Anonymous wrote:Interesting. Men, do you think this way about women you see fairly frequently and find attractive, like acquaintances, kids’ friends’ moms, etc? Or more just when you see a random attractive woman in the grocery store?

All women. They fall into 3 categories:
1. Nope, not worth the risk and the thought ends there
2. Would I, if I found her naked in my bed, risk my marriage? If yes, I imagine what that would be like.
3. I would, even if DW was in the next room, risk everything for a shot at the title.

In the cases of 2 and 3, I try to picture them and wonder about their preference of pubic styling.

There is a woman I've had a crush on for months. Every time I look at her I wonder what she looks like naked, what she tastes like, her favorite position and other things I won't share on this forum.

Someday we will be together...

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Anonymous wrote:Women, do you mind that every time your DH or boyfriend sees another woman he is imagining what she looks like naked? As a man, I don't have any problems with my wife imagining what another man looks like nude. I assume everyone does it and it's healthy.

Yes. I do have a problem with it. I don’t really like to think about my husband fantasizing about having sex with other women all day long, and I don’t like thinking that he is imagining I am one of his co-workers when we are having sex.

I agree, it's gross. I get that it's normal and healthy and all, but it makes me never want to have sex ever again. Blech.

So finding out that men think about having sex with women is a turn off for you? Eh...we're guessing you probably weren't all that into it to begin with.

What were her LSAT scores, did she make law review, and does she like her ear lobes nibbled?

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Anonymous wrote:Women, do you mind that every time your DH or boyfriend sees another woman he is imagining what she looks like naked? As a man, I don't have any problems with my wife imagining what another man looks like nude. I assume everyone does it and it's healthy.

Yes. I do have a problem with it. I don’t really like to think about my husband fantasizing about having sex with other women all day long, and I don’t like thinking that he is imagining I am one of his co-workers when we are having sex.

I agree, it's gross. I get that it's normal and healthy and all, but it makes me never want to have sex ever again. Blech.

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Anonymous wrote:Women, do you mind that every time your DH or boyfriend sees another woman he is imagining what she looks like naked? As a man, I don't have any problems with my wife imagining what another man looks like nude. I assume everyone does it and it's healthy.

Yes. I do have a problem with it. I don’t really like to think about my husband fantasizing about having sex with other women all day long, and I don’t like thinking that he is imagining I am one of his co-workers when we are having sex.

There’s nothing you can do about it. If you want to benefit from having a man with a healthy testosterone level then you have to deal with the side effects. It’s just biology.

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Anonymous wrote:Women, do you mind that every time your DH or boyfriend sees another woman he is imagining what she looks like naked? As a man, I don't have any problems with my wife imagining what another man looks like nude. I assume everyone does it and it's healthy.

Yes. I do have a problem with it. I don’t really like to think about my husband fantasizing about having sex with other women all day long, and I don’t like thinking that he is imagining I am one of his co-workers when we are having sex.

If you're keeping it hot in the bedroom, enthusiastically and often, and flirting with him during the day, he's probably more interested in what you have planned for him later than he is in the hottie 3 cubicles down who, let's face it, is just an HR complaint waiting to happen. If it's just duty sex grudgingly doled out while you count ceiling tiles, then, yeah, he's thinking about Little Miss HR Complaint.

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Anonymous wrote:Women, do you mind that every time your DH or boyfriend sees another woman he is imagining what she looks like naked? As a man, I don't have any problems with my wife imagining what another man looks like nude. I assume everyone does it and it's healthy.

Yes. I do have a problem with it. I don’t really like to think about my husband fantasizing about having sex with other women all day long, and I don’t like thinking that he is imagining I am one of his co-workers when we are having sex.

There's really nothing you can do about it. The mind is what it is. I guess you could neuter him but that would be of no benefit to you sexually. I also think "fantasize" is a bit inaccurate. I would use the term "wonder" or "imagine" (if that makes you feel better).

Anonymous wrote:Women, do you mind that every time your DH or boyfriend sees another woman he is imagining what she looks like naked? As a man, I don't have any problems with my wife imagining what another man looks like nude. I assume everyone does it and it's healthy.

Yes. I do have a problem with it. I don’t really like to think about my husband fantasizing about having sex with other women all day long, and I don’t like thinking that he is imagining I am one of his co-workers when we are having sex.

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Anonymous wrote:Woman here, the responses seem exhausting. I can’t imagine experiencing these kinds of thoughts all day long. It seems distracting and akin to torture honestly. I’m just wondering how men are able to focus and mostly play it off??

Seriously...How is any of this news to you? How long have you been an human living on Earth?

My mind is wired completely differently so I guess I just forgot. Not judging just wondering

Hey, judge all you want. I don't know a single man who doesn't love being wired this way. Something has to be really going wrong to not have these thoughts. For me, it's kind of a general health check.

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Anonymous wrote:Woman here, the responses seem exhausting. I can’t imagine experiencing these kinds of thoughts all day long. It seems distracting and akin to torture honestly. I’m just wondering how men are able to focus and mostly play it off??

Seriously...How is any of this news to you? How long have you been an human living on Earth?

My mind is wired completely differently so I guess I just forgot. Not judging just wondering

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Anonymous wrote:Woman here, the responses seem exhausting. I can’t imagine experiencing these kinds of thoughts all day long. It seems distracting and akin to torture honestly. I’m just wondering how men are able to focus and mostly play it off??

Well, it certainly explains why men are so bad at multi-tasking!

No, because that is a myth. And men are perfectly capable of doing other things while having a sex fantasy. And it's not like women aren't constantly distracted by their feelz (not to mention, their phones) every waking minute.

In fact, we can do other things while having sex.

Anonymous wrote:Woman here, the responses seem exhausting. I can’t imagine experiencing these kinds of thoughts all day long. It seems distracting and akin to torture honestly. I’m just wondering how men are able to focus and mostly play it off??

I can't imagine what it must be like to be a woman and constantly thinking about how attractive another woman is and not measuring up. That, to me, would be torture. Unfortunately, women mostly DON'T play it off.

Anonymous wrote:Woman here, the responses seem exhausting. I can’t imagine experiencing these kinds of thoughts all day long. It seems distracting and akin to torture honestly. I’m just wondering how men are able to focus and mostly play it off??

"Sorry, honey, I can't do all those household things you wanted me to do, I'm too exhausted from my constant sex thoughts."

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Anonymous wrote:Woman here, the responses seem exhausting. I can’t imagine experiencing these kinds of thoughts all day long. It seems distracting and akin to torture honestly. I’m just wondering how men are able to focus and mostly play it off??

Well, it certainly explains why men are so bad at multi-tasking!

No, because that is a myth. And men are perfectly capable of doing other things while having a sex fantasy. And it's not like women aren't constantly distracted by their feelz (not to mention, their phones) every waking minute.