Anonymous
Post 11/25/2019 10:46     Subject: Would you wear makeup if your husband wanted you to?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:what kind of stupid question is this? We don't live in a society or culture where arranged marriage is the norm. Presumably, you both know your husband and he knows you before marriage.

In what scenario would your partner, whom you chose and knew you before marriage, would suddenly request you wear make up if you have never before been the kind of woman who wears makeup?

This is such a stupid, baiting question, I have to wonder about the person who asked it. ARe you a teenager or something? Do you have any idea how adult relationships work?




I’m 38 and this was the first my husband asked for this. Like I said above, he bought me makeup for my birthday and I asked him why did he get this knowing I don’t wear makeup. Then he said he wants me to start wearing it every day because he likes seeing women with makeup on. He never said this before.


As a 40yo PP who never wears makeup I am trying to imagine my DH doing this (so I can imagine my reaction/response) and I just can’t imagine it. I can’t imagine him doing this. It’s weird. And it makes me think the affair-suspicious posters may have a point. It makes no sense, has to be hiding or covering for something, though not necessarily an affair. Maybe someone he cares about said something (friend, relative)? Maybe he always cared a little, but not enough to mention and now he’s decided to mention it, maybe it’s the affair explanation. I don’t know, but it’s weird and I’d find it very unsettling. I can imagine my DH having a secret preference for makeup, but not rolling it out the way you describe. I don’t know how much help the internet who doesn’t know your DH can be in this. Yeah, it’s weird. If done respectfully, I’d definitely consider it, but I’m not sure I’d consider the way your DH did it respectful. That’s really something only you can determine.


I mean, I’m 39 and I’m starting to show some age. I haven’t had any skin issues whatsoever until maybe the last year or so. I could always get away with wearing no makeup and my skin still looking fresh. But now, I’m starting to get some hormonal melasma spots and I can definitely tell my skin is drier. Could it be that you’re starting to show wear and tear? I pretty much only wear makeup to work and to go out places (and it’s not a lot, but enough to even out and brighten my skin tone) and nothing most of the time I’m at home with my husband or running errands on the weekend. Perhaps he’s trying to tell you that you’re not really pulling off the no-makeup thing like you used to be able to get away with. I wouldn’t have a problem if my husband told me that; I’d appreciate his honesty. You should be able to be honest with your spouse.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2019 10:38     Subject: Would you wear makeup if your husband wanted you to?
Anonymous wrote:Frumpy lazy dc women look like fried pickles
Guess what! We don't care what you think we look like.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2019 10:38     Subject: Would you wear makeup if your husband wanted you to?
Years ago, I dated a very sedentary, type-B guy who never wanted to go anywhere on dates. He wanted to hang out at his house with his roommates, order pizza and watch TV. So I pretty much stopped making any effort with my appearance because there was no point in doing hair or makeup or putting on nice clothes to come sit on a couch with his weird roommates. Then he complained that I'd stopped "trying". I said, "hey, if we actually go somewhere, I'll dress up. If you're not putting in the effort to leave your own house, I'm not putting in the effort to look nice."

For someone willing to do stuff with me, I put on makeup and blow-dry the hair and look nice. If I'm going out with friends, I do that.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2019 10:38     Subject: Would you wear makeup if your husband wanted you to?
No. But he knew when he married me that I didn't wear makeup.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2019 10:36     Subject: Would you wear makeup if your husband wanted you to?
Anonymous wrote:OP this is very telling. He “likes seeing women with makeup on”. Which probably means he likes seeing one particular woman with makeup on. I’m not being fatalistic, I’m being realistic. Has his behavior changed at all aside from this?


No it hasn’t.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2019 10:35     Subject: Would you wear makeup if your husband wanted you to?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:what kind of stupid question is this? We don't live in a society or culture where arranged marriage is the norm. Presumably, you both know your husband and he knows you before marriage.

In what scenario would your partner, whom you chose and knew you before marriage, would suddenly request you wear make up if you have never before been the kind of woman who wears makeup?

This is such a stupid, baiting question, I have to wonder about the person who asked it. ARe you a teenager or something? Do you have any idea how adult relationships work?




I’m 38 and this was the first my husband asked for this. Like I said above, he bought me makeup for my birthday and I asked him why did he get this knowing I don’t wear makeup. Then he said he wants me to start wearing it every day because he likes seeing women with makeup on. He never said this before.


As a 40yo PP who never wears makeup I am trying to imagine my DH doing this (so I can imagine my reaction/response) and I just can’t imagine it. I can’t imagine him doing this. It’s weird. And it makes me think the affair-suspicious posters may have a point. It makes no sense, has to be hiding or covering for something, though not necessarily an affair. Maybe someone he cares about said something (friend, relative)? Maybe he always cared a little, but not enough to mention and now he’s decided to mention it, maybe it’s the affair explanation. I don’t know, but it’s weird and I’d find it very unsettling. I can imagine my DH having a secret preference for makeup, but not rolling it out the way you describe. I don’t know how much help the internet who doesn’t know your DH can be in this. Yeah, it’s weird. If done respectfully, I’d definitely consider it, but I’m not sure I’d consider the way your DH did it respectful. That’s really something only you can determine.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2019 10:27     Subject: Would you wear makeup if your husband wanted you to?
OP this is very telling. He “likes seeing women with makeup on”. Which probably means he likes seeing one particular woman with makeup on. I’m not being fatalistic, I’m being realistic. Has his behavior changed at all aside from this?
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2019 10:23     Subject: Would you wear makeup if your husband wanted you to?
Anonymous wrote:what kind of stupid question is this? We don't live in a society or culture where arranged marriage is the norm. Presumably, you both know your husband and he knows you before marriage.

In what scenario would your partner, whom you chose and knew you before marriage, would suddenly request you wear make up if you have never before been the kind of woman who wears makeup?

This is such a stupid, baiting question, I have to wonder about the person who asked it. ARe you a teenager or something? Do you have any idea how adult relationships work?




I’m 38 and this was the first my husband asked for this. Like I said above, he bought me makeup for my birthday and I asked him why did he get this knowing I don’t wear makeup. Then he said he wants me to start wearing it every day because he likes seeing women with makeup on. He never said this before.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2019 09:39     Subject: Would you wear makeup if your husband wanted you to?
Frumpy lazy dc women look like fried pickles
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2019 09:35     Subject: Would you wear makeup if your husband wanted you to?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband loves me in sheer tights, high heels, skirts and dresses; I used to dress like that five days a week but my work changed and I know he misses it, so now I dress up for him a few times a month. Men are pretty simple sometimes and we may not understand how visual they are so I really don’t see the harm.


Well, the high heels can damage your feet for one .


Not to be crass but I’m not standing for long.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2019 09:21     Subject: Would you wear makeup if your husband wanted you to?
Anonymous wrote:Sorry, hit submit by accident.

If someone notices and criticizes that you aren’t wearing makeup to a formal event, it is likely a woman self-conscious about her own appearance.

I’m AA, 48, and have great skin. No wrinkles or blemishes. I want to show that skin off, not bury it under makeup.

Okay, I wrote about looking out of place without makeup. Point taken. I absolutely think that AA women look better w/o makeup. I'm white and I look like crap without it and I know many white women like me. Our under eye circles are pronounced, uneven skin is more noticeable, and our eyelashes and eyes look sleepy without mascara. We need a little mascara, blush, and a subtle lip to define our mouths. Probably not the case for you. Rock it. <3
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2019 09:20     Subject: Would you wear makeup if your husband wanted you to?
And if your DH wanted you to cover everything but your eyes, hands, and feet, would you indulge him?

Spouses should not dictate personal appearance.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2019 09:16     Subject: Would you wear makeup if your husband wanted you to?
I probably would. But my DH told me he prefers NO make up. And so ... I don't really wear makeup (eyeliner, yes). It is hard to get preferences out of him (long hair? short hair? I know most men prefer the long hair, why won't he just SAY it?)
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2019 09:12     Subject: Would you wear makeup if your husband wanted you to?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't get why this needs to be complicated. Every single woman of every age looks better with makeup. It doesn't have to be some multi product endeavor with YouTube tutorials. Get a concealor for spot treatment here and there if needed, groom your brows and fill in a bit if they are sparse, add a swipe of lipstick or a stain and mascara.
This is stupid simple and makes every woman look a million times better. It is so simple and easy to do that NOT doing it says you DGAF about your looks. Which is fine for a stranger but I would want my spouse to care about how they look.


dp The point is why should women be expected to "look better" for society? Why do women have to be pretty for everyone else? This is why strange men tell women to smile and why I refuse to play the game.


Why does wearing make-up equal caring about your looks? I do my hair everyday, wear perfume and dress nice (even just going to walmart), why do I need concealer when I have next to perfect skin? That seems silly. If my significant other needed make-up to date me, they can shove it up their A$$.


If your skin is perfect then don’t use it. I said for it to be used as needed for spot treatment. But your face loses color And glow as you age. You would benefit from some lip color, maybe a dab on cheeks, and a coat of mascara. I takes 30 seconds. Why wouldn’t you want to look better?
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2019 09:02     Subject: Would you wear makeup if your husband wanted you to?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't get why this needs to be complicated. Every single woman of every age looks better with makeup. It doesn't have to be some multi product endeavor with YouTube tutorials. Get a concealor for spot treatment here and there if needed, groom your brows and fill in a bit if they are sparse, add a swipe of lipstick or a stain and mascara.
This is stupid simple and makes every woman look a million times better. It is so simple and easy to do that NOT doing it says you DGAF about your looks. Which is fine for a stranger but I would want my spouse to care about how they look.


dp The point is why should women be expected to "look better" for society? Why do women have to be pretty for everyone else? This is why strange men tell women to smile and why I refuse to play the game.


Why does wearing make-up equal caring about your looks? I do my hair everyday, wear perfume and dress nice (even just going to walmart), why do I need concealer when I have next to perfect skin? That seems silly. If my significant other needed make-up to date me, they can shove it up their A$$.