Anonymous
05/25/2018 22:13
Subject: Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Parents yelling "shoot" "send it" and "clear it" at my DC. (He told one parent to be quiet.) I am sure it will be little different at new club.
Anonymous
05/25/2018 10:20
Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:At our (now former) club, the parent politics, coupled with a toxic coach/age group lead, have driven a number of families from the program. Parent volunteers get preferential team placement, playing time, etc. for their kids. The coaches and parents have also displayed awful behavior in front of the children - getting kicked out of tournaments and games, berating their children (and teammates) etc.
It sucks that our generation of sports parents is screwing up so badly, because sports can be so amazing for kids if handled properly. It's no wonder that childhood anxiety and depression are skyrocketing, and for what? How many of these kids are going to be professional soccer players, or even get a D1/3 scholarship? I will never understand what motivates adults to berate children. It destroys a child's motivation and love for the sport, and damages how a child feels about him/herself.
Keeping fingers crossed that the new team/club is better!
to the posters asking about what is wrong with the pre-ecnl girls development at mclean .... this!
Anonymous
05/24/2018 23:40
Subject: Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes
so did you complain to mys or did any parents let the DOC know....you guys just let the coach do this at the club?
Here is the way it works. Everyone(DOC, etc) knows what is going gone and is on board. The coach can do thing that are the opposite of the club’s mission statement. It is much easier to get new kids vs fire and hire a new coach.
Hard thread to follow, but if this is 12U Girls, McLean fired him before and they can fire him again. No age group head should be allowed to do this. Get a new TD then! Parents should care on the Board. WTF.
Are you the OP or a NP?
Anonymous
05/24/2018 18:32
Subject: Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes
so did you complain to mys or did any parents let the DOC know....you guys just let the coach do this at the club?
Here is the way it works. Everyone(DOC, etc) knows what is going gone and is on board. The coach can do thing that are the opposite of the club’s mission statement. It is much easier to get new kids vs fire and hire a new coach.
Anonymous
05/24/2018 15:59
Subject: Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Is this why MYS Girls 2004 is practically dissolving?
Anonymous
05/24/2018 15:47
Subject: Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:Yes
so did you complain to mys or did any parents let the DOC know....you guys just let the coach do this at the club?
Anonymous
05/24/2018 11:54
Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
DD spent the year entire playing all-game, every-game on "team2" in her age group. Coach of "team1" basically doesn't give time of day to anyone else in the age group who isn't a) kissing a$$ (which I don't have the time of patience for), or b) already on his team - so no info to suggest that the coach would take DD onto "team1" next year, even though he is losing half his players to other clubs. (As such, not sure we want to have her play for him anyway). We were not thrilled about paying so much $$ for an experience that we thought she could honestly get in rec. So when DD got a DA offer @ another club, she accepted.
Anonymous
05/24/2018 11:49
Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
We left coach-led and switched to Academy style because coach was awful and the club made no adjustments. In Academy-style, all players received the same training regardless of team/coach.
Anonymous
05/24/2018 10:51
Subject: Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:We changed last year and it boiled down to 2 things.
1. Training – The club moved to an academy style training while that might be good for some it didn’t work for my player. The kid to coach ratio was high and I felt my son was getting lost in the pack.
2. Style of Play – Club was focused on larger faster players and would drop the more technical players to the B team. Again my son didn’t progress in this environment.
I am a big believer that you have to find a good fit for your player. Some flourish in different environments over others. We have been extremely pleased at our new club.
Smaller training session with individual team members and various opportunities for no cost supplemental training.
Academy style was a disaster for our kid as well and we are switching back to our original club.
Anonymous
05/24/2018 10:44
Subject: Reasons why you are changing travel teams
I've got one kid in DA and one kid mid-level NCSL. I've seen DB parents at both levels and I've also made friends for life at both levels. It's hard to generalize, other than saying that most parents at U9 and U10 take it way too seriously.
Anonymous
05/24/2018 08:34
Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For what it’s worth, my kid was on Stoddert B & C teams are the parents were mostly wonderful. I loved spending time with those people, it was honestly one of the highlights of my kids’ childhood in terms of activities.
The A team? No thanks!!! Lots of awfulness & stress there. And frankly most of those kids are either not playing soccer anymore or they are going to play at colleges that you would never want your kid to go to (one ECNL player we know of is going to go play for ‘Fort Lewis College’ - WTF?? It has a 30% graduation rate). Most of the B team kids and the ones not playing soccer anymore are going to pretty incredible colleges.
If you want to hold onto your kids’ childhood maybe nix the high level sports & just take it down a notch.
This is true at every Club.
Exactly. Though Stoddert parents tend to be very educated.
DD played on another team where the coach was caught ‘sexting’ 11 year old girls and those parents chalked it up to the coach ‘having a bad day’ and hired him for private training
!
Anonymous
05/24/2018 07:18
Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For what it’s worth, my kid was on Stoddert B & C teams are the parents were mostly wonderful. I loved spending time with those people, it was honestly one of the highlights of my kids’ childhood in terms of activities.
The A team? No thanks!!! Lots of awfulness & stress there. And frankly most of those kids are either not playing soccer anymore or they are going to play at colleges that you would never want your kid to go to (one ECNL player we know of is going to go play for ‘Fort Lewis College’ - WTF?? It has a 30% graduation rate). Most of the B team kids and the ones not playing soccer anymore are going to pretty incredible colleges.
If you want to hold onto your kids’ childhood maybe nix the high level sports & just take it down a notch.
This is true at every Club.
I’ve seen some really nice parents change completely as their kid rose up the ranks. I can’t even talk to one couple anymore. They only ever want to talk about their kid’s soccer. And they are really arrogant about it. You see, their kid is destined for the National team according to them because of the latest spot on new team next year. I don’t think they are dealing in reality.
Anonymous
05/24/2018 07:13
Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:For what it’s worth, my kid was on Stoddert B & C teams are the parents were mostly wonderful. I loved spending time with those people, it was honestly one of the highlights of my kids’ childhood in terms of activities.
The A team? No thanks!!! Lots of awfulness & stress there. And frankly most of those kids are either not playing soccer anymore or they are going to play at colleges that you would never want your kid to go to (one ECNL player we know of is going to go play for ‘Fort Lewis College’ - WTF?? It has a 30% graduation rate). Most of the B team kids and the ones not playing soccer anymore are going to pretty incredible colleges.
If you want to hold onto your kids’ childhood maybe nix the high level sports & just take it down a notch.
This is true at every Club.
Anonymous
05/24/2018 03:54
Subject: Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:We are thinking about it. Coach keeps our player in the goal 95% of the time.
Definitely change.
Anonymous
05/24/2018 00:57
Subject: Re:Reasons why you are changing travel teams
Anonymous wrote:Where we are now has no parent team manager. The manager is a paid employee. The manager handles all communications for the training staff/TD. Nobody has direct contact with the Coaches about technical matters. Need a scheduled appointment with the TD. TD and staff of coaches rotate so there is no one person's opinion. You get many different unbiased opinions. Really makes a difference since many of the coaches come at it having played different positions in their youth.
Breath-taking. Takes all politics out of the situation. It also serves to weed out the parents that were constant kiss-asses since their hands are tied.
where's this?