Anonymous
Post 05/21/2018 16:03     Subject: Re:I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:Op here.

Myself and my friends are very ambitious. Top of the class, ambitious careers, eager and interested in the greater world and trends. I was the first to settle down and married my now husband when we met at a prestigious grad program. He was the first person in his family to go to college and he was so smart in academics. When we married I was so happy and felt I had picked my perfect match. But then I noticed he took a small job at a small company in the middle of nowhere and I didn’t care much as my career was impressive and occupied me. Meanwhile a few years later my friends are settling down and it’s obvious they are also interested in and seeking ambitious accomplished men, when we get together it’s all about “ wow your man is so smart” or “ wow your husband just made millions” and then they turn to me and are like, “ oh John is so adorable!”

I don’t like that condescending tone. Some have actually told me they are so surprised I ended up with him.

It gets to me.

I also feel like there must be something wrong with me that I wasn’t able to marry a “catch”


I work at the World Bank and have a PhD, I am sorry, but you and your friends are not very nice people and most of my friends from the WB are much nicer than you. None of my friends would ever say what your friends say. You seem pretty stupid and superficial. DCUM this is NOT what WB people are like
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2018 14:43     Subject: Re:I feel like I settled
20 years USAID. I have loved every minute of it.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2018 13:51     Subject: I feel like I settled
You and your circle of friends of IMF, USAID, and World Bank economists and power players may indeed all be ambitious, successful, and intellectual -- and that is all fine and good. But you have described your husband as kind, and that is a true gift.

Amazon founder Jeff Bezos has described the three seminal influences in his life as his mother, his Cuban adoptive father, and his scientist/rancher grandfather. Bezos likes to tell the following story of a summer drive near his grandparents' Texas ranch. While out on a family drive, a young Jeff quickly calculated in his head how many years his grandmother's smoking habit had likely taken off of her life expectancy, and promptly told his grandmother that information. His grandmother burst into tears. At that point, Bezos's grandfather stopped the car, pulled Jeff out and aside, and told him, "one day you will understand that it is harder to be kind than clever."

That is a lesson you would benefit from learning yourself OP.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2018 13:33     Subject: I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:WB/IMF careers top out at about 300K, and VERY few people there will ever make it to that point. It's true that prestige and benefits are unbelievable though. At the same time, I can tell you that my WB girlfriends who are beautiful, accomplished and have amazing careers are all single.

USAID is a laughingstock of the development folks, no money, flying coach and suppressed by ideology. No one would think a job at USAID is prestigious.

NASA is OK, impressive for the brainpower but you know they don't make much money at all.


Right. I went to a fancy grad school and work for a small company doing commercial real estate work. I make about what senior WB/IMF people make, past the top of the NASA payscale and USAID, forget about it. And I am only 33 and expect continued raises for about the next 10-15. Let's not even talk about what my boss or the founder make.

I'm not a globalist and am happy to hang out in Rockville and stack some fat cash while still raising three kids and retire early. Have fun with your only child and tiny $900k rowhouse though, I'm sure the prestige makes up for it.


You work for a small company in commercial real estate. At 33 you were almost certainly still in a fancy grad school during the last recession. There's a lot of risk in your role, and you're being compensated appropriately.

It's good that you have the fancy grad degree. Having seen a lot of people your age at your position, probably with higher / much higher incomes (I'm thinking of family members making more in the $400k-$650k range), I would urge you to make sure you're saving for rainy days.

My best friend and college roommate earns 7 figures, and when I pressed him on it, he reminded me that he has little to no certainty about next year's income. He could earn 7 figures one year, but nothing the next, so he has to behave accordingly. Unfortunately, the family members i know didn't, and lost their homes during the recession.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2018 13:20     Subject: I feel like I settled
Why do people keep dis'ing bald men? I like them.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2018 12:58     Subject: I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:WB/IMF careers top out at about 300K, and VERY few people there will ever make it to that point. It's true that prestige and benefits are unbelievable though. At the same time, I can tell you that my WB girlfriends who are beautiful, accomplished and have amazing careers are all single.

USAID is a laughingstock of the development folks, no money, flying coach and suppressed by ideology. No one would think a job at USAID is prestigious.

NASA is OK, impressive for the brainpower but you know they don't make much money at all.


Right. I went to a fancy grad school and work for a small company doing commercial real estate work. I make about what senior WB/IMF people make, past the top of the NASA payscale and USAID, forget about it. And I am only 33 and expect continued raises for about the next 10-15. Let's not even talk about what my boss or the founder make.

I'm not a globalist and am happy to hang out in Rockville and stack some fat cash while still raising three kids and retire early. Have fun with your only child and tiny $900k rowhouse though, I'm sure the prestige makes up for it.


If OP's husband made what you make, I'm sure this post wouldn't exist.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2018 17:17     Subject: I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:WB/IMF careers top out at about 300K, and VERY few people there will ever make it to that point. It's true that prestige and benefits are unbelievable though. At the same time, I can tell you that my WB girlfriends who are beautiful, accomplished and have amazing careers are all single.

USAID is a laughingstock of the development folks, no money, flying coach and suppressed by ideology. No one would think a job at USAID is prestigious.

NASA is OK, impressive for the brainpower but you know they don't make much money at all.


Right. I went to a fancy grad school and work for a small company doing commercial real estate work. I make about what senior WB/IMF people make, past the top of the NASA payscale and USAID, forget about it. And I am only 33 and expect continued raises for about the next 10-15. Let's not even talk about what my boss or the founder make.

I'm not a globalist and am happy to hang out in Rockville and stack some fat cash while still raising three kids and retire early. Have fun with your only child and tiny $900k rowhouse though, I'm sure the prestige makes up for it.


Ew. Do you...have many friends? It's astounding to me to hear someone talk like this, gross
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2018 17:17     Subject: I feel like I settled
“Globalist” is often code for “Jewish.” Is OP a troll?
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2018 17:11     Subject: I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:WB/IMF careers top out at about 300K, and VERY few people there will ever make it to that point. It's true that prestige and benefits are unbelievable though. At the same time, I can tell you that my WB girlfriends who are beautiful, accomplished and have amazing careers are all single.

USAID is a laughingstock of the development folks, no money, flying coach and suppressed by ideology. No one would think a job at USAID is prestigious.

NASA is OK, impressive for the brainpower but you know they don't make much money at all.


Right. I went to a fancy grad school and work for a small company doing commercial real estate work. I make about what senior WB/IMF people make, past the top of the NASA payscale and USAID, forget about it. And I am only 33 and expect continued raises for about the next 10-15. Let's not even talk about what my boss or the founder make.

I'm not a globalist and am happy to hang out in Rockville and stack some fat cash while still raising three kids and retire early. Have fun with your only child and tiny $900k rowhouse though, I'm sure the prestige makes up for it.


NP.
You are BITTER and a braggart! Why? Arent all of us allowed to enjoy different lives? Damn, you’re small!
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2018 14:53     Subject: I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound superficial and awful. If your DH was in a prestigious grad program and first in is family to go to college, that doesn't sound too shabby. But let me guess, your best friend, Molly Buttwipeworth married Trenton Thurston III (they call him Trip) and he is tearing it up at the World Bank, where of course his daddy had contacts who helped him get the job.And while Trenton loves going to Malaysian restaurants and sampling the wine, your DH thinks meat and potatoes is just great. Please spare him.


Yeah, does anyone work at WB/IMF without knowing someone?


If you’ve got a decade of experience in, say, water rights regulatory policy, then you don’t need to know anyone other than your professional network. If you’re coming out of SAIS and want up do “international development work” then you do.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2018 14:25     Subject: I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:WB/IMF careers top out at about 300K, and VERY few people there will ever make it to that point. It's true that prestige and benefits are unbelievable though. At the same time, I can tell you that my WB girlfriends who are beautiful, accomplished and have amazing careers are all single.

USAID is a laughingstock of the development folks, no money, flying coach and suppressed by ideology. No one would think a job at USAID is prestigious.

NASA is OK, impressive for the brainpower but you know they don't make much money at all.


Right. I went to a fancy grad school and work for a small company doing commercial real estate work. I make about what senior WB/IMF people make, past the top of the NASA payscale and USAID, forget about it. And I am only 33 and expect continued raises for about the next 10-15. Let's not even talk about what my boss or the founder make.

I'm not a globalist and am happy to hang out in Rockville and stack some fat cash while still raising three kids and retire early. Have fun with your only child and tiny $900k rowhouse though, I'm sure the prestige makes up for it.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2018 11:58     Subject: Re:I feel like I settled
I suspect some people think I settled. I married an older, divorced guy with a BA and a child, who is fast losing his hair.he grew up with no money, one totally uneducated parent. I grew up the well off child if a very successful fatger..also I'm younger, graduated dumma from an ivy, did a doctorate, have a fairly high status job (although it brings more cultural than economic capital). I dated plenty of ambitious men...but I fell in love with DH. He gets me. He is loyal, a great dad. He has moved once for my career and would do it again. If I had married an equally driven man, I'd probably be resentful. We have a good balance in our life. Also, I'm not embarrassed by DH, as Op seems to be about hers. DH is super interesting, smart and a great conversationalist. He gets on with all my friends and colleagues from all walks of life, but is also a good reader of folks, and isn't afraid to point out when someone turns out to be an insufferable ass.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2018 11:10     Subject: I feel like I settled
WB/IMF careers top out at about 300K, and VERY few people there will ever make it to that point. It's true that prestige and benefits are unbelievable though. At the same time, I can tell you that my WB girlfriends who are beautiful, accomplished and have amazing careers are all single.

USAID is a laughingstock of the development folks, no money, flying coach and suppressed by ideology. No one would think a job at USAID is prestigious.

NASA is OK, impressive for the brainpower but you know they don't make much money at all.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2018 10:18     Subject: Re:I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This sounds sort of familiar- "globablist" married to "redneck" husband. It's probably a troll.


Yup.


Agree. TROLL
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2018 10:10     Subject: I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:troll


Agree, I've moved most of my life in the well-off set and nobody, but nobody, says things like, "Oh my god, your husband just made millions." Tacky and really, nobody cares, not even the less well-off in our social circle.