"My issue is a little different - my junior DD is friends with a group of very high achievers. DD, however, is not one. She is a very average student, though she does study hard. Academics just don’t come as easy to her as they do to her friends. I’m dreading the whole college comparison/scores and GPA discussion that I know kids have around application time. She’s already told me how inadequate she feels in this arena. I’ve told her not to share her stats with anyone, even her close friends. It’s going to be awful when all her friends get into top schools and she... doesn’t. Just a vent - I know there’s nothing to be done."

My son was just like your daughter. He is the only one of the group that got into their reach school.

He didn't have to tell them his GPA, they already basically knew that and his class rigor. His SAT score matched and that is what he told them, without mentioning a number.

His friends were ecstatic for him because they had known him for 8 or 10 or 12 years and knew where he had come from.

It didn't matter that his reach was their safety. In the end it meant that part of the group could go to college together.

No one I know has posted acceptances on social media except for one. It was an over the top, branded to school colors total brag. Gross.

+1

Announcing where they are going is totally fine. Saying ‘woohoo, that’s 7 acceptances and zero rejects’ Isn’t.

DC applied EA to almost all schools...accepted to all safeties so far....am active on FB....BUT...have not posted one single acceptance on FB and don't plan to until decision of where to go is made...which won't happen until next year as based on acceptances DC will re-visit top 3 schools to make sure it's the right fit.

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Anonymous wrote:Congrats to your kid—Stanford is an amazing place.

I don’t think anyone has a problem with people posting the school the kid ultimately plans to attend. Posting every single acceptance would be obnoxious, though.

This. Announcing where they are going is totally fine. Saying ‘woohoo, that’s 7 acceptances and zero rejects’ Isn’t.

I totally don't get why you would post anything on social media. Just tell the people who actually care. My kid would be appalled if I posted about his acceptances on my feed. Even he thinks that's obnoxious.

I have 75 relatives all over the world. I am not calling each one.

Maybe you only have 4 important people in your life.

Roughly 72 of your relatives don't give a sh*t where your kid got into college.

DP.

Roughly 72,000 of people here don't give a sh*t what makes you so bitter

Congrats to your kid, OP. That is truly an accomplishment.

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Anonymous wrote:Congrats to your kid—Stanford is an amazing place.

I don’t think anyone has a problem with people posting the school the kid ultimately plans to attend. Posting every single acceptance would be obnoxious, though.

This. Announcing where they are going is totally fine. Saying ‘woohoo, that’s 7 acceptances and zero rejects’ Isn’t.

I totally don't get why you would post anything on social media. Just tell the people who actually care. My kid would be appalled if I posted about his acceptances on my feed. Even he thinks that's obnoxious.

I have 75 relatives all over the world. I am not calling each one.

Maybe you only have 4 important people in your life.

Roughly 72 of your relatives don't give a sh*t where your kid got into college.

Given the timing of this achievement, isn't this the perfect fodder for an insufferable holiday card brag letter?

Who needs social media....do it the old school way.

Anonymous wrote:My issue is a little different - my junior DD is friends with a group of very high achievers. DD, however, is not one. She is a very average student, though she does study hard. Academics just don’t come as easy to her as they do to her friends. I’m dreading the whole college comparison/scores and GPA discussion that I know kids have around application time. She’s already told me how inadequate she feels in this arena. I’ve told her not to share her stats with anyone, even her close friends. It’s going to be awful when all her friends get into top schools and she... doesn’t. Just a vent - I know there’s nothing to be done.

Not if you help your daughter find some schools that fit her and she gets excited about. She's gotta run her own race and it's your job to help her realize this. Good luck - I know that isn't easy.

My issue is a little different - my junior DD is friends with a group of very high achievers. DD, however, is not one. She is a very average student, though she does study hard. Academics just don’t come as easy to her as they do to her friends. I’m dreading the whole college comparison/scores and GPA discussion that I know kids have around application time. She’s already told me how inadequate she feels in this arena. I’ve told her not to share her stats with anyone, even her close friends. It’s going to be awful when all her friends get into top schools and she... doesn’t. Just a vent - I know there’s nothing to be done.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congrats to your kid—Stanford is an amazing place.

I don’t think anyone has a problem with people posting the school the kid ultimately plans to attend. Posting every single acceptance would be obnoxious, though.

This. Announcing where they are going is totally fine. Saying ‘woohoo, that’s 7 acceptances and zero rejects’ Isn’t.

I totally don't get why you would post anything on social media. Just tell the people who actually care. My kid would be appalled if I posted about his acceptances on my feed. Even he thinks that's obnoxious.

I have 75 relatives all over the world. I am not calling each one.

Maybe you only have 4 important people in your life.

Dp You could have said this nicer.

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Anonymous wrote:Congrats to your kid—Stanford is an amazing place.

I don’t think anyone has a problem with people posting the school the kid ultimately plans to attend. Posting every single acceptance would be obnoxious, though.

This. Announcing where they are going is totally fine. Saying ‘woohoo, that’s 7 acceptances and zero rejects’ Isn’t.

I totally don't get why you would post anything on social media. Just tell the people who actually care. My kid would be appalled if I posted about his acceptances on my feed. Even he thinks that's obnoxious.

I have 75 relatives all over the world. I am not calling each one.

Maybe you only have 4 important people in your life.

Most people do it. DCs in one social media parents on another. That trend is here for good.

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Anonymous wrote:Congrats to your kid—Stanford is an amazing place.

I don’t think anyone has a problem with people posting the school the kid ultimately plans to attend. Posting every single acceptance would be obnoxious, though.

This. Announcing where they are going is totally fine. Saying ‘woohoo, that’s 7 acceptances and zero rejects’ Isn’t.

I totally don't get why you would post anything on social media. Just tell the people who actually care. My kid would be appalled if I posted about his acceptances on my feed. Even he thinks that's obnoxious.

Anonymous wrote:Congrats to your kid—Stanford is an amazing place.

I don’t think anyone has a problem with people posting the school the kid ultimately plans to attend. Posting every single acceptance would be obnoxious, though.

This. Announcing where they are going is totally fine. Saying ‘woohoo, that’s 7 acceptances and zero rejects’ Isn’t.

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Anonymous wrote:My nephew got accepted at UVA! Early action!

I'm so proud of him! I'm not on social media, so I'll just announce here on dcum and I've already told my coworkers (sorry!).

You talk to your coworkers about your nephew?

Small office. All women. Yep.