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Anonymous wrote:No leggings except at gym. No lounge clothes unless you are in bed with the flu.

Wake up, shower, get dressed in nice clothes (not fancy, but non spandex pants/denim and a presentable shirt or simple dress), do your hair and bit of make up, and make your bed.

Doing all of these things first thing in the morning will set the stage for you to feel better about your self and productive and that productivity will lead to more productivity. Even if you don't leave the house, you will get much more accomplished if you put in an effort in the morning to "get ready"

Why do people keep saying "no leggings"? I work out at 5 AM every day and usually just wear my workout clothes during preschool drop-off, pick-up, errands, etc. I'm fit and toned wearing matching designer athleisure. I detest Uggs. Generally I wear trainers or sometimes a luxury designer sneaker, flat or boot with short stacked heel. On days I go riding I will wear my tall riding boots. In the winter I typically only wear a vest or shell, long puffer if it's really cold.

I invested in microblading and get natural looking eyelash extensions. Excellent skincare routine and BB cream with SPF and this is all I need. I blow out my hair at home and can go up to a week with just touch ups. It doesn't take much effort to look pulled together if you do a little prep work.

Yea I agree with this - if your hair looks nice and you’re fit, leggings look great. Ever see candid pics of celebs? They’re almost always in athleisure because it’s LA.

Anonymous wrote:what was your life like before kids? I know a lot of SAHMs who became SAHMs due at least in part to undiagnosed ADHD that made the work/kid juggle a complete nonstarter.

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This may not apply to you, but the SAHM parents (men and women) who can't seem to get it together are usually dealing with depression, anxiety, ADHD, or something of that nature. I speak from personal experience and observation of others.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No leggings except at gym. No lounge clothes unless you are in bed with the flu.

Wake up, shower, get dressed in nice clothes (not fancy, but non spandex pants/denim and a presentable shirt or simple dress), do your hair and bit of make up, and make your bed.

Doing all of these things first thing in the morning will set the stage for you to feel better about your self and productive and that productivity will lead to more productivity. Even if you don't leave the house, you will get much more accomplished if you put in an effort in the morning to "get ready"

Why do people keep saying "no leggings"? I work out at 5 AM every day and usually just wear my workout clothes during preschool drop-off, pick-up, errands, etc. I'm fit and toned wearing matching designer athleisure. I detest Uggs. Generally I wear trainers or sometimes a luxury designer sneaker, flat or boot with short stacked heel. On days I go riding I will wear my tall riding boots. In the winter I typically only wear a vest or shell, long puffer if it's really cold.

I invested in microblading and get natural looking eyelash extensions. Excellent skincare routine and BB cream with SPF and this is all I need. I blow out my hair at home and can go up to a week with just touch ups. It doesn't take much effort to look pulled together if you do a little prep work.

Anonymous wrote:When I was staying at home, which I really liked and did for a long time, here are some things that helped:
Upgraded work out clothes
A Gym with child care - it’s usually full of sahms and their kids, great environment for moms and kids - and the exercised made me feel and look better.
A fresh haircut
Sunglasses! For when your eyes are too tired to be seen by the public
Find one thing to do Per week that is JUST fun, bounce house,
Ice cream, buying a new toy or book, Etc. one day, my kids and I bought fun umbrellas.

Hugs,
A lot of us have been in your shoes. ITs hard, and the rewards don’t reveal themselves for a looong time.

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Anonymous wrote:I was a frumpy SAHM too, OP. As it turned out, I did have undiagnosed ADHD, which was formally discovered when my DS was diagnosed with ADHD years later. My kids were well cared for, but I gained a lot of weight, became slobby, and was depressed.

I ended up going back to work and eventually getting ADHD treatment. I am not sure which made it better. Now I WOH.

One thing is that your kids may have ADHD too, so getting some awareness would be good. I am really good at advocating and caring for my kid with SNs. Myself, not so much.

Good luck.

What were your steps in getting your ADHD diagnosed, other than your son's diagnosis, if you don't mind me asking? Thanks for sharing your story.

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Anonymous wrote:
This may not apply to you, but the SAHM parents (men and women) who can't seem to get it together are usually dealing with depression, anxiety, ADHD, or something of that nature. I speak from personal experience and observation of others.

This applies to me too. Having a child completely overwhelmed me and I couldn’t do both. We waited to have enough kid because we couldn’t juggle and due to secondary infertility we weren’t able to. I’m watching all my cousins having babies and working and not stressed at all. They probably are but not falling apart like I did.

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:No leggings except at gym. No lounge clothes unless you are in bed with the flu.

Wake up, shower, get dressed in nice clothes (not fancy, but non spandex pants/denim and a presentable shirt or simple dress), do your hair and bit of make up, and make your bed.

Doing all of these things first thing in the morning will set the stage for you to feel better about your self and productive and that productivity will lead to more productivity. Even if you don't leave the house, you will get much more accomplished if you put in an effort in the morning to "get ready"

Why do people keep saying "no leggings"? I work out at 5 AM every day and usually just wear my workout clothes during preschool drop-off, pick-up, errands, etc. I'm fit and toned wearing matching designer athleisure. I detest Uggs. Generally I wear trainers or sometimes a luxury designer sneaker, flat or boot with short stacked heel. On days I go riding I will wear my tall riding boots. In the winter I typically only wear a vest or shell, long puffer if it's really cold.

I invested in microblading and get natural looking eyelash extensions. Excellent skincare routine and BB cream with SPF and this is all I need. I blow out my hair at home and can go up to a week with just touch ups. It doesn't take much effort to look pulled together if you do a little prep work.

So you work out at 5am everyday and don't bother to shower or change your clothes? Gross and lazy. And you only get your hair wet and wash it once per week?

Anonymous wrote:
This may not apply to you, but the SAHM parents (men and women) who can't seem to get it together are usually dealing with depression, anxiety, ADHD, or something of that nature. I speak from personal experience and observation of others.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No leggings except at gym. No lounge clothes unless you are in bed with the flu.

Wake up, shower, get dressed in nice clothes (not fancy, but non spandex pants/denim and a presentable shirt or simple dress), do your hair and bit of make up, and make your bed.

Doing all of these things first thing in the morning will set the stage for you to feel better about your self and productive and that productivity will lead to more productivity. Even if you don't leave the house, you will get much more accomplished if you put in an effort in the morning to "get ready"

Why do people keep saying "no leggings"? I work out at 5 AM every day and usually just wear my workout clothes during preschool drop-off, pick-up, errands, etc. I'm fit and toned wearing matching designer athleisure. I detest Uggs. Generally I wear trainers or sometimes a luxury designer sneaker, flat or boot with short stacked heel. On days I go riding I will wear my tall riding boots. In the winter I typically only wear a vest or shell, long puffer if it's really cold.

I invested in microblading and get natural looking eyelash extensions. Excellent skincare routine and BB cream with SPF and this is all I need. I blow out my hair at home and can go up to a week with just touch ups. It doesn't take much effort to look pulled together if you do a little prep work.

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Anonymous wrote:SAHM. I have nude nails, cut & color every 3-4 months, gel pedicures that last 3 weeks.

I basically live in lululemon. It's comfortable. I wear lulu tights with a pullover or zip up jacket or a long puffy jacket and nicer sneakers. This is what I wear during the day and I'm ok with it. I can wash it a million times and I don't worry about the kids ruining it or having to dry clean it.

My hair is either pulled into a pony with a plain hat or I do loose waves.
Makeup routine is BB cream, mascara, lip gloss, blush, eyebrow shadow. Super natural look.

I go out and do social things in the evenings often so I'll save an actual outfit and accessories for then.

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This. +1 The first few posters had rules about no leggings, no workout clothes, but if you’re a SAHM long term, “normal” is going to be defined differently. You are most likely not going to need to wear heels everyday. I would focus on hair, nail, skin maintenance. Working out. And finding comfortable clothing that is presentable - I wouldn’t rule out leggings!

You can wear pants and shoes that are comfortable but are not workout clothes/leggings. Leggings automatically say frump- even if they are lulumon. Since when did the only acceptable clothes for SAHM to be "comfortable" equal spandex and leggings

There was actually an article recently.. NY Times maybe... that women dressed in high-end athleisure clothes were perceived as more polished and wealthier than someone in normal clothes... Do you actually SAH? This is basically the uniform for SAHM (in a wealthy area where fashion is prioritized). If you're out there with young children doing activities, going grocery shopping, sitting on the floor at play gyms or music class, dragging your kid out of the sandbox at the playground and preschool drop offs, this makes the most sense. Some of you judging are in the minority here. No one else would look at a SAHM at 10am at Target dressed in nice leggings and a fitted pullover and think "frump"...