Anonymous wrote:I really struggle to understand people who sit and stare at others' bodies. Do you truly have nothing else going on in your life? I don't look at men to see if they are wearing tighty whities or boxers, why would I stare at teen girls' chests? It's disturbingly impulsive behavior, perhaps something to bring up to your doctor or therapist.

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Anonymous wrote:Then don't be mad that teen boys are walking around with erections looking at your jiggling daughters!

That is exactly how their body is supposed to work, after all.

Sounds like those boys are the ones with a problem.

x100.

There is nothing wrong or unnatural about a teen boy getting an erection at the sight of breasts.

Anonymous wrote:Among teenage girls now, there is a much greater sense than when I grew up that no one has a right to ask them to dress in any particular way. There is much greater awareness about the sexism inherent in dress codes and a rejection of social norms that force them to do things to control their sexuality or their looks to be attractive. IME, girls today are simply dressing to make themselves comfortable and to amuse themselves. As a feminist, I support it. WTF cares if a girl is wearing a bra? If some third party thinks it's "distracting" then that 3rd party needs to get over themselves and get a grip on their thoughts.

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Anonymous wrote:You apparently have never worn a hot, uncomfortable bra, all day, every day. I’m glad teenage girls are taking a stand over what is actually practical and comfortable.

OP here - I’m a woman, been wearing bras for 20+ years and I’ve managed to find comfortable ones. And before I get bashed - I get it, we’re all in agreement here that girls should be able to wear what they want without fear or shame, but I think we need to rein it in a bit. I have boobs, and before I nursed 2 kids, I had GREAT boobs. I wore little bathing suit tops and low cut shirts, as well as short skirts and low cut jeans that showed my nice teenage toned abs. I also then breastfed without shame and my 2 sons know about respecting a woman’s body and that breasts aren’t something to oogle.

Now that that’s out of the way...

We’re on a family vacation and my 16 year old niece went for a family bike ride with no bra on under her white tank top. Then she was wearing a very loose dress with no bra and every time she bent over it was wide open. Look, I get it - it’s nice to feel comfortable, but it’s inappropriate. My father-in-law is in no, way, shape, or form “leering” at his granddaughter, it’s making him uncomfortable seeing her breasts. Her mom and dad are divorced, so her mother isn’t here and my brother-in-law is avoiding talking to her about it. I was talking to her and she mentioned she sometimes doesn’t wear a bra because she “doesn’t need to and you can’t even tell” but I let her know that I could tell and that dress needed something under it. She was fine with it, no argument ensued. But I still just don’t get it...

Well, I think you did the wrong thing. No argument ensured because you humiliated her.

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Anonymous wrote:Then don't be mad that teen boys are walking around with erections looking at your jiggling daughters!

That is exactly how their body is supposed to work, after all.

Sounds like those boys are the ones with a problem.

x100.

There is nothing wrong or unnatural about a teen boy getting an erection at the sight of breasts.

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Anonymous wrote:You apparently have never worn a hot, uncomfortable bra, all day, every day. I’m glad teenage girls are taking a stand over what is actually practical and comfortable.

OP here - I’m a woman, been wearing bras for 20+ years and I’ve managed to find comfortable ones. And before I get bashed - I get it, we’re all in agreement here that girls should be able to wear what they want without fear or shame, but I think we need to rein it in a bit. I have boobs, and before I nursed 2 kids, I had GREAT boobs. I wore little bathing suit tops and low cut shirts, as well as short skirts and low cut jeans that showed my nice teenage toned abs. I also then breastfed without shame and my 2 sons know about respecting a woman’s body and that breasts aren’t something to oogle.

Now that that’s out of the way...

We’re on a family vacation and my 16 year old niece went for a family bike ride with no bra on under her white tank top. Then she was wearing a very loose dress with no bra and every time she bent over it was wide open. Look, I get it - it’s nice to feel comfortable, but it’s inappropriate. My father-in-law is in no, way, shape, or form “leering” at his granddaughter, it’s making him uncomfortable seeing her breasts. Her mom and dad are divorced, so her mother isn’t here and my brother-in-law is avoiding talking to her about it. I was talking to her and she mentioned she sometimes doesn’t wear a bra because she “doesn’t need to and you can’t even tell” but I let her know that I could tell and that dress needed something under it. She was fine with it, no argument ensued. But I still just don’t get it...

It's not your niece's job to make men (or anyone for that matter) comfortable. She should be able to dress in whatever way makes HER comfortable and feel good. Your FIL and the rest of your family need to get over your body shame. She's not a baby anymore. She's a woman, so yes she has breasts. Just like she has arms, legs, hands, etc. Just like everyone else. It's only a big deal because you're making it one and you should be ashamed of yourself for perpetuating this misogyny and body shame.

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Anonymous wrote:Then don't be mad that teen boys are walking around with erections looking at your jiggling daughters!

That is exactly how their body is supposed to work, after all.

Sounds like those boys are the ones with a problem.

x100.

Anonymous wrote:Among teenage girls now, there is a much greater sense than when I grew up that no one has a right to ask them to dress in any particular way. There is much greater awareness about the sexism inherent in dress codes and a rejection of social norms that force them to do things to control their sexuality or their looks to be attractive. IME, girls today are simply dressing to make themselves comfortable and to amuse themselves. As a feminist, I support it. WTF cares if a girl is wearing a bra? If some third party thinks it's "distracting" then that 3rd party needs to get over themselves and get a grip on their thoughts.

Anonymous wrote: Look at the moms of these girls. They are the aged cheerleaders who are reliving their misspent youth by encouraging their daughters to dress in a sexualized manner.

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Anonymous wrote:Then don't be mad that teen boys are walking around with erections looking at your jiggling daughters!

That is exactly how their body is supposed to work, after all.

Sounds like those boys are the ones with a problem.

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Anonymous wrote:You apparently have never worn a hot, uncomfortable bra, all day, every day. I’m glad teenage girls are taking a stand over what is actually practical and comfortable.

OP here - I’m a woman, been wearing bras for 20+ years and I’ve managed to find comfortable ones. And before I get bashed - I get it, we’re all in agreement here that girls should be able to wear what they want without fear or shame, but I think we need to rein it in a bit. I have boobs, and before I nursed 2 kids, I had GREAT boobs. I wore little bathing suit tops and low cut shirts, as well as short skirts and low cut jeans that showed my nice teenage toned abs. I also then breastfed without shame and my 2 sons know about respecting a woman’s body and that breasts aren’t something to oogle.

Now that that’s out of the way...

We’re on a family vacation and my 16 year old niece went for a family bike ride with no bra on under her white tank top. Then she was wearing a very loose dress with no bra and every time she bent over it was wide open. Look, I get it - it’s nice to feel comfortable, but it’s inappropriate. My father-in-law is in no, way, shape, or form “leering” at his granddaughter, it’s making him uncomfortable seeing her breasts. Her mom and dad are divorced, so her mother isn’t here and my brother-in-law is avoiding talking to her about it. I was talking to her and she mentioned she sometimes doesn’t wear a bra because she “doesn’t need to and you can’t even tell” but I let her know that I could tell and that dress needed something under it. She was fine with it, no argument ensued. But I still just don’t get it...

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, so I’m a misogynist/creep/lunatic for telling my DD that her breasts are showing when she bends down, and asking her to put on a bra??? You people are f-ing crazy!! Why does it have to be such an all or nothing issue?? As a parent I have the right to say, “your ti**s are showing, get back in the house and change your shirt” without being labeled an anti-feminist. I’m as liberal as they come but bristle at black and white, knee-jerk reactions at either end of the spectrum.

No you are completely normal and reasoned, and I wish more people were!

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Anonymous wrote:Then don't be mad that teen boys are walking around with erections looking at your jiggling daughters!

That is exactly how their body is supposed to work, after all.