Anonymous
Post 06/18/2018 23:45     Subject: Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My diamond is flat, and tiny, on a plain gold band.

We were both graduate students. My husband bought what he could afford at the time. We couldn't afford a wedding, so we went to the courthouse.

We've been married for 25 years, and will retire as millionaires.

And I'll still wear my flat, tiny, plain gold band just to earn the disrespect of shallow people like OP who judge people's worth and experience based on a piece of metal.

Ha, yep. Opted out of engagement ring for SO many reasons. And coincidentally, the 4 coolest women I know also don't have a diamond engagement ring. They really are the most amazing, confident, creative, capable women I know. And they all thoughtfully chose not to get an engagement ring.


+1 Wish I could meet all you diamondless ladies. I took a stand years ago and now run in status circles when enormous is the norm. Standing my ground though and sometimes, gasp!, I don't wear as this at all.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2018 23:31     Subject: Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I just hate blood diamonds and I think less of someone wearing them.


How the hell do you know if it's a blood diamond??


Because most of them are.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2018 23:26     Subject: Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?
Not really. The only time I think anything is when a petite blonde with highlight wears ca 2-3 karat one. Same kind of woman, same kind of ring. Maybe it's the same woman I see over and over again.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2018 23:18     Subject: Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, When I see a ring, particularly a big ring, I see a woman who needed an expensive gift in order to see her spouse as worth marrying. I see a woman who needs a husband who is still very traditional and needs a husband who earns her love through gifts she can show off to prove to her friends he will be able to keep her and provide for her.



You all are kind of depressing me. I have a huge ring that’s a family heirloom- it’s the only thing i have that belonged to my dead grandmother. It’s ridiculously large, but it was free which was only s little less than we could have afforded at the time. A couple shallow friends told me i should “make” my husband buy me something else because the ring was free. We preferred to spend money saving for a house down payment instead.
Sometimes when i feel like I’m going to be judged i rotate my ring so the diamond is in my palm and it looks like a plain band

I wish the judgement was in my imagination, but you’re definitely confirming my worst fears


Who the hell cares what other people think? I wear my large ring and don’t give any thought to what other women may or may not be thinking about me, my DH, or our marriage. There are women who are always judging others’ clothes, bodies, homes, spouses, cars, hair, etc. and engaging in rampant projections. It’s exhausting. You can’t live your life based on what others may think. Wear the ring if you like it and stop worrying about whether someone is going to judge you.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2018 23:17     Subject: Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No never... and hope people don't judge me by the car I drive, a 21 yr old Honda Civic - a real beater I love my car.

I wear a 3 carat+ engagement ring, DH's family heirloom, was his grandmother's e-ring. It is worth more than most cars unless you drive a Lamborghini or similar. I love the ring, it is perfect, and will hand it down to my son for his fiancee.

To be perfectly honest, I am too old to care what others think.


I find it odd that you’d go to such lengths to reply if you really don’t care.


I don't care about other people's opinions but love my ring. I like to talk about it. Same for my car.

My ring is perfect and perfectly beautiful. Too pretty and meaningful not to wear and keep in a vault. Judge away

I've noticed it's almost always men who comment on my ring in public not women. They are always very complimentary too.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2018 23:09     Subject: Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?
Anonymous wrote:No never... and hope people don't judge me by the car I drive, a 21 yr old Honda Civic - a real beater I love my car.

I wear a 3 carat+ engagement ring, DH's family heirloom, was his grandmother's e-ring. It is worth more than most cars unless you drive a Lamborghini or similar. I love the ring, it is perfect, and will hand it down to my son for his fiancee.

To be perfectly honest, I am too old to care what others think.


I find it odd that you’d go to such lengths to reply if you really don’t care.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2018 23:08     Subject: Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I only judge people with huge rings.


So I am 19:22. If you saw my large-ish ring what conclusion do you come to?

NP here. That you are insecure, materialistic, status obsessed, and not a feminist/not interested in women's rights. I'm sure I can be wrong, but not thinking through something like this, the implications for diamond mining, perpetuating the patriarchy, etc. are just so stupid. Plus, a diamond solitaire is a silly piece of jewelry for everyday wear. I see women wearing this $20k ring while they prance around outside in basically their pajamas.


I’m 19:25, but pretty much what 19:22 said. I judge your level in confidence, materiality, selfcenterness, lack on knowledge about the diamond industry, which results in a general judgement about your knowledge of the world outside your country club lifestyle.

Essentially, I form no good judgment of anyone wearing a large diamond.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2018 23:00     Subject: Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?
Don't care.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2018 22:54     Subject: Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, When I see a ring, particularly a big ring, I see a woman who needed an expensive gift in order to see her spouse as worth marrying. I see a woman who needs a husband who is still very traditional and needs a husband who earns her love through gifts she can show off to prove to her friends he will be able to keep her and provide for her.



You all are kind of depressing me. I have a huge ring that’s a family heirloom- it’s the only thing i have that belonged to my dead grandmother. It’s ridiculously large, but it was free which was only s little less than we could have afforded at the time. A couple shallow friends told me i should “make” my husband buy me something else because the ring was free. We preferred to spend money saving for a house down payment instead.
Sometimes when i feel like I’m going to be judged i rotate my ring so the diamond is in my palm and it looks like a plain band

I wish the judgement was in my imagination, but you’re definitely confirming my worst fears


If you are comfortable wearing $$$$$ on your hand, you deserve to be judged, regardless of whether or not you had to pay for it. It's so showy. Sorry your "worst fears" are confirmed.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2018 22:40     Subject: Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?
No never... and hope people don't judge me by the car I drive, a 21 yr old Honda Civic - a real beater I love my car.

I wear a 3 carat+ engagement ring, DH's family heirloom, was his grandmother's e-ring. It is worth more than most cars unless you drive a Lamborghini or similar. I love the ring, it is perfect, and will hand it down to my son for his fiancee.

To be perfectly honest, I am too old to care what others think.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2018 22:28     Subject: Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, When I see a ring, particularly a big ring, I see a woman who needed an expensive gift in order to see her spouse as worth marrying. I see a woman who needs a husband who is still very traditional and needs a husband who earns her love through gifts she can show off to prove to her friends he will be able to keep her and provide for her.



You all are kind of depressing me. I have a huge ring that’s a family heirloom- it’s the only thing i have that belonged to my dead grandmother. It’s ridiculously large, but it was free which was only s little less than we could have afforded at the time. A couple shallow friends told me i should “make” my husband buy me something else because the ring was free. We preferred to spend money saving for a house down payment instead.
Sometimes when i feel like I’m going to be judged i rotate my ring so the diamond is in my palm and it looks like a plain band

I wish the judgement was in my imagination, but you’re definitely confirming my worst fears
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2018 22:27     Subject: Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?
HEY OP I HAVE NO DIAMOND!

Didn't want one. No use for rocks on my hand.

Mind blown.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2018 22:18     Subject: Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?
Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bother to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

Lolololol
The bigger the stone, the deeper the love? That’s how you see it, OP?
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2018 22:14     Subject: Re:Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?
Anonymous wrote:Nope. I don't even notice if they're wearing one or not.


+1.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2018 21:48     Subject: Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?
I judge shallow people like you OP. Your life must be miserable.