Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“You working all day is not relevant as you are being paid to do a job and sound really lazy.”

+1
And same as most moms above - I am only expecting what I used to do as a sitter which was to pitch in until the work seemed done then watch TV. I often would pick up toys that were still out when I showed up and clean up the kitchen. I did not “clean the house” as that would be nuts but I viewed it as my job to restore order to anything kid-related and in the living room/kitchen.

I always did this as a babysitter and I always got back and referred to other families. It took a few extra minutes when the kids were in bed. Or, with older kids, they can help. No one is saying clean the kitchen but if its a few plates and the pots that were cooked in, why wouldn't you just clean them up and pick up a little. No one is saying run a vacuum and dust, but if the kids ate it, just help out a little.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you expect your babysitter to do the dishes? What about tidy up?

We make dinner and leave it on the table for the kids and babysitter. We have one babysitter who always does the dishes (loafs the dishwasher, puts leftovers in rubber ware in the fridge, wipes down table) and tidies up and another who doesn’t do either. We get to come home from date night and do a half hour of cleaning up. We pay really well. Feels ridiculous that she puts the kids to bed and then sits in a messy room watching tv for hours. And it’s so annoying to come home to. Both babysitters are adults. Are my expectations out of whack?

Half an hour for you both to clean up? I doubt it. I also doubt you pay “really well”.

Anonymous wrote:Do you expect your babysitter to do the dishes? What about tidy up?

We make dinner and leave it on the table for the kids and babysitter. We have one babysitter who always does the dishes (loafs the dishwasher, puts leftovers in rubber ware in the fridge, wipes down table) and tidies up and another who doesn’t do either. We get to come home from date night and do a half hour of cleaning up. We pay really well. Feels ridiculous that she puts the kids to bed and then sits in a messy room watching tv for hours. And it’s so annoying to come home to. Both babysitters are adults. Are my expectations out of whack?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s weird you leave a meal out that then needs to be cleaned up after, leftover stored, etc. most people leave money for pizza.

Even pizza has to be cleaned up. If you eat on plates at the table - which most people with young kids are going to to do - you need to clear the plates off the table when you’re done and put them in the dishwasher. Same with toddler dishes. Generally pizza will lead to crumbs, so you need to wipe down the table and throw away the paper napkins.

Again, this is not a big deal but it’s not something I would want to do after getting home late from a date night. Especially if the babysitter had several hours after the kids fell asleep to clean up after herself.

As a teenage sitter, I would move dirty dishes to the kitchen sink at a minimum, and wash them if I had time to do so after kid(s) were in bed. Seems like common courtesy. That said, packing up leftover "real food" (as in, not just wrapping a few pizza slices in foil) is something for which OP should provide clear direction: "Here's some Pyrex, could you please stash the leftover goulash and quinoa when you and Larlo are done?"

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s weird you leave a meal out that then needs to be cleaned up after, leftover stored, etc. most people leave money for pizza.

Even pizza has to be cleaned up. If you eat on plates at the table - which most people with young kids are going to to do - you need to clear the plates off the table when you’re done and put them in the dishwasher. Same with toddler dishes. Generally pizza will lead to crumbs, so you need to wipe down the table and throw away the paper napkins.

Again, this is not a big deal but it’s not something I would want to do after getting home late from a date night. Especially if the babysitter had several hours after the kids fell asleep to clean up after herself.

Anonymous wrote:It’s weird you leave a meal out that then needs to be cleaned up after, leftover stored, etc. most people leave money for pizza.

Anonymous wrote:“You working all day is not relevant as you are being paid to do a job and sound really lazy.”

+1
And same as most moms above - I am only expecting what I used to do as a sitter which was to pitch in until the work seemed done then watch TV. I often would pick up toys that were still out when I showed up and clean up the kitchen. I did not “clean the house” as that would be nuts but I viewed it as my job to restore order to anything kid-related and in the living room/kitchen.