Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. The way I see this is- imagine being a mistress and your partner has to use his ex’s money for ring! One day she’ll wake up and say, “and he couldn’t even buy me a ring.”
She might always look at that ring and think of you!
It’s really sad.

You got the better end of the deal OP!

Agree 100%! They are both losers who will end up divorced again. While you, OP, escaped being shackled to that loser.

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Anonymous wrote:It's his money if he got it in the divorce settlement. It's not yours. Whether or not he is a jerk is a different matter, but he can do what he wants with his own money.

OP - You do know that I realize all of this, right?

We don't, because you just posted about feeling terrible about it. You could have just told is your ex is engaged to someone else after just 8 months. Sorry about that. Your best revenge is to live life fully.

Well, yes, I do feel terrible about handing my ex money and him running to a jewelry store to buy his mistress an engagement ring, you know, with the money I just handed him. Eight months later.

She is no longer his mistress and you are no longer his wife. His life decisions should not be your business.

Correction: Once the mistress, always the mistress. That's a title that you can't shake.

Sorry that you are going through this, op. It sucks, but it will get easier.

Anonymous wrote:What stings is that you had to pay him money!!!!!

Yes, and that should sting for him, too. What a loser.

What comedian said when David Gest sued Liza Minnelli for beating him that if it were him, he'd rather GIVE her a million dollars to keep it quiet?

It’s his money to do whatever he wants to do with it. If he wants to take a lighter to a hundred dollar bill and light it on fire, that’s his choice.

You’re absolutely right, you shouldn’t care. Bet you that marriage ends in divorce as well.

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Anonymous wrote:I shouldn't care.

But I just learned that my ex-husband used a part of his divorce settlement (my money, basically) and bought his former mistress/now girlfriend an engagement ring. His cousin told me. We've been divorced for eight months. This stings.

WTF?!?!

Trashy/tasteless/low class/infuriating...but not unlawful.

Also, be proud that you were the one w the money. You will be OK and can stand on your own 2 feet. He, on the other hand, is making a bad decision and has to use your money to do it.

Sell your engagement ring and do something fun with the money.

Anonymous wrote:I shouldn't care.

But I just learned that my ex-husband used a part of his divorce settlement (my money, basically) and bought his former mistress/now girlfriend an engagement ring. His cousin told me. We've been divorced for eight months. This stings.

WTF?!?!

Trashy/tasteless/low class/infuriating...but not unlawful.

I get you OP, but in the end you got the better part of this deal

Anonymous wrote:You stop, Karen. Stop being so self-righteous and let people have their damn thread. Put down your red wine and go to bed.

Every time you use the Karen reference incorrectly you sound stupid.

Make a fresh start for 2020.

Make this the year where this jerk will no longer be able to rent space in your head.

Sure it hurts like the dickens right now.
And let yourself FEEL all the hurt, anger + betrayal that inherently exists now.
In order to heal & move on, you have to hurt for awhile.
There are no shortcuts to the other side.

But once you get there - trust me, you will be a much better you!

The best is yet to come!!

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Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. The way I see this is- imagine being a mistress and your partner has to use his ex’s money for ring! One day she’ll wake up and say, “and he couldn’t even buy me a ring.”
She might always look at that ring and think of you!
It’s really sad.

You got the better end of the deal OP!

$5 says OP’s ex was the breadwinner in their household.

Doesn’t really matter. Look I’d be drinking wine and laughing at those two. Shot gun wedding, baby. Let me know how that works out.

When did OP say her ex’s fiancé is pregnant?

She didn’t. But marrying 8mos after a divorce is ... rushed.

Who cares?

OP is better off. Her ex is better off. Her ex’s new fiancé is better off.


Stop acting like divorce is the end of the world. It’s the end of a legal relationship, but can be the beginning of so many damn good things.

Stop being miserable. Stop looking back. Stop wishing ill will on others. Be free.

You stop, Karen. Stop being so self-righteous and let people have their damn thread. Put down your red wine and go to bed.

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Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. The way I see this is- imagine being a mistress and your partner has to use his ex’s money for ring! One day she’ll wake up and say, “and he couldn’t even buy me a ring.”
She might always look at that ring and think of you!
It’s really sad.

You got the better end of the deal OP!

$5 says OP’s ex was the breadwinner in their household.

Doesn’t really matter. Look I’d be drinking wine and laughing at those two. Shot gun wedding, baby. Let me know how that works out.

When did OP say her ex’s fiancé is pregnant?

She didn’t. But marrying 8mos after a divorce is ... rushed.

Who cares?

OP is better off. Her ex is better off. Her ex’s new fiancé is better off.


Stop acting like divorce is the end of the world. It’s the end of a legal relationship, but can be the beginning of so many damn good things.

Stop being miserable. Stop looking back. Stop wishing ill will on others. Be free.

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Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. The way I see this is- imagine being a mistress and your partner has to use his ex’s money for ring! One day she’ll wake up and say, “and he couldn’t even buy me a ring.”
She might always look at that ring and think of you!
It’s really sad.

You got the better end of the deal OP!

$5 says OP’s ex was the breadwinner in their household.

Doesn’t really matter. Look I’d be drinking wine and laughing at those two. Shot gun wedding, baby. Let me know how that works out.

When did OP say her ex’s fiancé is pregnant?

She didn’t. But marrying 8mos after a divorce is ... rushed.

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Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. The way I see this is- imagine being a mistress and your partner has to use his ex’s money for ring! One day she’ll wake up and say, “and he couldn’t even buy me a ring.”
She might always look at that ring and think of you!
It’s really sad.

You got the better end of the deal OP!

$5 says OP’s ex was the breadwinner in their household.

Doesn’t really matter. Look I’d be drinking wine and laughing at those two. Shot gun wedding, baby. Let me know how that works out.

When did OP say her ex’s fiancé is pregnant?

Sigh. She did not. But it’s awfully fast, no? And it shows poor judgement and immaturity. So, who knows!

Look, anyone who leaves one marriage and goes running into another so quickly, especially when there are kids involved, sounds like a person with a lot of issues. So— see ya! Good riddance.

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Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. The way I see this is- imagine being a mistress and your partner has to use his ex’s money for ring! One day she’ll wake up and say, “and he couldn’t even buy me a ring.”
She might always look at that ring and think of you!
It’s really sad.

You got the better end of the deal OP!

$5 says OP’s ex was the breadwinner in their household.

Doesn’t really matter. Look I’d be drinking wine and laughing at those two. Shot gun wedding, baby. Let me know how that works out.

When did OP say her ex’s fiancé is pregnant?