Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yup. I noticed the same thing ... “we, we, we..” I was cringing a bit inside reading it. OP- I know you mean well and I wish I had parents that were this involved because I probably would have gotten in a better college but you need to unclench. Your DC did good for themselves. They are going to get into a pretty great school, ivy or not. You did your part. Applications are in. Let the acceptances start coming in and give them some power to make this big decision on their own. You have to let go of some of this control.

You are berating OP and you can’t even use proper English? HINT - it is “did well for themselves.”

It's all becoming so clear now. Did you make sure to not double space after the periods in the application essays? I hope you did. That's the number one "tell" that parents have written them.

+1
She’s still double spacing, so I doubt it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yup. I noticed the same thing ... “we, we, we..” I was cringing a bit inside reading it. OP- I know you mean well and I wish I had parents that were this involved because I probably would have gotten in a better college but you need to unclench. Your DC did good for themselves. They are going to get into a pretty great school, ivy or not. You did your part. Applications are in. Let the acceptances start coming in and give them some power to make this big decision on their own. You have to let go of some of this control.

You are berating OP and you can’t even use proper English? HINT - it is “did well for themselves.”

English isn’t my first language, but thanks.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop with the "we" bashing. It's dumb.

It's a quarter million dollar family decision and kids are not equipped to handle it alone. You guys aren't cute, aren't clever, and aren't exposing some Freudian-level genius analysis except some revelations about yourselves.

It's a completely legitimate way of speaking used by many normal, kind, practical, parents.

And no, I am not the PP.

So stop.

UVA Associate Dean of Admissions begs to differ.

http://uvaapplication.blogspot.com/2013/11/the-role-of-parents-in-process.html

Then he is a petulent jerk about the issue of the use of a phrase also.

She, which you'd know if you took the time to read it rather than have a knee-jerk defensive reaction. Good luck with your applications.

Show me where in that article you can tell the gender of "Dean J" without clicking on a different page.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yup. I noticed the same thing ... “we, we, we..” I was cringing a bit inside reading it. OP- I know you mean well and I wish I had parents that were this involved because I probably would have gotten in a better college but you need to unclench. Your DC did good for themselves. They are going to get into a pretty great school, ivy or not. You did your part. Applications are in. Let the acceptances start coming in and give them some power to make this big decision on their own. You have to let go of some of this control.

You are berating OP and you can’t even use proper English? HINT - it is “did well for themselves.”

It's all becoming so clear now. Did you make sure to not double space after the periods in the application essays? I hope you did. That's the number one "tell" that parents have written them.

Anonymous wrote:Yup. I noticed the same thing ... “we, we, we..” I was cringing a bit inside reading it. OP- I know you mean well and I wish I had parents that were this involved because I probably would have gotten in a better college but you need to unclench. Your DC did good for themselves. They are going to get into a pretty great school, ivy or not. You did your part. Applications are in. Let the acceptances start coming in and give them some power to make this big decision on their own. You have to let go of some of this control.

You are berating OP and you can’t even use proper English? HINT - it is “did well for themselves.”

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop with the "we" bashing. It's dumb.

It's a quarter million dollar family decision and kids are not equipped to handle it alone. You guys aren't cute, aren't clever, and aren't exposing some Freudian-level genius analysis except some revelations about yourselves.

It's a completely legitimate way of speaking used by many normal, kind, practical, parents.

And no, I am not the PP.

So stop.

UVA Associate Dean of Admissions begs to differ.

http://uvaapplication.blogspot.com/2013/11/the-role-of-parents-in-process.html

Then he is a petulent jerk about the issue of the use of a phrase also.

She, which you'd know if you took the time to read it rather than have a knee-jerk defensive reaction. Good luck with your applications.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop with the "we" bashing. It's dumb.

It's a quarter million dollar family decision and kids are not equipped to handle it alone. You guys aren't cute, aren't clever, and aren't exposing some Freudian-level genius analysis except some revelations about yourselves.

It's a completely legitimate way of speaking used by many normal, kind, practical, parents.

And no, I am not the PP.

So stop.

UVA Associate Dean of Admissions begs to differ.

http://uvaapplication.blogspot.com/2013/11/the-role-of-parents-in-process.html

Then he is a petulent jerk about the issue of the use of a phrase also.

Anonymous wrote:Stop with the "we" bashing. It's dumb.

It's a quarter million dollar family decision and kids are not equipped to handle it alone. You guys aren't cute, aren't clever, and aren't exposing some Freudian-level genius analysis except some revelations about yourselves.

It's a completely legitimate way of speaking used by many normal, kind, practical, parents.

And no, I am not the PP.

So stop.

UVA Associate Dean of Admissions begs to differ.

http://uvaapplication.blogspot.com/2013/11/the-role-of-parents-in-process.html

19 schools is a lot.. they haven’t seem to identify exactly what they are looking for in a college experience. It goes without saying they will likely pick the most prestigious name, regardless of whether it is a fit for DC or not.

+1. Such a silly observation for an mom/dad message board.

Stop with the "we" bashing. It's dumb.

It's a quarter million dollar family decision and kids are not equipped to handle it alone. You guys aren't cute, aren't clever, and aren't exposing some Freudian-level genius analysis except some revelations about yourselves.

It's a completely legitimate way of speaking used by many normal, kind, practical, parents.

And no, I am not the PP.

So stop.

Yup. I noticed the same thing ... “we, we, we..” I was cringing a bit inside reading it. OP- I know you mean well and I wish I had parents that were this involved because I probably would have gotten in a better college but you need to unclench. Your DC did good for themselves. They are going to get into a pretty great school, ivy or not. You did your part. Applications are in. Let the acceptances start coming in and give them some power to make this big decision on their own. You have to let go of some of this control.

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Anonymous wrote:I think your kid will get into UVA. Hard to say about other schools since we don’t know how strong recommendations, extracurriculars or essays were.
Should have applied ED to Cornell. Will be tough in regular pool.

OP. Yeah it was Dartmouth or Cornell. Chose Dartmouth because we had a couple of angles. Recs should be strong and ECs very good. No idea on essays. We think they are good LOL. If we get UVA we are happy because half price of privates. Naviance also looks good for W&M, GW, Wake, Davidson, Emory, Tufts, UVA, Gtown, and Hopkins. Cornell doesn’t look impossible. Vandy and Northwestern looks bad as do Brown, Yale, and Penn. We have an EA with merit in the bag already.

Listen to yourself.

Schools have gotten so much harder! I vaguely remember my SAT and GPA. I want to say under 3.75 weighted and maybe around 1300 and I got into a few of these pretty competitive schools, NYU, GWU..I wonder if it was because I was from a small town where many people didn’t apply.

Anonymous wrote:I was a 3.8 at top private with 1450 SAT and legacy at Yale. I got rejected and this was 30 years ago in simpler times.

Does it help if you’re legacy and your parents do not actively donate much? Or like less than $1k a year?