Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
My only problem would have been the make-up, since my child could have been allergic, especially if she slept in it. Make-up, polish and dye may contain toxic chemicals to vaying degrees, especially in this country where the FDA has little oversight for that category of products, contrary to the EU, which regulates all this carefully.
I don’t care about the fake drinking - my kids know they won’t be able to indulge in the real thing. We’re missing an enzyme to process alcohol in the family, like many Asians.
Basically, not my idea of a fun time, but not the end of the world.
These kids were 13, not 5. Certainly a 13 year old knows whether or not she has sensitive skin or not. She's probably had her face painted at festivals and fairs over the years. And she quite likely has even worn makeup on special occasions.
I'll bet it was a real treat to have a professional makeup artist do her makeup. I would have absolutely loved everything about that party at that age.
You probably don't have skin sensitivities, then, because that's not how it works. You don't know in advance, unless you have used that exact same product before.
I have experienced really bad rashes as an adult with cosmetics I had not previously used.
On an unrelated note, I would have hated such a party.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
My only problem would have been the make-up, since my child could have been allergic, especially if she slept in it. Make-up, polish and dye may contain toxic chemicals to vaying degrees, especially in this country where the FDA has little oversight for that category of products, contrary to the EU, which regulates all this carefully.
I don’t care about the fake drinking - my kids know they won’t be able to indulge in the real thing. We’re missing an enzyme to process alcohol in the family, like many Asians.
Basically, not my idea of a fun time, but not the end of the world.
These kids were 13, not 5. Certainly a 13 year old knows whether or not she has sensitive skin or not. She's probably had her face painted at festivals and fairs over the years. And she quite likely has even worn makeup on special occasions.
I'll bet it was a real treat to have a professional makeup artist do her makeup. I would have absolutely loved everything about that party at that age.
You probably don't have skin sensitivities, then, because that's not how it works. You don't know in advance, unless you have used that exact same product before.
I have experienced really bad rashes as an adult with cosmetics I had not previously used.
On an unrelated note, I would have hated such a party.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
My only problem would have been the make-up, since my child could have been allergic, especially if she slept in it. Make-up, polish and dye may contain toxic chemicals to vaying degrees, especially in this country where the FDA has little oversight for that category of products, contrary to the EU, which regulates all this carefully.
I don’t care about the fake drinking - my kids know they won’t be able to indulge in the real thing. We’re missing an enzyme to process alcohol in the family, like many Asians.
Basically, not my idea of a fun time, but not the end of the world.
These kids were 13, not 5. Certainly a 13 year old knows whether or not she has sensitive skin or not. She's probably had her face painted at festivals and fairs over the years. And she quite likely has even worn makeup on special occasions.
I'll bet it was a real treat to have a professional makeup artist do her makeup. I would have absolutely loved everything about that party at that age.
Anonymous wrote:
I’ve see pina colada slurpees, yogurt, etc. I think it’s generally thought of as a certain flavor and not necessarily alcoholic. (After all, there isn’t a merlot yogurt).
Anonymous wrote:I am not a big drinker and I wasn’t even in college when most people are.
I actually wonder if being super uptight about alcohol can create a bigger forbidden fruit aspect to it. Saying “hey you can have fun drinking this stuff in cute glasses without alcohol in it” is a good message that maybe the kids will take with them when they’re 17 and at a party and being pressured to drink the real stuff.
The party sounds fun. And I’m not at all into pushing girls to being super girly. I see it as giving a taste of something in a special situation, without having to think about makeup as a daily thing.
Ironically, I think that putting girls in dance competitions, as you have said your daughter does, is way more likely to create a girly girl than one party. Those costumes are super sparkly and/or sensual with the bare midriffs. The girls wear a ton of makeup (yes I know its so they can be seen on stage, but they put it on girls as young as 3, which I think is crazy) and everyone has to look the same—same outfit, same hair, same makeup...not to mention the body image part of being a dancer. I think it’s funny that you are up in arms about a birthday party but think the whole image part of dancing is fine.
Anonymous wrote:Regina George from Mean Girls. “I’m not a regular mom, I’m a cool mom”
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Anonymous wrote:Sounds fun. And, FINE!
Anonymous wrote:
My only problem would have been the make-up, since my child could have been allergic, especially if she slept in it. Make-up, polish and dye may contain toxic chemicals to vaying degrees, especially in this country where the FDA has little oversight for that category of products, contrary to the EU, which regulates all this carefully.
I don’t care about the fake drinking - my kids know they won’t be able to indulge in the real thing. We’re missing an enzyme to process alcohol in the family, like many Asians.
Basically, not my idea of a fun time, but not the end of the world.
Anonymous wrote:Getting uptight about mocktails is fairly disordered thinking. It's important for kids to learn that alcohol is not a requirement for a "fun" drink. As an adult, it's important to know that you can order a mocktail if you don't drink or would like to moderate your drinking but continue to socialize with people who are drinking.