Anonymous wrote:If he has to explain himself, then she should also explain her change of mind. I bet she is gonna say, "Who will take care of me in old age?"

Well, that's a direct answer so that's good.

Then again, American culture is to save your money and get long term care insurance and not be a burden on your adult children.

They should each explain themselves, not do this face value stuff. The explanation will drive home their differences, which will help facilitate the break-up. Right OP?

If he has to explain himself, then she should also explain her change of mind. I bet she is gonna say, "Who will take care of me in old age?"

I do not know how old she is, but in this life people change their mind about stuff all the time.

It sucks in certain situations such as yours -
And like another poster stated, there is no room for negotiation here.

Sadly the ONLY option here would be to break it off sooner rather than later.

Good luck to you both!!