one child. Your child is having tutors as they are struggling and probably also need assessed. Your child having anxiety probably is genetic or also something else going on. If its that bad ,send her to private. You don't get that these parents are doing the best they can and many are not equip to handle these indues and honestly, it doesn't sound like you can if you have to get tutors for a young child vs. working with them AND you are ignoring your child mental health.

What? The PP’s child has anxiety about school since there are suddenly violent kids in her classroom, and your conclusion is that the child has a “genetic issue” and that OP should pay for private school?

Anonymous wrote:Are there studies or resources to read about why this seems to be an epidemic in the US? Why are there so many kids now with such extreme issues? I’m an older millennial and I don’t remember kids like this in school really at all. I’d like to learn more about the current thinking on this. It’s appalling the number of people who post here about similar issues- it’s clearly a widespread issue.

I am Gen X and I remember a kid like this, but he was expelled and I don't know where he went.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Something needs to change. It’s just simply unacceptable that one child’s behavior can have such negative consequences on all of the others around them. I realize some parents are fighting for services, but as a society we need to come up with a better, quicker way. The pendulum has swung way too far on the side of favoring the disruptive child’s rights over everyone else’s (just like many things in our society, such as “emotional support animals”

The options are to overturn existing legislation that guarantees equal access to a free and appropriate public education or to actually fund a free and appropriate public education for all students. We are in the middle ground where FAPE is law but schools don't have the funds to provide FAPE so only the squeakiest wheels get it. And meanwhile, the head of the Dept of Education doesn't even know what FAPE is...

More funding will not solve the issues. It’s a mitigation strategy, not a solution. Violent children should never be mainstreamed. Period.

+1. We need to bring back institutionalization. Varying forms of it, but habitual violent students have no place in public schools.

Institutions cost far more than providing the resources at a public school or even paying for a private. You realize most kids who have private placements do so because their parents sued the school system. MCPS spends a fortune fighting families on attorney fees vs. getting these kids what they need.

You misunderstand me. I’m not talking about 100k boarding schools. Just basic care institutions.

Those basic care institutions are $100K a year. We have them but you have to sue the school system to get into them. Many don't take parental funding and only school funding.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something needs to change. It’s just simply unacceptable that one child’s behavior can have such negative consequences on all of the others around them. I realize some parents are fighting for services, but as a society we need to come up with a better, quicker way. The pendulum has swung way too far on the side of favoring the disruptive child’s rights over everyone else’s (just like many things in our society, such as “emotional support animals”

The options are to overturn existing legislation that guarantees equal access to a free and appropriate public education or to actually fund a free and appropriate public education for all students. We are in the middle ground where FAPE is law but schools don't have the funds to provide FAPE so only the squeakiest wheels get it. And meanwhile, the head of the Dept of Education doesn't even know what FAPE is...

More funding will not solve the issues. It’s a mitigation strategy, not a solution. Violent children should never be mainstreamed. Period.

+1. We need to bring back institutionalization. Varying forms of it, but habitual violent students have no place in public schools.

Institutions cost far more than providing the resources at a public school or even paying for a private. You realize most kids who have private placements do so because their parents sued the school system. MCPS spends a fortune fighting families on attorney fees vs. getting these kids what they need.

You misunderstand me. I’m not talking about 100k boarding schools. Just basic care institutions.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something needs to change. It’s just simply unacceptable that one child’s behavior can have such negative consequences on all of the others around them. I realize some parents are fighting for services, but as a society we need to come up with a better, quicker way. The pendulum has swung way too far on the side of favoring the disruptive child’s rights over everyone else’s (just like many things in our society, such as “emotional support animals”

The options are to overturn existing legislation that guarantees equal access to a free and appropriate public education or to actually fund a free and appropriate public education for all students. We are in the middle ground where FAPE is law but schools don't have the funds to provide FAPE so only the squeakiest wheels get it. And meanwhile, the head of the Dept of Education doesn't even know what FAPE is...

More funding will not solve the issues. It’s a mitigation strategy, not a solution. Violent children should never be mainstreamed. Period.

+1. We need to bring back institutionalization. Varying forms of it, but habitual violent students have no place in public schools.

Institutions cost far more than providing the resources at a public school or even paying for a private. You realize most kids who have private placements do so because their parents sued the school system. MCPS spends a fortune fighting families on attorney fees vs. getting these kids what they need.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These threads make me so angry and rage cry. I've had a crap day and feel like slapping some of these posters.

My kid has some of these issues. The classroom has been cleared because of him. Do you know what we had to do in order to get him an appropriate placement where he is thriving? I'll tell you:

Thousands upon thousands of dollars of therapy, not including the amount of lost work/salary for me. I don't work anymore because it's too hard to manage.

At least 6 meetings with school a year, daily phone calls, IEP meetings, IEP revisions, FBAs/BIPs, etc. private testing. Daily phone call complaints from incompetent teachers, psychologists who told me "you don't seem to care about your kid (she got fired)," and a whole host of garbage comments from other parents.

Advocate and lawyer to help us through the process.
I had to have therapists who were baiting my child removed from the process after they admitted to baiting him to acting out.

More advocate and lawyer costs to get him into his correct placement, where he's thriving and doing very well.

And he's only in second grade. That's right, all of this and he's 7. This is a lifelong process for us. We'll do it again next year, and the year after, and the year after.

You know what I have to be able to do this: Time and Money. A lot of people don't have time and money to do these things. People can't quit their jobs to go to therapy. People can't pay lawyers and advocates to help them. We can and we're fortunate. I go to Special Ed group meetings near me and people are begging for help--they can't afford it, can't take time off, have trauma in their lives, etc.

Yes, some people ignore the problems until it's too late, or don't want their kid labeled, but I really believe that most people are doing the best they can, and, in some cases, they're relying on the school to help them through the process. You can't rely on them. You need need outside help and assistance and a lot of people can't afford that.

I don't want your kid to get his hand slammed in the door, or to have to evacuate the classroom. IT's not fair to any of the kids. But I also hate that this topic comes up once a week on this site and people don't seem to understand the other side of it. The lack of empathy for people on these threads is disgusting.

So I have an idea for you: Go use your voice to vote for candidates that support all aspects of public education, voice your concerns to your school board and principals, work for additional funding for schools, stop bitching about property taxes on your million dollar homes and then complain that we don't have enough aides for the SN kids. Stop thinking that parents aren't doing the best they can. Find some empathy for people who don't fit in the molds. Life is hard enough.

I have empathy and I feel very badly for you, I really do, but my child has started seeing tutors to help with reading and math because she's basically not being taught these subjects due to being in a class with not one, but two disruptive students and only one teacher and one aide. On top of that, all the attention spent on those kids means that other children are acting up more than normal and my child has a classmate constantly picking on and bothering her, and it has seriously impacted her ability to learn, her level of anxiety, and her love of school. We're also considering sending her to a psychologist to help with the anxiety issues. And yes, I've complained and documented and complained some more but apparently there's nothing the school can do for my child who was doing GREAT for two years before being put in this class with children the teachers can't handle. I really don't think this is fair to my child either, and has potentially long-term impacts on my child's mental health and well-being. You are not the ONLY one suffering.

This has nothing to do with one child. Your child is having tutors as they are struggling and probably also need assessed. Your child having anxiety probably is genetic or also something else going on. If its that bad ,send her to private. You don't get that these parents are doing the best they can and many are not equip to handle these indues and honestly, it doesn't sound like you can if you have to get tutors for a young child vs. working with them AND you are ignoring your child mental health.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something needs to change. It’s just simply unacceptable that one child’s behavior can have such negative consequences on all of the others around them. I realize some parents are fighting for services, but as a society we need to come up with a better, quicker way. The pendulum has swung way too far on the side of favoring the disruptive child’s rights over everyone else’s (just like many things in our society, such as “emotional support animals”

The options are to overturn existing legislation that guarantees equal access to a free and appropriate public education or to actually fund a free and appropriate public education for all students. We are in the middle ground where FAPE is law but schools don't have the funds to provide FAPE so only the squeakiest wheels get it. And meanwhile, the head of the Dept of Education doesn't even know what FAPE is...

More funding will not solve the issues. It’s a mitigation strategy, not a solution. Violent children should never be mainstreamed. Period.

+1. We need to bring back institutionalization. Varying forms of it, but habitual violent students have no place in public schools.

Anonymous wrote:These threads make me so angry and rage cry. I've had a crap day and feel like slapping some of these posters.

My kid has some of these issues. The classroom has been cleared because of him. Do you know what we had to do in order to get him an appropriate placement where he is thriving? I'll tell you:

Thousands upon thousands of dollars of therapy, not including the amount of lost work/salary for me. I don't work anymore because it's too hard to manage.

At least 6 meetings with school a year, daily phone calls, IEP meetings, IEP revisions, FBAs/BIPs, etc. private testing. Daily phone call complaints from incompetent teachers, psychologists who told me "you don't seem to care about your kid (she got fired)," and a whole host of garbage comments from other parents.

Advocate and lawyer to help us through the process.
I had to have therapists who were baiting my child removed from the process after they admitted to baiting him to acting out.

More advocate and lawyer costs to get him into his correct placement, where he's thriving and doing very well.

And he's only in second grade. That's right, all of this and he's 7. This is a lifelong process for us. We'll do it again next year, and the year after, and the year after.

You know what I have to be able to do this: Time and Money. A lot of people don't have time and money to do these things. People can't quit their jobs to go to therapy. People can't pay lawyers and advocates to help them. We can and we're fortunate. I go to Special Ed group meetings near me and people are begging for help--they can't afford it, can't take time off, have trauma in their lives, etc.

Yes, some people ignore the problems until it's too late, or don't want their kid labeled, but I really believe that most people are doing the best they can, and, in some cases, they're relying on the school to help them through the process. You can't rely on them. You need need outside help and assistance and a lot of people can't afford that.

I don't want your kid to get his hand slammed in the door, or to have to evacuate the classroom. IT's not fair to any of the kids. But I also hate that this topic comes up once a week on this site and people don't seem to understand the other side of it. The lack of empathy for people on these threads is disgusting.

So I have an idea for you: Go use your voice to vote for candidates that support all aspects of public education, voice your concerns to your school board and principals, work for additional funding for schools, stop bitching about property taxes on your million dollar homes and then complain that we don't have enough aides for the SN kids. Stop thinking that parents aren't doing the best they can. Find some empathy for people who don't fit in the molds. Life is hard enough.

I have empathy and I feel very badly for you, I really do, but my child has started seeing tutors to help with reading and math because she's basically not being taught these subjects due to being in a class with not one, but two disruptive students and only one teacher and one aide. On top of that, all the attention spent on those kids means that other children are acting up more than normal and my child has a classmate constantly picking on and bothering her, and it has seriously impacted her ability to learn, her level of anxiety, and her love of school. We're also considering sending her to a psychologist to help with the anxiety issues. And yes, I've complained and documented and complained some more but apparently there's nothing the school can do for my child who was doing GREAT for two years before being put in this class with children the teachers can't handle. I really don't think this is fair to my child either, and has potentially long-term impacts on my child's mental health and well-being. You are not the ONLY one suffering.