Anonymous
11/03/2018 10:23
Subject: My mom told 5yr old being gay is wrong.
Anonymous wrote:Good for grandma to be honest.
For spreading hate, lies and ignorance? That’s not what religion should be about.
Anonymous
11/03/2018 02:26
Subject: My mom told 5yr old being gay is wrong.
Good for grandma to be honest.
Anonymous
11/03/2018 02:24
Subject: My mom told 5yr old being gay is wrong.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Let your son form his own opinion. No need to tear the family apart.
This is ridiculous. Grandma is a bigot.
If my 95 year old Fox News watching Korean War vet Grandpa can warmly welcome my brother’s husband into our family, others can get in line. It is ridiculous to be so hateful in this day and age.
Is it really worth calling grandma names over it? Don’t scarifie your family for gay marriage
Why do you blame the mom for standing up for human rights for tearing the family apart? Why not blame grandma who’s being bigoted and homophobic for being the one who’s tearing the family apart? What if the kid winds up being gay? Do they still need to accept grandma’s beliefs?
Because it's obviously a big deal to grandma, not that big of a deal to op
Where did you come up with that notion? OP was pretty upset that grandma tried to pass on her bigotry to the next generation.
And are you really saying that if someone feels strongly about another person not deserving civil rights, they should be heard and accepted? What if grandma felt equally strongly about interracial marriage being sinful? Should OP avoid family strife and keep quiet?
Anonymous
11/02/2018 23:32
Subject: My mom told 5yr old being gay is wrong.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Let your son form his own opinion. No need to tear the family apart.
This is ridiculous. Grandma is a bigot.
If my 95 year old Fox News watching Korean War vet Grandpa can warmly welcome my brother’s husband into our family, others can get in line. It is ridiculous to be so hateful in this day and age.
Is it really worth calling grandma names over it? Don’t scarifie your family for gay marriage
Why do you blame the mom for standing up for human rights for tearing the family apart? Why not blame grandma who’s being bigoted and homophobic for being the one who’s tearing the family apart? What if the kid winds up being gay? Do they still need to accept grandma’s beliefs?
Because it's obviously a big deal to grandma, not that big of a deal to op
Anonymous
11/02/2018 17:54
Subject: My mom told 5yr old being gay is wrong.
Do not tell him your mother is crazy, tell him there are same sex people married to each other and the law allows it. Grandma has some ideas she grew up with. We don't discuss these topics with her.
Anonymous
11/02/2018 16:18
Subject: My mom told 5yr old being gay is wrong.
This is a five year old. Grandma is wrong that boys can’t marry boys so telling your son that he was right and Grandma is wrong is all that needs to be said unless he wants to know more.
Anonymous
11/01/2018 19:00
Subject: Re:My mom told 5yr old being gay is wrong.
Anonymous wrote:
On the other hand, it's also bad to tell him that your mom's views are wrong just because you disagree with her.
-10000
Would it be bad to tell him your mom's views about Black people being (XYZ) compared to White people are wrong? Of course. This isn't different. Some people are wrong and its immoral to let hate/bigotry fester.
Thank you. Bigots want to normalize their views so that they are accepted. Trump hasn't created bigotry but he's made it acceptable tp proudly parade your bigotry around without shame. I would tell Grandma point blank that bigotry is not acceptable in my house or near my child. If she insists on sharing this then she will not be seeing her grandchild. Its her choice -keep her bigotry to herself or leave us all alone.
Anonymous
11/01/2018 18:35
Subject: Re:My mom told 5yr old being gay is wrong.
Anonymous wrote:On the other hand, it's also bad to tell him that your mom's views are wrong just because you disagree with her.
-10000
Would it be bad to tell him your mom's views about Black people being (XYZ) compared to White people are wrong? Of course. This isn't different. Some people are wrong and its immoral to let hate/bigotry fester.
Anonymous
11/01/2018 18:30
Subject: Re:My mom told 5yr old being gay is wrong.
Anonymous wrote:?Anonymous wrote:
On the other hand, it's also bad to tell him that your mom's views are wrong just because you disagree with her.
If the OP thought her mom's views were right, presumably she would also hold them. So, since that is not the case..what is she supposed to say? The view is wrong. It is what it is.
Different is not wrong. It is different.
In this case, it’s also wrong.
Once upon a time these “different” views included things like black people being inferior. Do you want to teach your children that’s not wrong
And this is the best way to explain it.
Tell your son that your mom comes from a different time, when people didn't understand the concept of being gay, but that people know much more about it now, and now people don't believe that any more.
It's an awful way to explain it. When I met old ladies who were not anti-Semites, xenophobes, or gay-bashers, I knew my grandmother had chosen those positions for herself. And I was about ten when that happened, so it's not even a particularly good way to buy time.
Anonymous
11/01/2018 17:55
Subject: Re:My mom told 5yr old being gay is wrong.
?Anonymous wrote:
On the other hand, it's also bad to tell him that your mom's views are wrong just because you disagree with her.
If the OP thought her mom's views were right, presumably she would also hold them. So, since that is not the case..what is she supposed to say? The view is wrong. It is what it is.
Different is not wrong. It is different.
In this case, it’s also wrong.
Once upon a time these “different” views included things like black people being inferior. Do you want to teach your children that’s not wrong
And this is the best way to explain it.
Tell your son that your mom comes from a different time, when people didn't understand the concept of being gay, but that people know much more about it now, and now people don't believe that any more.
Anonymous
11/01/2018 17:46
Subject: Re:My mom told 5yr old being gay is wrong.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:On the other hand, it's also bad to tell him that your mom's views are wrong just because you disagree with her.
If the OP thought her mom's views were right, presumably she would also hold them. So, since that is not the case..what is she supposed to say? The view is wrong. It is what it is.
Different is not wrong. It is different.
In this case, it’s also wrong.
Once upon a time these “different” views included things like black people being inferior. Do you want to teach your children that’s not wrong?
Anonymous
11/01/2018 16:23
Subject: Re:My mom told 5yr old being gay is wrong.
I think its important to not to avoid this because you don't want to upset grandma. Homophobia is no different than racism. It is not a "different view" or difference in opinion. Kids should be taught early on ti stand up for others against bigotry.
Anonymous
11/01/2018 13:21
Subject: Re:My mom told 5yr old being gay is wrong.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:On the other hand, it's also bad to tell him that your mom's views are wrong just because you disagree with her.
If the OP thought her mom's views were right, presumably she would also hold them. So, since that is not the case..what is she supposed to say? The view is wrong. It is what it is.
Different is not wrong. It is different.
In this case, it’s also wrong.
Anonymous
11/01/2018 02:32
Subject: My mom told 5yr old being gay is wrong.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Let your son form his own opinion. No need to tear the family apart.
This is ridiculous. Grandma is a bigot.
If my 95 year old Fox News watching Korean War vet Grandpa can warmly welcome my brother’s husband into our family, others can get in line. It is ridiculous to be so hateful in this day and age.
Is it really worth calling grandma names over it? Don’t scarifie your family for gay marriage
Why do you blame the mom for standing up for human rights for tearing the family apart? Why not blame grandma who’s being bigoted and homophobic for being the one who’s tearing the family apart? What if the kid winds up being gay? Do they still need to accept grandma’s beliefs?
Anonymous
10/31/2018 21:22
Subject: Re:My mom told 5yr old being gay is wrong.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:On the other hand, it's also bad to tell him that your mom's views are wrong just because you disagree with her.
Now, there's a point.
Except you want to raise your child with certain values, and mom's views violate those.
You can also have one of your values be kindness, and teach your kid that he can be close to people who don't share your family's views.