Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why these girls can't get a tampon in? That sucks for them in the summer! You can buy super slim teenager sized tampons. My 11 yo refused pads from the beginning and figured the tampons out with youtube videos on her phone.

And what if she hadn't figured them out - would you have berated her for being an idiot and told her that ALL girls can do this?

DP here.

I would not berate her. I would be clear that I would help her rise to the challenge as best I could, but if she cannot find a way to do it, there will be no swimming. We'll try together next time.

That isn't a punishment. It's just the way a civilized society handles shared water environments.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why these girls can't get a tampon in? That sucks for them in the summer! You can buy super slim teenager sized tampons. My 11 yo refused pads from the beginning and figured the tampons out with youtube videos on her phone.

And what if she hadn't figured them out - would you have berated her for being an idiot and told her that ALL girls can do this?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i can't believe anyone would wear a pad in a public pool. that is disgusting.

I can't believe a mom can't teacher her child how to put a tampon in. FFS

Ok, not the PP, but how would you suggest teaching your daughter to put a tampon in - beyond describing the process, watching video tutorials, and looking at pictures/diagrams? Let's hear your suggestions since you seem to be extremely smug and sanctimonious in insisting any girl should be able to use tampons. Thanks.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also am amazed how much ignorance is being displayed on this thread. Here is another link reflecting that typical menstrual flow is between 6-8 t (3 t to at T) so that is the same as the other link. When somebody gives a link you call them a troll and not a woman. https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/heavy-periods/

You keep posting links and cherry-picking tiny pieces that you think prove your point. But if you read the source document, right next to it is information that you glossed right over.

Why are you doing this?

At the very link above, there is information that clots are considered part of heavy bleeding if they are over 2.5cm (about 1 inch) -- so smaller clots are perfectly normal.

OP did not post about the heaviness of her daughter's flow, and in the teenage years, it can be anywhere on the range from light to quite heavy. Moreover, we aren't just talking about OP's teenager -- people are expressing disgust that others who share pools might think it's fine to wear sanitary napkins during their periods when using the pool.

Look. Don't go into pools if you have open sores, even if they aren't actively bleeding. That's a standard rule. Don't stay in the pool if your nose is bleeding. [Don't] go in the pool if you have an infectious condition, don't poop in the pool, and don't pee in the pool.

Stop being gross.

^^The worst typo ever, whoops.

Also wear a tampon if you go in the pool on your period, or use a menstrual cup if those work well for you.

Wow! Just wow at some of the misinformation on this thread.

I’m a Gynocologist and it makes me both cringe and sad that we’re STILL this ignorant about our own GD bodies!

OP and any other moms whose DDs have trouble with using tampons, U by Kotex Sleek Light are the slimmest. Don’t put just a “bit” of lube on it, really slather it on there! Also, tell your daughters to put some lube at and around her entrance. Many times the blood present is NOT enough lubricant for teens. Use a mirror, preferably one that can be leaned against a wall and doesn’t need to be held. Have her remove all clothes and undergarments for insertion for a better range of motion. As a last ditch effort, cover her bed with old towels and have her try while lying down. And most importantly, NO practicing when not on her period! I see lots of teens who have been “traumatized” by practicing dry too many times. If all else fails, bring her in for a check up or some help. It sounds odd, but yes, that’s something that I’ve helded teens with in the past, especially swimmers and gymnasts who have a dire need to use tampons ASAP.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, sticking with my personal public pool ban. No effing way. People are so much more disgusting than one could ever imagine.

Same. It is just too gross.

Anonymous wrote:My 11yo just came back from sleepaway camp and informed me she'd gotten hers for the first time this week. We'd packed an "emergency kit" with her camp stuff, and she handled it on her own without even going to the nurse. She says she used the pads most of the time, but managed to get the tampon in for swimming without much trouble, even in the cramped camp bathrooms.

I was kind of worried about her potentially having to deal with everything without me to help out (and she was at a water-sports camp, so I didn't want her to miss out on anything), so I did some research ahead of time. I bought her Tampax Active Pearl Lites, which I'd heard has a really slim, smooth applicator. I also gave her the Hello Flo book, which she read before she left, and said it was really helpful for practical tips.

PP here, just to follow up: I know the Lites won't work for girls with heavy flow, but it seemed to work OK as a starter. She said it was fine for half an hour in the pool (she was at a different, non-water-sports focused camp the week it started, fortunately). I figure if her flow gets heavier in future, at least she's got the hang of it now, and she can work up to whatever she needs.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, sticking with my personal public pool ban. No effing way. People are so much more disgusting than one could ever imagine.

And apparently driven to rationalize it.

My 11yo just came back from sleepaway camp and informed me she'd gotten hers for the first time this week. We'd packed an "emergency kit" with her camp stuff, and she handled it on her own without even going to the nurse. She says she used the pads most of the time, but managed to get the tampon in for swimming without much trouble, even in the cramped camp bathrooms.

I was kind of worried about her potentially having to deal with everything without me to help out (and she was at a water-sports camp, so I didn't want her to miss out on anything), so I did some research ahead of time. I bought her Tampax Active Pearl Lites, which I'd heard has a really slim, smooth applicator. I also gave her the Hello Flo book, which she read before she left, and said it was really helpful for practical tips.

Anonymous wrote:I also am amazed how much ignorance is being displayed on this thread. Here is another link reflecting that typical menstrual flow is between 6-8 t (3 t to at T) so that is the same as the other link. When somebody gives a link you call them a troll and not a woman. https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/heavy-periods/

You keep posting links and cherry-picking tiny pieces that you think prove your point. But if you read the source document, right next to it is information that you glossed right over.

Why are you doing this?

At the very link above, there is information that clots are considered part of heavy bleeding if they are over 2.5cm (about 1 inch) -- so smaller clots are perfectly normal.

OP did not post about the heaviness of her daughter's flow, and in the teenage years, it can be anywhere on the range from light to quite heavy. Moreover, we aren't just talking about OP's teenager -- people are expressing disgust that others who share pools might think it's fine to wear sanitary napkins during their periods when using the pool.

Look. Don't go into pools if you have open sores, even if they aren't actively bleeding. That's a standard rule. Don't stay in the pool if your nose is bleeding. Do go in the pool if you have an infectious condition, don't poop in the pool, and don't pee in the pool.

Stop being gross.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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My fear is that it will get lost in there or the string will break off.

You could benefit from learning about your own anatomy some. It can't get "lost" in there, stick your finger up there and you will see for yourself.

LOL I thought the same exact thing when I read the "it might get lost" concern. Like HUH?!?! Where do ya think it's gonna GO?!?! It's your own body! Get comfortable with it!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP cited one fact from the report, but out of context. She should have included the sentence next to it, too.

In a randomly selected group of premenopausal women, the most common amount of menstrual flow (measured in a laboratory from all collected tampons and pads) was about two tablespoons (30 ml) in a whole period (1;2). However the amount of flow was highly variable—it ranged from a spot to over two cups (540 ml) in one period!

Pre menopausal.

OPs daughter is a teen

I assume you posted the cite. Why were you posting the"average" listed in the cite if you don't think that group is relevant? If you didn't post the original citation, then why are you defending it, if the study sample isn't appropriate?

Regardless, I can assure you, my heaviest flows were as a teenager. It is not uncommon to have teenagers on OCP to regulate heavy flow, so not being premenopausal is no guarantee of light flow.

How would a pad be smart enough to catch blood but not pool water? How would a pad hold onto the blood while In the water? This makes no sense.

Tampon or nothing.

Yeah, sticking with my personal public pool ban. No effing way. People are so much more disgusting than one could ever imagine.

I also am amazed how much ignorance is being displayed on this thread. Here is another link reflecting that typical menstrual flow is between 6-8 t (3 t to at T) so that is the same as the other link. When somebody gives a link you call them a troll and not a woman. https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/heavy-periods/