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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to be the dissenting voice. The kid's 12. He's old enough to understand that it's unreasonable to expect other people to cater to his extreme pickiness. It's normal to have likes and dislikes.- to like some vegetables but not other vegetables. It's not normal to write off entire food groups and only eat frozen pizza for dinner. The only reason that he's become this bad is because his parents have constantly indulged him.

Don't force him to eat anything but don't cater to his pickiness. Make whatever you normally make. Once or twice a week, make one of his favorites. (This is normal amount of catering to a guest, not changing your entire diet for 2 weeks.) If he doesn't want to eat whatever you make, then he make a sandwich or heat up a frozen pizza himself.

Really..if a guest said I am avoiding carbs/dairy/glutton I would make sure there were acceptable meals every day. I want my guests to be comfortable and happy. My M-in-law would make two different boxes of pasta if each kid wanted a different shape. She was happy to make them happy.

I didn't see this before. Dietary restrictions to medical issues (including allergies, sensory) or religion/ethics is not the same as picky eating. That's ridiculous. If a picky eater is only willing to eat 5 food items their entire lives, that's fine. But they shouldn't expect other people to go out of their way to cater to their issues.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to be the dissenting voice. The kid's 12. He's old enough to understand that it's unreasonable to expect other people to cater to his extreme pickiness. It's normal to have likes and dislikes.- to like some vegetables but not other vegetables. It's not normal to write off entire food groups and only eat frozen pizza for dinner. The only reason that he's become this bad is because his parents have constantly indulged him.

Don't force him to eat anything but don't cater to his pickiness. Make whatever you normally make. Once or twice a week, make one of his favorites. (This is normal amount of catering to a guest, not changing your entire diet for 2 weeks.) If he doesn't want to eat whatever you make, then he make a sandwich or heat up a frozen pipzza himself.

Really..if a guest said I am avoiding carbs/dairy/glutton I would make sure there were acceptable meals every day. I want my guests to be comfortable and happy. My M-in-law would make two different boxes of pasta if each kid wanted a different shape. She was happy to make them happy.

I didn't see this before. Dietary restrictions to medical issues (including allergies, sensory) or religion/ethics is not the same as picky eating. That's ridiculous. If a picky eater is only willing to eat 5 food items their entire lives, that's fine. But they shouldn't expect other people to go out of their way to cater to their issues.

Anonymous wrote:I like how op posts this a single an American thing that we cater to our kids. Nope not all of us. Plenty of people cook healthy meals and that's it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to be the dissenting voice. The kid's 12. He's old enough to understand that it's unreasonable to expect other people to cater to his extreme pickiness. It's normal to have likes and dislikes.- to like some vegetables but not other vegetables. It's not normal to write off entire food groups and only eat frozen pizza for dinner. The only reason that he's become this bad is because his parents have constantly indulged him.

Don't force him to eat anything but don't cater to his pickiness. Make whatever you normally make. Once or twice a week, make one of his favorites. (This is normal amount of catering to a guest, not changing your entire diet for 2 weeks.) If he doesn't want to eat whatever you make, then he make a sandwich or heat up a frozen pizza himself.

Really..if a guest said I am avoiding carbs/dairy/glutton I would make sure there were acceptable meals every day. I want my guests to be comfortable and happy. My M-in-law would make two different boxes of pasta if each kid wanted a different shape. She was happy to make them happy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to be the dissenting voice. The kid's 12. He's old enough to understand that it's unreasonable to expect other people to cater to his extreme pickiness. It's normal to have likes and dislikes.- to like some vegetables but not other vegetables. It's not normal to write off entire food groups and only eat frozen pizza for dinner. The only reason that he's become this bad is because his parents have constantly indulged him.

Don't force him to eat anything but don't cater to his pickiness. Make whatever you normally make. Once or twice a week, make one of his favorites. (This is normal amount of catering to a guest, not changing your entire diet for 2 weeks.) If he doesn't want to eat whatever you make, then he make a sandwich or heat up a frozen pizza himself.

Aw, cute.

Your 2 year old will have opinions about food soon enough.

Anonymous wrote:OP, let me tell you a little story.

My super picky 11 year old DS recently visited my SO’s parents in the Netherlands, along with me and my SO. My son had met them once before in the US over the holidays. While in the Netherlands, they went out of their way to make sure he had food that he would normally eat in the US, including bread that was very similar in appearance and taste to what he would eat here. In fact, they called us the week before we were to travel to ask what he eats, and made sure they had all those available. They of course offered him whatever the rest of us were eating, but always had an acceptable alternative. The one food they did introduce him to and that he absolutely loved was Dutch pancakes. FWIW, my son and I are Indian American, and my son only eats what a typical American kid his age would eat.

My son loves his Opa and Oma much more than he loves his biological grandparents. They reciprocate that love - and not once have they referred to him as their ‘step’ grandchild. So my advice would be to let this go if you want to have any sort of a positive relationship with the child.

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Anonymous wrote:He will never ever want to stay at grandma's ever again. Mark my words. Pick your battles grandma.

Please.

Read the OP.

STEPgrandma. The kid is not a grandchild. He is simply a "Step"

I think your first sentence is the end goal here.

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to be the dissenting voice. The kid's 12. He's old enough to understand that it's unreasonable to expect other people to cater to his extreme pickiness. It's normal to have likes and dislikes.- to like some vegetables but not other vegetables. It's not normal to write off entire food groups and only eat frozen pizza for dinner. The only reason that he's become this bad is because his parents have constantly indulged him.

Don't force him to eat anything but don't cater to his pickiness. Make whatever you normally make. Once or twice a week, make one of his favorites. (This is normal amount of catering to a guest, not changing your entire diet for 2 weeks.) If he doesn't want to eat whatever you make, then he make a sandwich or heat up a frozen pizza himself.