Anonymous
08/05/2019 19:27
Subject: I wanted one child and I have one child. I feel very alone in this.
We have one child and in theory I really wished she had a sibling. I was older and it just didn’t happen. All the other families with one have all tried for a second but it didn’t happen. OP this will get easier as your kid get get older ad. The other families are done having babies. It just won’t be a topic of conversation.
Anonymous
08/05/2019 16:39
Subject: Re:I wanted one child and I have one child. I feel very alone in this.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:https://www.sciencemag.org/news/2017/07/best-way-reduce-your-carbon-footprint-one-government-isn-t-telling-you-about
Recycling and using public transit are all fine and good if you want to reduce your carbon footprint, but to truly make a difference you should have fewer children. That’s the conclusion of a new study in which researchers looked at 39 peer-reviewed papers, government reports, and web-based programs that assess how an individual’s lifestyle choices might shrink their personal share of emissions.
Many commonly promoted options, such as washing clothes in cold water or swapping incandescent bulbs for light-emitting diodes, have only a moderate impact (see chart, below), the team reports today in Environmental Research Letters. But four lifestyle choices had a major impact: Become a vegetarian, forego air travel, ditch your car, and—most significantly—have fewer children.
Check out the graph. You are great OP!
x1000 Thank you OP I wish families would get an environment credit for not having more kids!
Sure, and then can we send you the bill for all the old people's healthcare and our future dwindling GDP because we have a shrinking, aging population?
So not true as PPs pointed out there is immigration and advancing technology. Do you realize what it means to have a cleaner earth so our future generations can live better or would you rather a polluted wasteland?
Anonymous
08/05/2019 14:48
Subject: I wanted one child and I have one child. I feel very alone in this.
I'm in the same boat, and it does feel weird sometimes. I feel like the families who have two kids of the same ages (two years apart, generally) seem closer to each other than they are to me because they have twice the interaction or reason to bond. It was definitely weird when my daughter was 2 and half the people I know with kids her age were pregnant again and I was like, "I'm over here, able to drink."
No regrets, especially once the various "freedom" milestones hit - you know, no more diapers, no more 1-3 afternoon nap, no more daycare payments. Then I felt bad for those who were stuck in the trenches for more years.
No regrets, especially once the various "freedom" milestones hit - you know, no more diapers, no more 1-3 afternoon nap, no more daycare payments. Then I felt bad for those who were stuck in the trenches for more years.
Anonymous
08/05/2019 10:27
Subject: I wanted one child and I have one child. I feel very alone in this.
We also are a happy family of three! I totally get the feeling you're having though - at first it made me question whether I was somehow weak or didn't like being a parent because I wasn't yearning for more, but that was silly. I love that we get to savor all of the stages/phases once, that we get to travel with DS and expose him to more than if we had multiple, and that DH and I have time to maintain a lot of our pre-kid personal priorities. Having only one keeps parenthood joyful for us, which is the most important factor in my book.
Anonymous
08/05/2019 09:28
Subject: Re:I wanted one child and I have one child. I feel very alone in this.
We have two and are happy with that family size but DD's two best friends are only-children and their families are happy too. I have no idea if that is by choice or circumstance since I've never asked people why they have the number of kids they do. Just do what works for you!
Anonymous
08/05/2019 08:54
Subject: Re:I wanted one child and I have one child. I feel very alone in this.
We are one and done and a happy family of three. Most of the families we know have 2 kids and sometimes we feel out of the loop like when all our friends are at a birthday party for a younger siblings but the older siblings are also invited but we're not. But I wouldn't trade our lower stress life just to be more like our friends. We travel way more than anyone else and are able to afford a nicer lifestyle. We're not stressing about retirement or college savings. We're happy to give DD the advantages of our time, money and attention.