Anonymous wrote:Classy people make others in their group feel comfortable. OP must not be classy.

Anonymous wrote:I bet you were just as obnoxious in real life as you are being here, the “introvert” wanted no part of it and didn’t engage, and now you’re acting confused as to why she didn’t want to be your friend. News flash: everyone in this world may not like you and may not find you entertaining. I would ask you how old you are, but I’ve met many 40yo women that act obnoxious and make it a point to steer clear. And like you, they go on the offensive.

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Anonymous wrote:well OP is proud of her conversational skills, obviously. Maybe she was disappointed the dinner partner didn't ask any questions about OP so she couldn't discuss her favorite subject. Or maybe she's just a world-class talker and intimidated the other person.

No, I was disappointed she didn’t add one thing to the dinner and drank wine and just watched us. It was lazy and lame. And it’s not a “communication style” when there is no communication!

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Anonymous wrote:well OP is proud of her conversational skills, obviously. Maybe she was disappointed the dinner partner didn't ask any questions about OP so she couldn't discuss her favorite subject. Or maybe she's just a world-class talker and intimidated the other person.

No, I was disappointed she didn’t add one thing to the dinner and drank wine and just watched us. It was lazy and lame. And it’s not a “communication style” when there is no communication!

Anonymous wrote:well OP is proud of her conversational skills, obviously. Maybe she was disappointed the dinner partner didn't ask any questions about OP so she couldn't discuss her favorite subject. Or maybe she's just a world-class talker and intimidated the other person.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an extrovert, but if I don’t know you well and you start off with gossip and prying, I clam up. Not exactly a great first impression!

esp. if they, like OP, expect you to be "vulnerable" and share secrets about yourself! I'd clam up too.

You don’t get what I mean. To be vulnerable in a conversation is to have opinions, take a risk on a story, share something you think is funny or interesting. Sure it is easier to sit there and be quiet. It takes a little risk to be interesting. For example, I was in Texas and having lunch with a family friend of a friend. I didn’t know her but I loved talking to her. At one point she asked me “do you see the President all the time in DC, that would be so cool!” in kind of a star gaze way. A question like that takes risk. That person is willing to be vulnerable . She’s not afraid if it is a dumb question, she’s not concerned what people think of her. She’s just a person willing to take a risk in a conversation. We talked about her lularoe business, her kids, etc and it was awesome and interesting because she was willing to take these little risks on various topics. I respect people like that!

Doesn’t sound like this person was interested in earning your respect, and given the tone of your posts, I don’t blame her.

Of course she wasn’t trying to earn my respect. I’m not her boss, just a friend of a friend. I’m just trying to convetvand give an example of taking risk or being vulnerable. I respect and admire people who do that and enjoy conversations with them, and I try to keep it going and invest in the conversation as well. I respect when people can do that. I dislike when people don’t even try.

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Anonymous wrote:I am an introvert only because I hate filler conversation. It’s either interesting or important or relevant or it’s blather.

I don’t want to be trapped in an amateur episode of “The View” if I can help it.

So much blather. Especially from people who think they're "entertaining." They'll grab the floor and filibuster because they're oh so interesting.

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I hate participating in the inevitable “I love me/I am so witty/me me me/my opinions rawk!!!” op is invariably having with her helpless victims.

Wow you guys certainly have a lot of excuses for being lazy conversationalists.

So what's your excuse for Never.

Shutting.

Up?

You have serious antisocial tendencies. Seek help.

Snarky comments on the Internet are a pathology? Wow! Who knew?

If your only response is "shut up", that is not snarky, that is juvenile.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an extrovert, but if I don’t know you well and you start off with gossip and prying, I clam up. Not exactly a great first impression!

esp. if they, like OP, expect you to be "vulnerable" and share secrets about yourself! I'd clam up too.

You don’t get what I mean. To be vulnerable in a conversation is to have opinions, take a risk on a story, share something you think is funny or interesting. Sure it is easier to sit there and be quiet. It takes a little risk to be interesting. For example, I was in Texas and having lunch with a family friend of a friend. I didn’t know her but I loved talking to her. At one point she asked me “do you see the President all the time in DC, that would be so cool!” in kind of a star gaze way. A question like that takes risk. That person is willing to be vulnerable . She’s not afraid if it is a dumb question, she’s not concerned what people think of her. She’s just a person willing to take a risk in a conversation. We talked about her lularoe business, her kids, etc and it was awesome and interesting because she was willing to take these little risks on various topics. I respect people like that!

Doesn’t sound like this person was interested in earning your respect, and given the tone of your posts, I don’t blame her.

Anonymous wrote:Gah! Being shy, quiet, or reticent is not introversion, people! Introverts are people who need a lot of alone time. They can be as gregarious as anyone a party, but then they need time alone to reenergize.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an extrovert, but if I don’t know you well and you start off with gossip and prying, I clam up. Not exactly a great first impression!

esp. if they, like OP, expect you to be "vulnerable" and share secrets about yourself! I'd clam up too.

You don’t get what I mean. To be vulnerable in a conversation is to have opinions, take a risk on a story, share something you think is funny or interesting. Sure it is easier to sit there and be quiet. It takes a little risk to be interesting. For example, I was in Texas and having lunch with a family friend of a friend. I didn’t know her but I loved talking to her. At one point she asked me “do you see the President all the time in DC, that would be so cool!” in kind of a star gaze way. A question like that takes risk. That person is willing to be vulnerable . She’s not afraid if it is a dumb question, she’s not concerned what people think of her. She’s just a person willing to take a risk in a conversation. We talked about her lularoe business, her kids, etc and it was awesome and interesting because she was willing to take these little risks on various topics. I respect people like that!