Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 18:06     Subject: Re:DH appears overly chummy with much younger woman
Anonymous wrote:
The woman is from Eastern Europe. It doesn't matter if he's not a billionaire or a millionaire. If someone does reasonably well in America especially the DC area, he's just as good as a millionaire over there.


How is this cliches about EE women ok to say? Would it be better if she was from South America? What if she was black?



It isn't a cliche; there are really culture differences and attitudes toward dating, marriage, fidelity, and gender roles/ageing. I am the poster who lived in Eastern Europe for many years. As much as you would like to believe that every other country and culture is basically the same as your own, with only language differences, that isn't how it is. You sound as if you haven't ever lived in another country (walking around tourist destinations doesn't give you an authentic experience, either).
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 16:43     Subject: Re:DH appears overly chummy with much younger woman
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
The woman is from Eastern Europe. It doesn't matter if he's not a billionaire or a millionaire. If someone does reasonably well in America especially the DC area, he's just as good as a millionaire over there.


How is this cliches about EE women ok to say? Would it be better if she was from South America? What if she was black?



It's okay to make generalizations about white people.


Yea, I've noticed that across the board.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 15:45     Subject: Re:DH appears overly chummy with much younger woman
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Normally I would say you are fine because I can't imagine the average 30 year old woman wants to get with a 65 year old man.

Maybe she has daddy issues and he is a replacement dad for her?

You are so very naive.


How is a 65 year old man attractive to a 30 yo woman? Gross.

Even if he’s in phenomenal shape for his age, he’s still going to be wrinkly and saggy under his clothes. Plus gray hair?

Melania and Donald Trump.


Melania was a party girl. There's zero evidence she was a legitimate working model before they met.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 15:42     Subject: Re:DH appears overly chummy with much younger woman
Anonymous wrote:Normally I would say you are fine because I can't imagine the average 30 year old woman wants to get with a 65 year old man.

Maybe she has daddy issues and he is a replacement dad for her?


Yea. And unless they are Eastern European, have Daddy issues, and assume he has money. You know the answer already, OP.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 15:17     Subject: Re:DH appears overly chummy with much younger woman
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
The woman is from Eastern Europe. It doesn't matter if he's not a billionaire or a millionaire. If someone does reasonably well in America especially the DC area, he's just as good as a millionaire over there.


How is this cliches about EE women ok to say? Would it be better if she was from South America? What if she was black?



It's okay to make generalizations about white people.


Then you get to do it with everyone. Can't have it both ways.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 15:12     Subject: DH appears overly chummy with much younger woman
wow other peoples lives are so much more interesting than mine!
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 15:03     Subject: DH appears overly chummy with much younger woman
Anonymous wrote:I have known several Eastern European women here, typically on work visas as au pairs etc. all will tel you they have no prospects in their home country regardless of education and marrying a rich man is about the very best you can hope for. The women i knew all did just that. They are very traditional and lot of men want that in a spouse.


That's great, other peoples spouses are off limits though.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 14:25     Subject: DH appears overly chummy with much younger woman
I have known several Eastern European women here, typically on work visas as au pairs etc. all will tel you they have no prospects in their home country regardless of education and marrying a rich man is about the very best you can hope for. The women i knew all did just that. They are very traditional and lot of men want that in a spouse.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 13:55     Subject: DH appears overly chummy with much younger woman
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just tell him how you feel. If he pooh-poohs it, ask him how he would feel if you had the same relationship with a handsome, up-and-coming 30 something colleague and was calling him “dear” and telling him details about your life. Sometimes, you have to spell it out for people.


Calling some dear is not sa day.

Babe, baby, even sweetheart or honey would be red flags.

But dear sounds very platonic, father/daughter to me.


If that was the only behavior, sure, but not when you consider the other behaviors.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 13:34     Subject: Re:DH appears overly chummy with much younger woman
I'm a 30yo married to an older man myself. I don't think this other woman would be as interested in OP's husband because who wants to deal with someone's wife turned ex-wife? It's a very unpleasant dynamic. Might as well go for someone who divorced a long time ago and doesn't have someone hating his guts.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 13:31     Subject: DH appears overly chummy with much younger woman
It’s safe to say she finds him physically repulsive and doesn’t genuinely WANT to sleep with him. However, it depends on what she wants from him and what she’s willing to do for it. I would be very wary.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 13:18     Subject: Re:DH appears overly chummy with much younger woman
Anonymous wrote:
The woman is from Eastern Europe. It doesn't matter if he's not a billionaire or a millionaire. If someone does reasonably well in America especially the DC area, he's just as good as a millionaire over there.


How is this cliches about EE women ok to say? Would it be better if she was from South America? What if she was black?



It's okay to make generalizations about white people.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 13:14     Subject: Re:DH appears overly chummy with much younger woman
Anonymous wrote:
Am I just intimidated because she’s 30, slender, and has a “sexy” foreign accent?
Also, our mutual friends have never said they suspected anything, not that I’ve asked. They like her.


^I think this is your answer.
Your husband seems like a really nice guy, helping others is not unusual for him, it just happens that this woman is young, hot and being EE, probably a little warmer and spontaneous than others.
Of course, you can't just stop feeling what you're feeling - so tell him about it. I'm sure he'll tone it down. But it would be silly to stop any communication with this woman just because of your insecurities. It's also not fair to your husband who seems loyal and a good man.



+1.

OP seems to be full of insecurities.

(Or maybe she just doesn't like people from Eastern Europe)
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 13:12     Subject: Re:DH appears overly chummy with much younger woman
OP a lot of boundaries seem to have been crossed by your DH. I'm really not sure why you would have tolerated that over the years.

Time for this woman to be out of your lives. She sounds like a leech.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 13:07     Subject: Re:DH appears overly chummy with much younger woman
The woman is from Eastern Europe. It doesn't matter if he's not a billionaire or a millionaire. If someone does reasonably well in America especially the DC area, he's just as good as a millionaire over there.


How is this cliches about EE women ok to say? Would it be better if she was from South America? What if she was black?