Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 18:11     Subject: Did the bisexual thing pass?
Anonymous wrote:(This being DCUM, I expect posts about how dare I treat it like a phase, a negative thing, whatever else. I really don’t care. Go ahead and skip this post then.)

17 yr DD never showed any leaning toward anything other than being straight until a year or so ago. Now claims to be bi. I know it’s strangely a trendy thing now.

Has your daughter had this pass and is back to being straight?


The ultimate new thing is being trans bi.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 16:32     Subject: Did the bisexual thing pass?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My parents only ever knew I dated men and that I married a man. I came out to bi to them a few months ago at 33 (yes, my husband's known since we started dating). So just because you haven't seen her show interest in girls doesn't mean she hasn't...


PP here -- wanted to add, at least she trusted you enough to tell you. As I said, I waited until I was 33 to share that part of my life with my parents for many reasons, but mostly because I was scared of what their reaction would be. I only told them now because 1) they might find out anyway (I've been talking about it more publicly of late) and 2) I'm self sufficient and if they wanted to not talk to me because of it, it wouldn't matter.

So, just support her and don't worry about whether she's going to "revert." That's exactly why people don't tell their parents.


How is it relevant if you are married to a man now though? I don’t get it.


Because it’s only cheating if he’s against it? Either three people all involved or a relationship that she has with another woman, with his knowledge and approval.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 16:26     Subject: Did the bisexual thing pass?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s a phase. I am in my early 30s and as a teen about 3 of my friends claimed the same but are clearly with men now.


It is entirely possible for bi women to be in relationships with men (or for bi men to be in relationships with women). That would seem to be so obvious as to go without saying, but evidently not.


So true. My former ILs chose to ignore that my SIL had relationships with women her entire twenties because she married their son. It’s convenient for them to believe it was a phase. As a result, they were shocked when they tried to tell my DD that she would grow out of it like her aunt and aunt corrected them that she never stopped being attracted to women.


Basically some women are bi, but choose to exclusively be with a man at some point. Not a problem.

Why would they be "shocked"? Sexuality is personal and not something that has to be labeled or talked about non stop.

PSA to young people: stop talking about your sexuality with Mom Dad and relatives unless you bring a SO home or present in public as the opposite sex. They don't need to know your personal life unless it becomes public. [/quote

"Present in public as the opposite sex?" Yeah. That would do it.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 16:18     Subject: Did the bisexual thing pass?
Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a horrible bigot.

For SOME people, identifying as bi (or gay or straight or whatever) might be a phase. For others, it's an articulation of their actual sexual orientation.

I am a bi woman who is married to a bi man. The fact that I am married to him does not make me any less bi. I am attracted to women and men. That's just who I am, just like your sexual orientation is who you are. It's really that simple.


Total curiosity - why did you marry each other?
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 15:39     Subject: Did the bisexual thing pass?
Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a horrible bigot.


Seems to have touched a nerve. And I love how you seem to preach against being judgemental and then show hownyou are, in fact, judgemental. I love the hypocrisy from a certain segment of society.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 15:33     Subject: Did the bisexual thing pass?
OP, you are a horrible bigot.

For SOME people, identifying as bi (or gay or straight or whatever) might be a phase. For others, it's an articulation of their actual sexual orientation.

I am a bi woman who is married to a bi man. The fact that I am married to him does not make me any less bi. I am attracted to women and men. That's just who I am, just like your sexual orientation is who you are. It's really that simple.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 12:56     Subject: Did the bisexual thing pass?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s a phase. I am in my early 30s and as a teen about 3 of my friends claimed the same but are clearly with men now.


It is entirely possible for bi women to be in relationships with men (or for bi men to be in relationships with women). That would seem to be so obvious as to go without saying, but evidently not.


So true. My former ILs chose to ignore that my SIL had relationships with women her entire twenties because she married their son. It’s convenient for them to believe it was a phase. As a result, they were shocked when they tried to tell my DD that she would grow out of it like her aunt and aunt corrected them that she never stopped being attracted to women.


Basically some women are bi, but choose to exclusively be with a man at some point. Not a problem.

Why would they be "shocked"? Sexuality is personal and not something that has to be labeled or talked about non stop.

PSA to young people: stop talking about your sexuality with Mom Dad and relatives unless you bring a SO home or present in public as the opposite sex. They don't need to know your personal life unless it becomes public.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 12:10     Subject: Did the bisexual thing pass?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s a phase. I am in my early 30s and as a teen about 3 of my friends claimed the same but are clearly with men now.


It is entirely possible for bi women to be in relationships with men (or for bi men to be in relationships with women). That would seem to be so obvious as to go without saying, but evidently not.


So true. My former ILs chose to ignore that my SIL had relationships with women her entire twenties because she married their son. It’s convenient for them to believe it was a phase. As a result, they were shocked when they tried to tell my DD that she would grow out of it like her aunt and aunt corrected them that she never stopped being attracted to women.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 12:05     Subject: Did the bisexual thing pass?
And this matters...why? I don’t get it, OP.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 12:03     Subject: Did the bisexual thing pass?
My DD once said of her female friends who identify as gay/bi “I really think it’s because so many high school boys act immature or stupid. They choose to be in relationships with more mature girls simply because it’s emotionally easier. I wonder if they’ll still be gay as adults?“

She said what I was wondering. I think we need to wait 20-30 years to see how this generation that so comfortably views sexual identity plays it all out.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 10:24     Subject: Did the bisexual thing pass?
Anonymous wrote:It’s a phase. I am in my early 30s and as a teen about 3 of my friends claimed the same but are clearly with men now.


It is entirely possible for bi women to be in relationships with men (or for bi men to be in relationships with women). That would seem to be so obvious as to go without saying, but evidently not.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 09:42     Subject: Did the bisexual thing pass?
It’s a phase. I am in my early 30s and as a teen about 3 of my friends claimed the same but are clearly with men now.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 09:36     Subject: Did the bisexual thing pass?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Think of it this way: Could you be attracted to a different gender just as a fashion statement? Probably not, huh? So if she says she's bi, she's probably genuinely attracted to women. Whether she continues to act on that attraction, is a different story.


Of course you could. You obviously don't know any impressionable, gullible, naive, easily manipulated teen age girls.


Such contempt for teen girls. They can’t possibly know who they have sexual or romantic feelings for. Wow, having a vagina is so confusing.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 09:07     Subject: Did the bisexual thing pass?
Anonymous wrote:When we lived closer to the city. It seemed lots of kids were gay to please thier parents. Now we have moved farther out and kids correct the teachers when they bring up all the new identities. My daughters teacher got really pissed off when a kid told her. I've only seen boys and girls at school. And even the coexist bumper stickers only have boy and girl sexes on them!


What on earth are you talking about? Are you confusing gender identity with sexual preference and judging children for being open about their feelings? What city did you live near where children assume a gay persona to please their parents?
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 08:53     Subject: Did the bisexual thing pass?
Anonymous wrote:When we lived closer to the city. It seemed lots of kids were gay to please thier parents. Now we have moved farther out and kids correct the teachers when they bring up all the new identities. My daughters teacher got really pissed off when a kid told her. I've only seen boys and girls at school. And even the coexist bumper stickers only have boy and girl sexes on them!


Gay to please their parents? Are you kidding me?