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Anonymous wrote:I live in an exurb and this nonsense happens all of the time. Matching shirts for someone’s birthday ( with the posts on fb of course )matching shirts for the moms to wear to play day at school. It’s truly ridiculous. Although also matching the kids clothes...I haven’t seen that before.

what state?

I am guessing a southern state. LOL.

Anonymous wrote:Wearing the exact same thing? Or wearing a “uniform” like when all moms will wear skinny jeans, boots and a vest ...

What is this 1998?

I’d ask to observe a class one day. If the preschool itself is calm on cliquishness during the academic day (which includes two hours of nap time, then I’d minimize the party experience and let my kid stay. Focus on kindergarten. Preschool only matters to the extent it supports social emotional learning mostly.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like they're friends who have known each other for years. They're cliquish to you simply bc you want that inner circle friendship and repitoire.

You come across as a judgemental and prickly person OP and it shows ever so subtly.

I am not OP and I am judging these grown women that match outfits. It sounds like they are brainless twits.

Eh, wearing yoga pants with a loose tank top/sports bra showing underneath is not all that uncommon around here .I see this on any given day so the probability 4 moms at the same bday party are dining this isnt that absurd.

See the post about "why do women wear yoga pants in public so much?" awhile back.

Just wearing yoga pants, sure. OP said the 4 moms and 4 girls were wearing matching print yoga pants and matching shirts that said "Let's Party". That's definitely not a coincidence.

AND the only other girl at the party was OP's DD -- who was not clued into the costume theme. It's just like the mean girl telling Elle Wood that the law school party was a costume party, but reversed.

How do you know op's Dd was the only other guest at the party? I was under the impression there whole class was invited (as it is the usual mormon for preschool aged parties).

OP- if we haven't scared you off, tell us about if other guests noticed or if the host engaged, etc.

OP stated upthread that her DD was the only other girl but not the only other guest.

She said her daughter was the only other girl and there were also 2 boys there too. So 7 kids total.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty sure you outed yourself already. There’s not a lot of matching outfits around here and you even described them.

Hon, you could have stayed to swim if you wanted to. You just seemed disinterested, so we didn't ask you. And I made the shirts with my cricket, I didn't have any 2x shirts so I didn't make you one.

"Uninterested," hon, not "disinterested." And I'm also guessing you mean "cricut."

Whatever, Kelli.

Looks like the party mom found the post. Awkward.

I do think OP has a right to be bothered. You probably shouldn’t have invited her in the first place.

I’m very good friends with 4 other moms. We also have newer friends and parents of my children’s friends. I make a conscious effort to include the new people if I invited them to my home. It is called being a good host. A few of these friends are a bit exclusive. They don’t have to necessarily make an effort to talk to people they don’t know but I, the host, should.

Pretty sure that's not the real preschool clique person.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty sure you outed yourself already. There’s not a lot of matching outfits around here and you even described them.

Yeah... If there were really 4 moms and 4 daughters all wearing matching "Let's Party" outfits they know exactly who you are reading this. I hope you disguised details or live far far away.

I hope they do read this and feel embarrassed

Are they all older than you, OP?

I found it very difficult to make friends when I had my first and I was 30 when she was born. Most of the other women with first borns at the same time were 5-10 years older. At daycare I was always the youngest, same thing in elementary school. If you had your DD at 27, then you are looking at women who were likely 8-13 years older than you. It’s stupid, but people here seem to really put down “young” moms, even though it wouldn’t be considered young in most other places. And, if you look remotely young for your age, it’s even worse, they assume you were that much younger when you had your child.

It was better with my second child, I’m now the same age as the others, but the parents in that cohort are almost all first time parents.

Wearing the exact same thing? Or wearing a “uniform” like when all moms will wear skinny jeans, boots and a vest ...

Sounds like my 4 year old's ballet class, where moms in their late 30s and 40s refer to each other as "we are best friends", and discuss how life was so interesting for the in high school because they were 2 blondes and a brunette and were best friends. And they still wear sweatshirts from their high school......

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty sure you outed yourself already. There’s not a lot of matching outfits around here and you even described them.

Hon, you could have stayed to swim if you wanted to. You just seemed disinterested, so we didn't ask you. And I made the shirts with my cricket, I didn't have any 2x shirts so I didn't make you one.

How could she have stayed to swim if she wasn’t asked? And is this a dig at her weight?

You guys are gullible

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty sure you outed yourself already. There’s not a lot of matching outfits around here and you even described them.

Hon, you could have stayed to swim if you wanted to. You just seemed disinterested, so we didn't ask you. And I made the shirts with my cricket, I didn't have any 2x shirts so I didn't make you one.

How could she have stayed to swim if she wasn’t asked? And is this a dig at her weight?

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like they're friends who have known each other for years. They're cliquish to you simply bc you want that inner circle friendship and repitoire.

You come across as a judgemental and prickly person OP and it shows ever so subtly.

I am not OP and I am judging these grown women that match outfits. It sounds like they are brainless twits.

Eh, wearing yoga pants with a loose tank top/sports bra showing underneath is not all that uncommon around here .I see this on any given day so the probability 4 moms at the same bday party are dining this isnt that absurd.

See the post about "why do women wear yoga pants in public so much?" awhile back.

Just wearing yoga pants, sure. OP said the 4 moms and 4 girls were wearing matching print yoga pants and matching shirts that said "Let's Party". That's definitely not a coincidence.

AND the only other girl at the party was OP's DD -- who was not clued into the costume theme. It's just like the mean girl telling Elle Wood that the law school party was a costume party, but reversed.

How do you know op's Dd was the only other guest at the party? I was under the impression there whole class was invited (as it is the usual mormon for preschool aged parties).

OP- if we haven't scared you off, tell us about if other guests noticed or if the host engaged, etc.

OP stated upthread that her DD was the only other girl but not the only other guest.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty sure you outed yourself already. There’s not a lot of matching outfits around here and you even described them.

Hon, you could have stayed to swim if you wanted to. You just seemed disinterested, so we didn't ask you. And I made the shirts with my cricket, I didn't have any 2x shirts so I didn't make you one.

"Uninterested," hon, not "disinterested." And I'm also guessing you mean "cricut."

Whatever, Kelli.

Looks like the party mom found the post. Awkward.

I do think OP has a right to be bothered. You probably shouldn’t have invited her in the first place.

I’m very good friends with 4 other moms. We also have newer friends and parents of my children’s friends. I make a conscious effort to include the new people if I invited them to my home. It is called being a good host. A few of these friends are a bit exclusive. They don’t have to necessarily make an effort to talk to people they don’t know but I, the host, should.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like they're friends who have known each other for years. They're cliquish to you simply bc you want that inner circle friendship and repitoire.

You come across as a judgemental and prickly person OP and it shows ever so subtly.

I am not OP and I am judging these grown women that match outfits. It sounds like they are brainless twits.

Eh, wearing yoga pants with a loose tank top/sports bra showing underneath is not all that uncommon around here .I see this on any given day so the probability 4 moms at the same bday party are dining this isnt that absurd.

See the post about "why do women wear yoga pants in public so much?" awhile back.

Just wearing yoga pants, sure. OP said the 4 moms and 4 girls were wearing matching print yoga pants and matching shirts that said "Let's Party". That's definitely not a coincidence.

AND the only other girl at the party was OP's DD -- who was not clued into the costume theme. It's just like the mean girl telling Elle Wood that the law school party was a costume party, but reversed.

How do you know op's Dd was the only other guest at the party? I was under the impression there whole class was invited (as it is the usual mormon for preschool aged parties).

OP- if we haven't scared you off, tell us about if other guests noticed or if the host engaged, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty sure you outed yourself already. There’s not a lot of matching outfits around here and you even described them.

Hon, you could have stayed to swim if you wanted to. You just seemed disinterested, so we didn't ask you. And I made the shirts with my cricket, I didn't have any 2x shirts so I didn't make you one.

"Uninterested," hon, not "disinterested." And I'm also guessing you mean "cricut."

Whatever, Kelli.