Anonymous wrote:Whenever I am going to someone’s house I make sure my feet are “presentable,” just in case I need to take my shoes off. Those of you who are so inconvenienced by having to do so are inconveniencing us, the people who don’t want the crap from your shoes all over our house.

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Anonymous wrote:Whenever I am going to someone’s house I make sure my feet are “presentable,” just in case I need to take my shoes off. Those of you who are so inconvenienced by having to do so are inconveniencing us, the people who don’t want the crap from your shoes all over our house.

Maybe the poors who can’t afford a swiffer shouldn’t invite people over.

And the pesticides from outside. Yuck. Try to be civilized- or just stay home.

A stiffer doesn’t clean dirt, fertilizer, pollen and pesticides out of your carpet either.

I don’t need to visit anyone who worries I’m going to scratch their HARDWOOD floors for the brief time I’m there. On the other hand all those chemicals from your swifter don’t need to be absorbed by my feet. That’s ok we can meet at a restaurant. Or not.

People who are more concerned with the cleanliness/condition of their floors rather than the comfort of their guests SHOULD NOT BE HOSTING. Full stop.

It does not always have to do with cleanliness, but allergies and medical conditions of the host. Full stop.

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Anonymous wrote:Whenever I am going to someone’s house I make sure my feet are “presentable,” just in case I need to take my shoes off. Those of you who are so inconvenienced by having to do so are inconveniencing us, the people who don’t want the crap from your shoes all over our house.

Maybe the poors who can’t afford a swiffer shouldn’t invite people over.

And the pesticides from outside. Yuck. Try to be civilized- or just stay home.

A stiffer doesn’t clean dirt, fertilizer, pollen and pesticides out of your carpet either.

I don’t need to visit anyone who worries I’m going to scratch their HARDWOOD floors for the brief time I’m there. On the other hand all those chemicals from your swifter don’t need to be absorbed by my feet. That’s ok we can meet at a restaurant. Or not.

People who are more concerned with the cleanliness/condition of their floors rather than the comfort of their guests SHOULD NOT BE HOSTING. Full stop.

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Anonymous wrote:Whenever I am going to someone’s house I make sure my feet are “presentable,” just in case I need to take my shoes off. Those of you who are so inconvenienced by having to do so are inconveniencing us, the people who don’t want the crap from your shoes all over our house.

Maybe the poors who can’t afford a swiffer shouldn’t invite people over.

And the pesticides from outside. Yuck. Try to be civilized- or just stay home.

A stiffer doesn’t clean dirt, fertilizer, pollen and pesticides out of your carpet either.

I don’t need to visit anyone who worries I’m going to scratch their HARDWOOD floors for the brief time I’m there. On the other hand all those chemicals from your swifter don’t need to be absorbed by my feet. That’s ok we can meet at a restaurant. Or not.

Anonymous wrote:My parents - whom I love to the depth of my soul - have funny rules regarding garbage.

They have a big garbage can in the kitchen but you're not allowed to put anything in it. They have a small bag in the sink and you have to put most of your garbage into that, but sometimes the garbage goes into another bag they keep on the floor next to the big can.

They also have several recycling receptacles and you must be sure that you put the right thing into the right receptacle.

I'm 45 years old and still haven't cracked their system.

Anonymous wrote:My sil is a generally clean, neat person with a stylish house. But every inch of their furniture is covered in pet fur. I love pets, but I hate sitting on fur. It drives me nuts, and I can't understand how they just make themselves comfortable on all the fur.

My mil was so particular about house rules that guests would be in a frenzy by the end of the visit (like a week at their lake house). We'd bicker amongst ourselves about where we were supposed to put our towels because wet ones go in the upstairs bathroom but not the downstairs bathroom unless it's Sunday, and which ceiling fan MUST ALWAYS be left on all night, no she said NEVER TURN ON THAT FAN, and oh crap, she said not to use the red crochet pot holders, or was it the yellow? I think she enjoyed the chaos.

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Anonymous wrote:Whenever I am going to someone’s house I make sure my feet are “presentable,” just in case I need to take my shoes off. Those of you who are so inconvenienced by having to do so are inconveniencing us, the people who don’t want the crap from your shoes all over our house.

Maybe the poors who can’t afford a swiffer shouldn’t invite people over.

And the pesticides from outside. Yuck. Try to be civilized- or just stay home.

A stiffer doesn’t clean dirt, fertilizer, pollen and pesticides out of your carpet either.

I don’t need to visit anyone who worries I’m going to scratch their HARDWOOD floors for the brief time I’m there. On the other hand all those chemicals from your swifter don’t need to be absorbed by my feet. That’s ok we can meet at a restaurant. Or not.

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Anonymous wrote:Whenever I am going to someone’s house I make sure my feet are “presentable,” just in case I need to take my shoes off. Those of you who are so inconvenienced by having to do so are inconveniencing us, the people who don’t want the crap from your shoes all over our house.

Maybe the poors who can’t afford a swiffer shouldn’t invite people over.

And the pesticides from outside. Yuck. Try to be civilized- or just stay home.

A stiffer doesn’t clean dirt, fertilizer, pollen and pesticides out of your carpet either.

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Anonymous wrote:It's 2019, and you live near DC. Assume that if you are going to a household where at least one adult is of Asian descent, you will have to remove your shoes. Get over it. I prepare for all kinds of cultural differences when I go to white people's homes...

I agree with you.

NP and genuinely curious: how do you prepare for cultural differences in white people's homes? (Just curious for the perspective that I might not be aware of.)

NP, but my husband and I always eat before visiting our white friends. We know it's likely that we won't like the food, they won't serve food, or they'll serve something weird to eat at a party like soup.

When we host parties and we know some of our white friends will be coming, we tell them a different time to show up because we don't want them showing up hours before everyone else. We also choose a more "palatable" playlist that won't make them uncomfortable, and we set up a quiet space because they frequently complain that the party is too loud. Conversely, we think it's weird to throw a party with no music, no food, and everyone sitting in a circle staring at one another.

We also eat beforehand mainly because we are vegetarians and will usually find nothing to eat. Once our friends called me to celebrate my birthday and forgot to make something vegetarian and I genuinely was okay with it since I understand that it’s something new for them.
I make sure that I have napkins available during meals at our home( we wash our hands in the sink after meals), cook with less spice for them and always try to make a dish recognizable to them like spaghetti.

What is with this weird white people bashing? I’m a vegetarian and rarely have trouble finding something to eat.

How is this white peoples bashing? The only they served was soup and I couldn’t have the soup but like I said no big deal.
BTW this happens in any home that we visit that are huge meat eaters, especially if it’s like a barbeque. PP asked specifically about white people and all the white people I know are meat eaters.

I’m vegan (and white) and I also have trouble finding things to eat. Once at a cookout they made me a plain grilled portobello mushroom. It was kind, but only around 30 calories so I was still starving. It’s not a big deal, I would have difficulty serving someone who only wanted meat since I can’t cook it worth a damn, so I understand and try to eat beforehand or bring along a dish to share that I can fill up on.

Anonymous wrote:I, like most people I knew, grew up with shoes on inside the house. We survived. We no more got sick than the shoes off households did nor were our houses any dirtier. You're just being paranoid. Believe me your house is a lot "filthier" than you think and I'm sure your door handles and staircase banister are covered with germs and even worse from your bathroom usage and your husband and son's masturbating. It's entirely in your mind that your house is cleaner by taking your shoes off.

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I am going to someone’s house I make sure my feet are “presentable,” just in case I need to take my shoes off. Those of you who are so inconvenienced by having to do so are inconveniencing us, the people who don’t want the crap from your shoes all over our house.

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Anonymous wrote:Getting back to the thread topic - we stayed at someone’s house who had a policy of not flushing if it was just no.1 or the kids poops. Trying to save the environment. So all the bathrooms would be full of waste when you went in them.

Oh that is really gross. No freakin' way could I stay in a house like that.