How is it tacky? Assuming she used all the clothes and her child outgrew all of it, she then sold it. What's your problem? It's none of your business once you give it away.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it is tacky

But since you didn't specify that you wanted it back after she was done, or to pass it on, she is now doing whatever she wants to do with it.

No, you are not really entitled to the proceeds if she is the one taking pictures, spending her time listing them etc. But a good friend would have mentioned what she was going to do with it.

You learned a lesson not to pass on something without instructions as to what to do with it after. If it bothers you that much, don't hand her down anything else - lets say books, toys etc.

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It’s not “yours” anymore and she can do with it what she wants. You’d begrudge her $80 or I don’t know what she made.. that like one big toy for her kid, which maybe she’ll pass along to you or someone else one day.

OP again, No. I don't want the money, I only specified the amount to show that these are not $0.50 Gerber Onsies being sold and the clothing is still in very good condition and can still be used.

LIke i said, i was taken aback when I saw the string of facebook posts all with the clothing i gave her and the prices she was asking/people were paying.
I did not state i wanted them back and i would just give them to someone else if they were returned to me.

I just found it a bit tacky and was not expecting this person to sell them. To my knowledge they are no having any money troubles and unless there is a huge financial change (which there could be), they make more than DH and I do based on their jobs but either way they were given to her by me so i guess she can do what she wants.

I can still be taken aback by it and find it tacky even if none of you do. I am fine being in the minority. I haven't said anything to her, i am not stewing over this as some have suggested. Based on the responses i see my reaction may be a unique one and that is all i was really wanting to gauge.

PP here - think of it this way - if you gave these clothes to Salvation Army or Purple Heart and they gave it to someone in need, and that person then sells the clothes after she was done, would you begrudge that person for making money of it? No, right? Same here. Pretend you donated it instead of giving it to a friend since you did not specify you wanted it back.

Yes, it is tacky

But since you didn't specify that you wanted it back after she was done, or to pass it on, she is now doing whatever she wants to do with it.

No, you are not really entitled to the proceeds if she is the one taking pictures, spending her time listing them etc. But a good friend would have mentioned what she was going to do with it.

You learned a lesson not to pass on something without instructions as to what to do with it after. If it bothers you that much, don't hand her down anything else - lets say books, toys etc.

It’s tacky of your friend to do, but not wrong since she didn’t ask for it back. I give my friends baby clothes, and always mention I’ll take it back when they are done because I wound then like to donate it.

I think maybe you should’ve been clear that you wanted it back or donated to someone else. I think people should be free to do as they please with what they are given. My mother’s coworker gave my mom a bunch of clothes for my nephew that her brother’s baby had outgrown. They were all newborn - 6-9 mos Carter’s layette style clothes like onesies, sleepers, soft pants and cardigans. My nephew wore these all the time. They were spit up on and pooped on , some had to be thrown away completely. This woman got pregnant 6 months later and asked for these clothes back and was angry with my mother that my sister didn’t have the clothes to give her. My sister said she never would have taken them and used them if she knew anyone would ever want them back.

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Anonymous wrote:You don't want it back, and you didn't want to keep it at the time. You wanted it off your hands, which you achieved. Why is this bothering you?

because, she now wants to be paid for it

I don't think she wanted to be paid for it- I think she wanted her friend to pass it on to another family.

I agree that this is tacky. I get a ton of hand-me-downs and the only time I have sold something is after asking if the giver wants it back to pass on to someone else and even then I have given the money to the person who handed it down to me.

Then why is she worried that her 'friend ' might make a whole $200? I think OP wants $200 without the hassle of selling anything.

There’s nothing that’s pointing towards that.

Except a whole bunch of posts stating that the seller should give the $ to the OP. Oh, yeah and the OP's focus on a dollar amount that she thinks the items are worth.

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Anonymous wrote:You don't want it back, and you didn't want to keep it at the time. You wanted it off your hands, which you achieved. Why is this bothering you?

because, she now wants to be paid for it

I don't think she wanted to be paid for it- I think she wanted her friend to pass it on to another family.

I agree that this is tacky. I get a ton of hand-me-downs and the only time I have sold something is after asking if the giver wants it back to pass on to someone else and even then I have given the money to the person who handed it down to me.

Then why is she worried that her 'friend ' might make a whole $200? I think OP wants $200 without the hassle of selling anything.

There’s nothing that’s pointing towards that.

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Anonymous wrote:You don't want it back, and you didn't want to keep it at the time. You wanted it off your hands, which you achieved. Why is this bothering you?

because, she now wants to be paid for it

I don't think she wanted to be paid for it- I think she wanted her friend to pass it on to another family.

I agree that this is tacky. I get a ton of hand-me-downs and the only time I have sold something is after asking if the giver wants it back to pass on to someone else and even then I have given the money to the person who handed it down to me.

Then why is she worried that her 'friend ' might make a whole $200? I think OP wants $200 without the hassle of selling anything.

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Anonymous wrote:You don't want it back, and you didn't want to keep it at the time. You wanted it off your hands, which you achieved. Why is this bothering you?

because, she now wants to be paid for it

I don't think she wanted to be paid for it- I think she wanted her friend to pass it on to another family.

I agree that this is tacky. I get a ton of hand-me-downs and the only time I have sold something is after asking if the giver wants it back to pass on to someone else and even then I have given the money to the person who handed it down to me.

Anonymous wrote:You don't want it back, and you didn't want to keep it at the time. You wanted it off your hands, which you achieved. Why is this bothering you?

because, she now wants to be paid for it

You don't want it back, and you didn't want to keep it at the time. You wanted it off your hands, which you achieved. Why is this bothering you?

Once you give someone something it is theirs, a d they decide what happens to it when they don't need it anymore.

OP, you're not in the minority, just because DCUM loves to call OPs negative things.
Yes, it IS tacky. She should have asked you if you wanted them back or given to expecting friends first before selling. That's what we did growing up and we were under the poverty line poor. We wore hand me downs or cheap Wal-Mart clothes all the time.

I wouldn't gift her anything else.