Bc teaching my daughter looking perfect at all times is a top priority is really appropriate. I’m not giving my kid anxiety over a hair being out of place during the day. She is smart, well liked and kind to her siblings and others. I’m very proud of her no matter if her hair gets tangled when she is out to play.

And I say this as someone who has spent over an hour trying to get her hair to stay because I actually agree that it’s important to present yourself well, but sometimes there is only so much you can do without causing stress (and arriving somewhere on time- which I also find to be important)

Love this post. Priorities on point.

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Anonymous wrote:Np here. Doesn’t make sense bc in many other threads (and one which I started when I felt frustrated by this topic)...you will see the message that non-matching clothes / clothes they chose / and choosing how to wear their own hair = a given for some little girls.

Mine always seems to pick the ‘wrong’ clothes, no matter how many adorable outfits I buy, or how often I discard the worn items; she will choose mismatches.

And as for her hair, I take time to do it every day. And she takes it down within an hour. I STILL (waste) take time to attempt to start out nice. At the end of the day, she comes home with tangled hair. And most of the pictures taken during the school day (say, by teacher/parent during an activity) show her with down, tangly hair.

Again, when i have complained about this, or seen other moms complaining, I her answers like, “let it go / let her be in charge of how she looks” etc.

So maybe there are two camps?
One body positive, and one fiercely judgemental?

Before, I was frustrated by the body positives who wouldn’t help me improve her look. But now..I get it. I’d rather let her be, than pressure her bc she doesn’t look like a princess.

'cause there are no options between a princess and a mess.

Aight, so what do you suggest? Something I am not currently trying?

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Anonymous wrote:I love when parents of only boys comment on girls’ hair. You have no idea how hard it is to keep it from getting tangled when down. And when it’s up in a pony? Please I have tried everything short of dousing her hair in product everyday to keep it up. She has a lot of hair and it’s heavy and monitoring her while she is playing to make sure she look out together.

OP here. The hair is another story. The one girl has long, thick, curly blond hair. It’s beautiful. My sister was all “it doesn’t curl anymore”. Because they BRUSH it! One day with me and the child had the most gorgeous ringlets. A little conditioner, comb through in the tub, loose braid overnight to keep it from getting frizzy.

I’m a mom of boys and my hair is straight but even I could figure out long, curly hair management in a day. COMMON SENSE.

It’s cute you think all girls would let you touch their hair every night without a fight. Or that maybe you might be too tired to fight one night and god forbid their hair may not be perfect. You’re an insult to women. Watching your niece is not the same. Just like someone babysitting kids doesn’t know the true meaning of parenthood. Get over yourself.

+100 the OP sounds insufferable.

Anonymous wrote:Np here. Doesn’t make sense bc in many other threads (and one which I started when I felt frustrated by this topic)...you will see the message that non-matching clothes / clothes they chose / and choosing how to wear their own hair = a given for some little girls.

Mine always seems to pick the ‘wrong’ clothes, no matter how many adorable outfits I buy, or how often I discard the worn items; she will choose mismatches.

And as for her hair, I take time to do it every day. And she takes it down within an hour. I STILL (waste) take time to attempt to start out nice. At the end of the day, she comes home with tangled hair. And most of the pictures taken during the school day (say, by teacher/parent during an activity) show her with down, tangly hair.

Again, when i have complained about this, or seen other moms complaining, I her answers like, “let it go / let her be in charge of how she looks” etc.

So maybe there are two camps?
One body positive, and one fiercely judgemental?

Before, I was frustrated by the body positives who wouldn’t help me improve her look. But now..I get it. I’d rather let her be, than pressure her bc she doesn’t look like a princess.

'cause there are no options between a princess and a mess.

Np here. Doesn’t make sense bc in many other threads (and one which I started when I felt frustrated by this topic)...you will see the message that non-matching clothes / clothes they chose / and choosing how to wear their own hair = a given for some little girls.

Mine always seems to pick the ‘wrong’ clothes, no matter how many adorable outfits I buy, or how often I discard the worn items; she will choose mismatches.

And as for her hair, I take time to do it every day. And she takes it down within an hour. I STILL (waste) take time to attempt to start out nice. At the end of the day, she comes home with tangled hair. And most of the pictures taken during the school day (say, by teacher/parent during an activity) show her with down, tangly hair.

Again, when i have complained about this, or seen other moms complaining, I her answers like, “let it go / let her be in charge of how she looks” etc.

So maybe there are two camps?
One body positive, and one fiercely judgemental?

Before, I was frustrated by the body positives who wouldn’t help me improve her look. But now..I get it. I’d rather let her be, than pressure her bc she doesn’t look like a princess.

My kids have always looked nice. I take pride in how they look. It does not bother me what other people wear.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love when parents of only boys comment on girls’ hair. You have no idea how hard it is to keep it from getting tangled when down. And when it’s up in a pony? Please I have tried everything short of dousing her hair in product everyday to keep it up. She has a lot of hair and it’s heavy and monitoring her while she is playing to make sure she look out together.

OP here. The hair is another story. The one girl has long, thick, curly blond hair. It’s beautiful. My sister was all “it doesn’t curl anymore”. Because they BRUSH it! One day with me and the child had the most gorgeous ringlets. A little conditioner, comb through in the tub, loose braid overnight to keep it from getting frizzy.

I’m a mom of boys and my hair is straight but even I could figure out long, curly hair management in a day. COMMON SENSE.

It’s cute you think all girls would let you touch their hair every night without a fight. Or that maybe you might be too tired to fight one night and god forbid their hair may not be perfect. You’re an insult to women. Watching your niece is not the same. Just like someone babysitting kids doesn’t know the true meaning of parenthood. Get over yourself.

Stop defending your unwillingness to take care of your own kids. You’re embarrassing yourself.

Bc teaching my daughter looking perfect at all times is a top priority is really appropriate. I’m not giving my kid anxiety over a hair being out of place during the day. She is smart, well liked and kind to her siblings and others. I’m very proud of her no matter if her hair gets tangled when she is out to play.

And I say this as someone who has spent over an hour trying to get her hair to stay because I actually agree that it’s important to present yourself well, but sometimes there is only so much you can do without causing stress (and arriving somewhere on time- which I also find to be important)

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Anonymous wrote:I love when parents of only boys comment on girls’ hair. You have no idea how hard it is to keep it from getting tangled when down. And when it’s up in a pony? Please I have tried everything short of dousing her hair in product everyday to keep it up. She has a lot of hair and it’s heavy and monitoring her while she is playing to make sure she look out together.

Um, so cut it? My boy has long thick curly hair and it gets maintained. Co-wash, comb, a little spray to tame things... not hard.

Oh right bc short hair doesn’t tangle.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love when parents of only boys comment on girls’ hair. You have no idea how hard it is to keep it from getting tangled when down. And when it’s up in a pony? Please I have tried everything short of dousing her hair in product everyday to keep it up. She has a lot of hair and it’s heavy and monitoring her while she is playing to make sure she look out together.

OP here. The hair is another story. The one girl has long, thick, curly blond hair. It’s beautiful. My sister was all “it doesn’t curl anymore”. Because they BRUSH it! One day with me and the child had the most gorgeous ringlets. A little conditioner, comb through in the tub, loose braid overnight to keep it from getting frizzy.

I’m a mom of boys and my hair is straight but even I could figure out long, curly hair management in a day. COMMON SENSE.

It’s cute you think all girls would let you touch their hair every night without a fight. Or that maybe you might be too tired to fight one night and god forbid their hair may not be perfect. You’re an insult to women. Watching your niece is not the same. Just like someone babysitting kids doesn’t know the true meaning of parenthood. Get over yourself.

Stop defending your unwillingness to take care of your own kids. You’re embarrassing yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:I love when parents of only boys comment on girls’ hair. You have no idea how hard it is to keep it from getting tangled when down. And when it’s up in a pony? Please I have tried everything short of dousing her hair in product everyday to keep it up. She has a lot of hair and it’s heavy and monitoring her while she is playing to make sure she look out together.

OP here. The hair is another story. The one girl has long, thick, curly blond hair. It’s beautiful. My sister was all “it doesn’t curl anymore”. Because they BRUSH it! One day with me and the child had the most gorgeous ringlets. A little conditioner, comb through in the tub, loose braid overnight to keep it from getting frizzy.

I’m a mom of boys and my hair is straight but even I could figure out long, curly hair management in a day. COMMON SENSE.

It’s cute you think all girls would let you touch their hair every night without a fight. Or that maybe you might be too tired to fight one night and god forbid their hair may not be perfect. You’re an insult to women. Watching your niece is not the same. Just like someone babysitting kids doesn’t know the true meaning of parenthood. Get over yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents are too self-involved and “busy” to care what their kids look like.

Or maybe they care about things other then appearances!

That’s really sad and a horrible excuse to be lazy.

My parents were like that.

It was really really hard to get to my early teens having no experience with how to care for myself. Other kids noticed and it was brutal to try to figure everything out on my own long after everyone else.

Don’t do this to your kid.

Kids have YouTube tutorials for all that stuff now.

Yes, and my parents generation would have said we had cosmo and seventeen magazines for all that stuff.

Seriously, why did you even have kids if you don’t want to parent them?

Figuring all this stuff out on your own when you realize everyone else’s parents have been helping them for years just sucks.

And to add on, I braided her hair or put it in a barrette so it was out of her face. Otherwise, her beautiful hair is brushed (!!!) and a frizzy mess in her sweet face.

Anonymous wrote:I love when parents of only boys comment on girls’ hair. You have no idea how hard it is to keep it from getting tangled when down. And when it’s up in a pony? Please I have tried everything short of dousing her hair in product everyday to keep it up. She has a lot of hair and it’s heavy and monitoring her while she is playing to make sure she look out together.

OP here. The hair is another story. The one girl has long, thick, curly blond hair. It’s beautiful. My sister was all “it doesn’t curl anymore”. Because they BRUSH it! One day with me and the child had the most gorgeous ringlets. A little conditioner, comb through in the tub, loose braid overnight to keep it from getting frizzy.

I’m a mom of boys and my hair is straight but even I could figure out long, curly hair management in a day. COMMON SENSE.

Anonymous wrote:I love when parents of only boys comment on girls’ hair. You have no idea how hard it is to keep it from getting tangled when down. And when it’s up in a pony? Please I have tried everything short of dousing her hair in product everyday to keep it up. She has a lot of hair and it’s heavy and monitoring her while she is playing to make sure she look out together.

Yes we do as I have difficult hair. You pull her hair back. My son has longer hair and it takes styling with detangled, gel and hairspray to make it work.

Anonymous wrote:I love when parents of only boys comment on girls’ hair. You have no idea how hard it is to keep it from getting tangled when down. And when it’s up in a pony? Please I have tried everything short of dousing her hair in product everyday to keep it up. She has a lot of hair and it’s heavy and monitoring her while she is playing to make sure she look out together.

Um, so cut it? My boy has long thick curly hair and it gets maintained. Co-wash, comb, a little spray to tame things... not hard.