Anonymous wrote:Realize that most people in the world don’t make nearly this much.

And that people’s worth in this world is more than what they make in salary.

Anonymous wrote:Look, it's right to be jealous of these f*ktards who earn 500k plus. Unless they are surgeons saving babies, they literally do not deserve it, and they are stripping money from the economy and adding nothing. I've seen their comp packages -- nothing but a circle jerk of escalating rip offs.

eat. the. rich.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband has started making 7 figures in the last couple of years (previously at least $500k per year), it really hasn’t changed our lives other than we are padding our savings in a big way. I guess people may be shocked if they ever found out as we don’t live like he makes that much- he still drives a 10 year old car to work, we live in a relatively modest house, (value is less than he makes per year), and I’d like to do a winter and/or break trip but he thinks airline tickets are too expensive!! It’s a little ridiculous. Not sick to your stomach envy-worthy! Not sure how much he wants socked away before we can actually enjoy it. I really don’t feel any different or have a different lifestyle than my friends other than I don’t work anymore.

It changes your life in that a lot of worry magically melts away. That is such a big thing, and something worthy of being jealous of.

True, but we have felt that way for a long time because we live way below our means. Sometimes I wonder if we are being too cheap and should just get the nice house etc.

I would imagine it’s much easier to live way below your means when your HHI is around $500k. From where we sit at less than half of that, still paying off student loans, and a kid in daycare, to live way below our means we’d likely have to leave the DMV, or not purchased a house. We’re not scraping by, but we don’t have much of a security blanket. And with that comes a lot of worry.

I totally get what you were are saying- but I also know what it is like to have a $160K HHI in this area (this is after finally finding a job after getting laid off for 5 months in a terrible job market), new baby, high daycare bill and a mortgage. We still lived below our means. Luckily we did so we could afford our place on one salary during the lay-off. Now obviously things aren’t as stressful money-wise but I don’t feel any different as a person. I’m trying to say that unless your friend is now acting snobby and better than you, you shouldn’t let money drive a wedge in your relationship. Who knows, someday you could be in the same boat. Friends are more valuable than extra zeros in a bank account.

Then maybe that friend should give her some of those extra zeroes.

I really don't think you get how you sound here: Ah, well. All things are good with the right attitude. We were poor-ish for a few years, too. But it all worked out for us, and you should feel zen about it, too. Money changes nothing. I still shop at GAP, so I get you.

I have a BIL (no kids, no wife) who makes 400K a year who constantly complains about repairs to his 2.5mil home. He truly does not get how this sounds to people who don't have money to put in their retirement accounts. He thinks it's exactly the same as when one of his middle-class friends complains about an expensive home repair, or college costs, or somesuch.

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Anonymous wrote:500k is the new 100k

That's nice. As a fed, can I have my annual 1.2% raise now, or are we getting frozen again?

Anonymous wrote:Look, it's right to be jealous of these f*ktards who earn 500k plus. Unless they are surgeons saving babies, they literally do not deserve it, and they are stripping money from the economy and adding nothing. I've seen their comp packages -- nothing but a circle jerk of escalating rip offs.

eat. the. rich.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband has started making 7 figures in the last couple of years (previously at least $500k per year), it really hasn’t changed our lives other than we are padding our savings in a big way. I guess people may be shocked if they ever found out as we don’t live like he makes that much- he still drives a 10 year old car to work, we live in a relatively modest house, (value is less than he makes per year), and I’d like to do a winter and/or break trip but he thinks airline tickets are too expensive!! It’s a little ridiculous. Not sick to your stomach envy-worthy! Not sure how much he wants socked away before we can actually enjoy it. I really don’t feel any different or have a different lifestyle than my friends other than I don’t work anymore.

It changes your life in that a lot of worry magically melts away. That is such a big thing, and something worthy of being jealous of.

True, but we have felt that way for a long time because we live way below our means. Sometimes I wonder if we are being too cheap and should just get the nice house etc.

I would imagine it’s much easier to live way below your means when your HHI is around $500k. From where we sit at less than half of that, still paying off student loans, and a kid in daycare, to live way below our means we’d likely have to leave the DMV, or not purchased a house. We’re not scraping by, but we don’t have much of a security blanket. And with that comes a lot of worry.

I totally get what you were are saying- but I also know what it is like to have a $160K HHI in this area (this is after finally finding a job after getting laid off for 5 months in a terrible job market), new baby, high daycare bill and a mortgage. We still lived below our means. Luckily we did so we could afford our place on one salary during the lay-off. Now obviously things aren’t as stressful money-wise but I don’t feel any different as a person. I’m trying to say that unless your friend is now acting snobby and better than you, you shouldn’t let money drive a wedge in your relationship. Who knows, someday you could be in the same boat. Friends are more valuable than extra zeros in a bank account.

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Anonymous wrote:Look, it's right to be jealous of these f*ktards who earn 500k plus. Unless they are surgeons saving babies, they literally do not deserve it, and they are stripping money from the economy and adding nothing. I've seen their comp packages -- nothing but a circle jerk of escalating rip offs.

eat. the. rich.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t stop thinking about this. It’s not like some flashy tech job with stock options or dental surgeon or law partner. Totally unexpected.

You ever been caught off guard after a friend let it slip they’re doing really well?

When I was 25 and single and working an unrewarding job, I went to visit a childhood friend who despite not going to college had just bought a large new home containing three cars plus a motorcycle in his garage, and was about to get married. I wish I could say that I had the wisdom to change my life right then and there, but it took me about 5 years to really turn my life around. Some people shy away from successful people because of how it makes them feel. Some even seek out friends who are doing worse just to feel better about themselves in comparison. However I have since realized that one of the key ways to improve my own situation is to surround myself with those who are doing better than me, like my childhood friend. From him I learned the importance of being entrepreneurial, investing wisely, and giving up short term consumption for long term gains. I have found successful people to be incredibly generous and willing to share their experience once they discover that you are not jealous of them. Therefore I've trained myself to quickly get beyond the initial shock within a matter of 10-20 seconds and move on to expressing genuine curiosity of their achievements.

The flip side is also true. I generally do not discuss our finances with friends and let the chips fall where they may as they observe our consumption - I am not going to hold my enjoyment back for the sake of others. Some friends have stuck with us, most have not.

Love this. I try to adopt the same attitude, and expect the same of others who see us enjoying our money. We don’t go around flaunting our money or telling people how much we make, but I can’t imagine not being able to take a nice trip, like a PP had mentioned, for fear of others becoming jealous. This is why it’s hard for people in different SES to be friends with each other.

+1

Also, the most popular question in the D.C. area is the most offensive question you could ask anyone: "what do you do"? Because you are basically asking them how much they make. If you are about picking someone's brain (professionally or financially), it will be obvious, and also offensive. Too many people try to do that at cocktail parties, and I know more than a handful of people who give the wrong answers (ie: give the story of a less successful guy they know, because they think the brain picking is rude).

Anonymous wrote:Look, it's right to be jealous of these f*ktards who earn 500k plus. Unless they are surgeons saving babies, they literally do not deserve it, and they are stripping money from the economy and adding nothing. I've seen their comp packages -- nothing but a circle jerk of escalating rip offs.

eat. the. rich.