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Anonymous wrote:OP, if you think this is a class or cultural issue, you like in a dangerous bubble. You need to meet more people who aren’t middle class Anglos.

Op here. I guess I thought this was a class/cultural thing. She just doesn’t seem to get how things work in the US, and she struggles to learn.

I’ve had the benefit of decades of living here, and so did my parents, etc.

I don’t think she grasps things like health insurance, or car registration. Her home country has nationalized health care.

When I lived in Costa Rica I had a landscape guy scheduled to come out to quote a big project. He never showed. Didn’t answer his phone. Showed up 2 days later, I’m here now. I said why didn’t you call 2 days ago. He said “why would I call if I wasn’t going to show up?” Seemed normal to him

So yes I agree with others that she’s a hot mess. But there is some cultural differences there

But she lives HERE now.

She's been here 3 years, according to OP.

And your point is......... she lived for decades in a country that likely isn’t so big on strict deadlines. My husband has lived here for 20 years. He lived in Argentina for 40. He still prefers to eat dinner at 8:30-10. He still rolls his eyes at the need to be punctual

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you think this is a class or cultural issue, you like in a dangerous bubble. You need to meet more people who aren’t middle class Anglos.

Op here. I guess I thought this was a class/cultural thing. She just doesn’t seem to get how things work in the US, and she struggles to learn.

I’ve had the benefit of decades of living here, and so did my parents, etc.

I don’t think she grasps things like health insurance, or car registration. Her home country has nationalized health care.

When I lived in Costa Rica I had a landscape guy scheduled to come out to quote a big project. He never showed. Didn’t answer his phone. Showed up 2 days later, I’m here now. I said why didn’t you call 2 days ago. He said “why would I call if I wasn’t going to show up?” Seemed normal to him

So yes I agree with others that she’s a hot mess. But there is some cultural differences there

But she lives HERE now.

She's been here 3 years, according to OP.

Anonymous wrote:OP time for a new nanny. Either she is blundering through life getting fine after fine, not understand credit, not registering the car etc etc leading me to believe mental problem
OR the whole thing is a set up for you to bail her out. No one is so dumb they don’t understand “credit” — she’s playing you. Don’t think nannies are too dumb to figure this out.
Your kindness would be better with someone else.
(I had a nanny who scammed everyone with her helpless act. I called some other people she worked for and the whole scam fell apart, but not until others had paid ...)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you think this is a class or cultural issue, you like in a dangerous bubble. You need to meet more people who aren’t middle class Anglos.

Op here. I guess I thought this was a class/cultural thing. She just doesn’t seem to get how things work in the US, and she struggles to learn.

I’ve had the benefit of decades of living here, and so did my parents, etc.

I don’t think she grasps things like health insurance, or car registration. Her home country has nationalized health care.

When I lived in Costa Rica I had a landscape guy scheduled to come out to quote a big project. He never showed. Didn’t answer his phone. Showed up 2 days later, I’m here now. I said why didn’t you call 2 days ago. He said “why would I call if I wasn’t going to show up?” Seemed normal to him

So yes I agree with others that she’s a hot mess. But there is some cultural differences there