My kids are tweens. I’m going to sleep in. I’ve made a reservation for brunch. I’ve scheduled a massage for the afternoon. I’ll make a dinner reservation. For my gift, I’ve requested that the kids and I sit down together and watch old videos from when they were babies/toddlers. One of my kids is exceptionally considerate and will try very hard to make me feel special on Mother’s Day — but she does that year round. My spouse is lame and we’re headed for divorce so I really don’t care what he does, but for the kids’ sakes, I’ll act pleased if he gives me a card.

Sending my husband and daughter to have brunch with his mom while I spend the day with my mom and sister. Will have dinner with my nuclear family which my husband will take care of. No presents. No one needs more things.

Our moms are out-of-town so when the kids were little, I just wanted an afternoon to myself and then DH ordered in dinner. With my now-teens, I usually want family time since they don't usually want to hang out with us so we'll go out for a nice lunch and then a hike, visit a museum or something else.

But, this year DD and I will be finishing up a Girl Scout camping trip that morning and right after we get home I have to head out for a business trip. So, other than (I'd expect) some recognition of moms at the GS camp breakfast, there will be no Mothers-Daying this year.

Do you all feel like Mother’s day is more for mothers of children or older mothers of adults?

I will likely be coming home from hospital with newborn to my 2 and 5 year old on Friday, so I’m sure this year will be extra chaotic!

Just hanging out with my lovely children!

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Anonymous wrote:Please, please, please enjoy your own Moms and MILs on Mother's Day! I would give anything to do that but they have
passed and we'll never get that chance again.

Is “passed” southern for “died”?

Not pp. I don't think it's necessarily "southern", but that is what it means. It is pretty common to hear around here. I think it's a gentler way of saying it.

Brunch and a kids soccer game

Anonymous wrote:Please, please, please enjoy your own Moms and MILs on Mother's Day! I would give anything to do that but they have
passed and we'll never get that chance again.

Is “passed” southern for “died”?

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Anonymous wrote:So many whiny moms here.

Raising babies is hard.

I don't want to share with my MIL.

Whhaaaaa.

Hi MIL! You had over 30 years of mother's days to yourself. I want my chance.

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Anonymous wrote:As a mom of small children, I just want one day that's all about me. I don't want to share with MIL, my mom and our 4 grandmas. Sure, this is selfish, but I want my own day, with my own children and I want DH to plan it all. Every other day of the year is focused on caring for other people in my life.

This day exists! It's your birthday! Reclaim the birthday!!

It doesnt though. Birthdays dont always fall on a weekend when your husband can take over the kids. Also for thise who work, then they at work on their bdays when its not on a weekend.

So just declare the sunday before or after your birthday as your mother's day (if you are forced to spend the real one elsewhere doing things you don't want to do) and then enjoy the day as you see fit. Hell, pick a random saturday or sunday that works well for your favorite season, lull in work schedule, the numbers in the date add up to something meaningful, whatever. It's your day! If you need this on the real mother's day, then you just want to be able to post about how much your family loves you on social media to get into a pissing contest with other moms. If it's truly just about wanting/needing a day focused on you from your kids and family, you can make that whatever day works best for your schedule.

Why can't the 60+ year old moms do this?

x1000

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Anonymous wrote:As a mom of small children, I just want one day that's all about me. I don't want to share with MIL, my mom and our 4 grandmas. Sure, this is selfish, but I want my own day, with my own children and I want DH to plan it all. Every other day of the year is focused on caring for other people in my life.

This day exists! It's your birthday! Reclaim the birthday!!

No. PP gets Mother’s Day with her family. She’s actively mothering and gets priority.

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Anonymous wrote:Does anyone actually WANT to spend time with their DH and kids on Mother's Day?
I am with them all day everyday. I want ONE day to myself.
Thankfully DH is taking the kids all day on some outdoor adventure (weather permitting) so I get to lounge and watch Netflix while eating icecream in bed.

Yes. But I'm not a SAHM. I would love for DH to plan an activity with the kids and I or take us to a winery. Or on a picnic or a hike. I feel like I don't get to see my toddlers enough and they're really enjoyable.

What I don't want is to share my day with MIL.

So don't. Problem solved! Take your kids to a movie. DH can do whatever he likes with his mom.

OP here. I can't take my kids to a movie. I have an infant and a toddler. I need DH to help. My toddler doesn't understand what mothers day is about yet. I'd be pissed if DH left me alone to celebrate his mom.

Then tell him you'd like your special day to be Saturday. He can take her out Sunday. But if it is really about a date on a calendar, then either draw your line in the sand with him, or stop complaining about this dynamic that you are choosing to be a part of.

F#ck that. MIL gets Saturday or even another weekend.

invited like 20 people over for a bbq, half are single, half are families with kids...celebrating coming from a mother (before the pc police come out, they are close friends, I know they all have mothers)

I wish I had some other family members around to celebrate with. MIL and FIL live 5 hours away and spend most holidays (including mother’s day) with their friends at their vacation condo. On the off chance they’re at home - again, 5 hours away - on Mother’s Day, they don’t actually celebrate because my two SIL’s (my husband’s 2 sisters) are infertile and big time child free/child hater, so Mothers Day is a big trigger for them.

My parents are about 10 hours away driving, and spend Mother’s Day with the rest of my family - my siblings (neither of whom have kids but it’s not a big thing), aunts, uncles, cousins, and their children. They have a big get-together at my one cousin’s house. It’s really fun - I was able to go last year. But now I’m very pregnant and it’s high risk and I’m cut off from travel. So my only plans are taking my 3 year old to soccer in the morning where I will be too pregnant to do anything but stand there awkwardly, then maybe we’ll go out for a late lunch/early dinner later in the day. And I’ll have to look at all their cute pictures on Facebook later.