Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 10:04     Subject: Re:Asking an adult to let you know when they get home
Anonymous wrote:It’s awful they care so much about you. Just terrible.


They are awful people, aren't they?
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 09:57     Subject: Asking an adult to let you know when they get home
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe people are attributing perfectly normal, caring family behaviors to anxiety.


Honey this is DCUM. People here are nuts


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Anonymous
Post 08/27/2019 21:05     Subject: Asking an adult to let you know when they get home
My mom sometimes asks me to do this (of course only when I have been with them and am going home, not the other 350 days a year when she has no idea if I got home safe). I say I will if I remember, but likely I will not remember so she should not worry if I don't text. And then I usually forget.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2019 20:52     Subject: Asking an adult to let you know when they get home
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe people are attributing perfectly normal, caring family behaviors to anxiety.


+10000000

+100000000000000
Some angry, lonely hoes on this board



+30000


Y'all getting bent up about loved ones asking "let me know when you get home ok!" have got some royal attachment issues. I'm an introvert pisces and attachment issues are what we do best, but some of you are really just bitchy nutjubs.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2019 20:47     Subject: Asking an adult to let you know when they get home
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe people are attributing perfectly normal, caring family behaviors to anxiety.


+10000000

+100000000000000
Some angry, lonely hoes on this board
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2019 20:39     Subject: Asking an adult to let you know when they get home
Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe people are attributing perfectly normal, caring family behaviors to anxiety.


+10000000
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2019 20:01     Subject: Asking an adult to let you know when they get home
Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe people are attributing perfectly normal, caring family behaviors to anxiety.


It may be common, but it’s not rational. Hence the annoyance to sone of us.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2019 19:57     Subject: Asking an adult to let you know when they get home
Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe people are attributing perfectly normal, caring family behaviors to anxiety.


Honey this is DCUM. People here are nuts
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2019 19:49     Subject: Asking an adult to let you know when they get home
I cannot believe people are attributing perfectly normal, caring family behaviors to anxiety.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2019 19:17     Subject: Re:Asking an adult to let you know when they get home
I let my mother know when I get home from visiting her, and when we get home from vacations. Other than that, no. She knows when I visit IL's, and would like to know when I get home from there. She has an idea of how long the trip takes, but I sometimes stop on the way home. So I can either let her worry that I'm late, or report my every move from when I leave IL's until I get home. Don't want to do either, so I classify this as a trip she shouldn't follow.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2019 17:21     Subject: Asking an adult to let you know when they get home
Anonymous wrote:Interesting. My friends and I do this all of the time. My parents still want to know all my info if I am traveling, just in case. I don't mind it


Same. We just went to another country on vacation and I emailed my parents our flight info, Airbnb address, etc
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2019 17:15     Subject: Asking an adult to let you know when they get home
Anonymous wrote:DH and I recently vacationed with my sibling, about a two-hour drive away. Both my mom and MIL asked me to text when I arrived, so they would know. When we left at the end of our visit, my sibling asked me to text when I got home. I am 40. I was traveling with DH during the day, not alone or at night.

I usually ignore this kind of stuff but the multiple requests (and one follow-up when I didn't actually text) really shone a light on it. Is there a better way to handle this?


I cannot imagine why but apparently the care about you!
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2019 13:48     Subject: Re:Asking an adult to let you know when they get home
I would absolutely shut this down. It's anxiety. If you stop texting them, then they'll stop worrying about it. You can't keep feeding into their neurosis or they'll start thinking it's normal. And then they'll ask for more and more.


I agree with this. No one is saying that the OP should be rude about but there is no reason to appease anxiety or neurotic behavior.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2019 11:32     Subject: Asking an adult to let you know when they get home
Interesting. My friends and I do this all of the time. My parents still want to know all my info if I am traveling, just in case. I don't mind it
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2019 11:29     Subject: Asking an adult to let you know when they get home
I would absolutely shut this down. It's anxiety. If you stop texting them, then they'll stop worrying about it. You can't keep feeding into their neurosis or they'll start thinking it's normal. And then they'll ask for more and more.