Anonymous
Post 05/17/2018 10:35     Subject: Re:If you are a SAHM with significant extra help to make up for lack of DH involvement...
Anonymous wrote:If you have the money, I see nothing wrong with hiring extra help. If I were you I would figure out what you like to do the least and hire someone to do that.



This OP!! Why do you have guilt? You are an equal in that relationship and sounds like you are well grounded and considerate. There is so much that SAHMs do that don't even register in men's minds. It piles up. Outsource cleaning for starters. You can get a person to come help cook at your house (prep meals). Outsource preschool dropoffs and pickups if you'd like.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2018 21:10     Subject: If you are a SAHM with significant extra help to make up for lack of DH involvement...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is with all these SAHMs listing ‘investing’ as a core task? How much time can you possibly spend on this? Are you diving into financial statements or buying stocks on margin?

Also, a SAHM with a traveling for work DH is NOTHING like a single mom. Bollucks.

OP, your DH makes mad money but seems to take you for granted, so hire whatever help you need. I would plan to summer at the beach or something like that, it will help recharge to deal with all the other ‘ick’ you allude to.


OP here. It depends on how actively you invest and in what. A lot of people buy and hold stock and ETFs and that is fine and doesn't take much work. DH and I invest in these as well as limited partnership interests in real estate developments, private equity funds, among other things. DH just got on my case because I hadn't reviewed any of the paperwork for a new real estate investment and I recently missed a Q&A with the general partner because I didn't have childcare and was too exhausted, anyway.


Then you must have gobs of money, why is there even a question. At this point you should have a governess and an expert financial advisor. Were you in contracts law and finance before staying home?



Ding, ding, ding! What ARE you spending your money on? Do you want to buy a village in the country of your first language? Get a therapist for both your DH and yourself.