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Anonymous wrote:We rented and definitely got judged for just the rental aspect. We ended up sending our children to a well known private school, which further enraged parents in the neighborhood. Lol!

Now we own, I never throw shade because there is a variety of reason why one might rent.

Mercedes are cars for old people.

Are you saying you don't throw shade because there is a variety of reasons people might rent beyond they can't afford to buy, so no judging in case someone is renting for one of those other reasons. If I know someone is renting, I do assume it's because they can't afford to buy. But I don't throw shade because who the hell cares how much money other people have?!

We could have easily bought a house but didn’t because a) not sure what neighborhood we wanted b) it was before the housing bust and we wanted to buy when the bubble burst. Other reasons include you moved from out of state and your house hasn’t sold or you’re self employed and must establish an earnings history.

Forgot to answer your question! Yes I don’t throw shade because I don’t assume renters are poor. I don’t judge a book by the cover so to speak.

And if we are poor, does that change things? Does that make us or our children less worthy of friendship?

Right? I'm glad you don't assume that renters are poor, because that would be silly and wrong, but why would being "poor" (in quotes because it's not like rentals IB for good schools are dirt-cheap) be a reason to look down on someone or exclude them?

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:We rented and definitely got judged for just the rental aspect. We ended up sending our children to a well known private school, which further enraged parents in the neighborhood. Lol!

Now we own, I never throw shade because there is a variety of reason why one might rent.

Mercedes are cars for old people.

Are you saying you don't throw shade because there is a variety of reasons people might rent beyond they can't afford to buy, so no judging in case someone is renting for one of those other reasons. If I know someone is renting, I do assume it's because they can't afford to buy. But I don't throw shade because who the hell cares how much money other people have?!

We could have easily bought a house but didn’t because a) not sure what neighborhood we wanted b) it was before the housing bust and we wanted to buy when the bubble burst. Other reasons include you moved from out of state and your house hasn’t sold or you’re self employed and must establish an earnings history.

Forgot to answer your question! Yes I don’t throw shade because I don’t assume renters are poor. I don’t judge a book by the cover so to speak.

And if we are poor, does that change things? Does that make us or our children less worthy of friendship?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We rented and definitely got judged for just the rental aspect. We ended up sending our children to a well known private school, which further enraged parents in the neighborhood. Lol!

Now we own, I never throw shade because there is a variety of reason why one might rent.

Mercedes are cars for old people.

Are you saying you don't throw shade because there is a variety of reasons people might rent beyond they can't afford to buy, so no judging in case someone is renting for one of those other reasons. If I know someone is renting, I do assume it's because they can't afford to buy. But I don't throw shade because who the hell cares how much money other people have?!

We could have easily bought a house but didn’t because a) not sure what neighborhood we wanted b) it was before the housing bust and we wanted to buy when the bubble burst. Other reasons include you moved from out of state and your house hasn’t sold or you’re self employed and must establish an earnings history.

Forgot to answer your question! Yes I don’t throw shade because I don’t assume renters are poor. I don’t judge a book by the cover so to speak.

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Anonymous wrote:We rented and definitely got judged for just the rental aspect. We ended up sending our children to a well known private school, which further enraged parents in the neighborhood. Lol!

Now we own, I never throw shade because there is a variety of reason why one might rent.

Mercedes are cars for old people.

Are you saying you don't throw shade because there is a variety of reasons people might rent beyond they can't afford to buy, so no judging in case someone is renting for one of those other reasons. If I know someone is renting, I do assume it's because they can't afford to buy. But I don't throw shade because who the hell cares how much money other people have?!

We could have easily bought a house but didn’t because a) not sure what neighborhood we wanted b) it was before the housing bust and we wanted to buy when the bubble burst. Other reasons include you moved from out of state and your house hasn’t sold or you’re self employed and must establish an earnings history.

Anonymous wrote:We rented and definitely got judged for just the rental aspect. We ended up sending our children to a well known private school, which further enraged parents in the neighborhood. Lol!

Now we own, I never throw shade because there is a variety of reason why one might rent.

Mercedes are cars for old people.

Are you saying you don't throw shade because there is a variety of reasons people might rent beyond they can't afford to buy, so no judging in case someone is renting for one of those other reasons. If I know someone is renting, I do assume it's because they can't afford to buy. But I don't throw shade because who the hell cares how much money other people have?!

Anonymous wrote:We rented and definitely got judged for just the rental aspect. We ended up sending our children to a well known private school, which further enraged parents in the neighborhood. Lol!

Now we own, I never throw shade because there is a variety of reason why one might rent.

Mercedes are cars for old people.

Wins the thread.

We rented and definitely got judged for just the rental aspect. We ended up sending our children to a well known private school, which further enraged parents in the neighborhood. Lol!

Now we own, I never throw shade because there is a variety of reason why one might rent.

Mercedes are cars for old people.

Anonymous wrote:This is almost the perfect DCUM thread, the way it combines anxieties about money and schools with the general leering-ness of anonymous websites. If only you could figure out a way to bring in racial issues it would be the ultimate in awful DCUM convos.

This.

I never knew renting was low class until I moved here.

I never thought I'd miss that Brooklyn nonchalent "oh, we dress our child in used clothes I buy on eBay to save the environment and live on PPW in a four million dollar limestone, I'm a writer and my husband is a food stylist." thing that exists there?

But you people, you make me miss it.

Anonymous wrote:This is almost the perfect DCUM thread, the way it combines anxieties about money and schools with the general leering-ness of anonymous websites. If only you could figure out a way to bring in racial issues it would be the ultimate in awful DCUM convos.

OP here. You're welcome.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand not valuing a prospective relationship just because someone might only live near you for a year or two. Let’s face it a lot of kids’ friendships change anyways as they get older - why would you miss out on a nice friendship just because it might not last? I don’t think you should go out of your way if you don’t like the other person’s company of course, but someone who might enjoy a glass of wine on your check while your kids keep each other entertained? Sounds like a winner to me.

I agree--yes, it's sad when friends move away, but that doesn't seem like a good reason not to allow a friendship develop if you otherwise like people. I don't see friendships as "investments" that have to pay off. I see them as relationships. And we've benefited from friendships where one party moved away--we have friends that we visit all over the country and all over the world. When we travel, we almost always have friends to spend time with or even stay with. It's great! We'd miss out on some great adventures if we only made friends with people who stayed put.

I don’t understand not valuing a prospective relationship just because someone might only live near you for a year or two. Let’s face it a lot of kids’ friendships change anyways as they get older - why would you miss out on a nice friendship just because it might not last? I don’t think you should go out of your way if you don’t like the other person’s company of course, but someone who might enjoy a glass of wine on your check while your kids keep each other entertained? Sounds like a winner to me.

This is almost the perfect DCUM thread, the way it combines anxieties about money and schools with the general leering-ness of anonymous websites. If only you could figure out a way to bring in racial issues it would be the ultimate in awful DCUM convos.

I rent and own a Mercedes!

We just sold our house in DC (after living there for 30 years and now live in another part of DC and rent). Do I lose my DC street cred? Oh no. So sad.

I rent and I have a Mercedes Benz parked on the street. So what? You don't know anything about me. Maybe I am in DC temporarily. Maybe I own property outright somewhere else. Maybe I don't want to pay a million dollars for an old money pit house that needs new pipes, electrical, bathrooms and has a tiny kitchen in NW and my kid doesn't even go to our IB school that many people think is so great. Everyone makes their own decisions for their own reasons. So mind your own business. And if you are throwing shade because that makes you feel better, just know that the rest of us don't care.

Anonymous wrote:I don't look down at them, I look past them. There is a difference

What I look down are the OOB families who feel entitled to a reality/environment they can't sustain by themselves

We are renting for a year to test out the neighborhood before we buy, to see if the neighbors are horrible people like you.