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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree completely OP. I can’t imagine that question would have been asked of a dad. It’s more unnecessary expectations on women by women. I appreciate the women (usually it’s women) who step up to be on the pta but I wish they would be mindful of creating unnecessary sh*t to do. Unnecessary because I don’t think the teachers even care about this stuff.

Ding! We really don't.

Our week is laid out like this:

Monday - early breakfast; yes, arriving at school 45 mins. is exactly how I want to start off my week. Especially for some greasy Chick-fil-A.
Tuesday - flower day; my favorites are the hand-drawn flowers instead of real ones as most flowers give me an instant headache. I tell the kids I'm taking them home to brighten up my house but immediately toss them in the trash. I do feel bad for .02 seconds after tossing them.
Wednesday - gift card day; this one makes me most uncomfortable because I always feel like I'm being bribed. 99% of the gift cards received will be for Starbucks, which is awesome, but again, I just don't think that money, even in gift card form, should be exchanged with teachers.
Thursday - card day; they're supposed to be handmade, but most are storebought. Some aren't even signed by the kid and are instead signed by the parent as the kid. To make up for immediately tossing the flowers, I usually keep and display the cards for a week.
Friday - lunch & cake day; catered lunch & cake is fine and probably all that's ever really needed for this week. Some years the room parents will take up a separate collection for a larger gift card and give it to you on this day. Again, it makes me super uncomfortable. I'd rather parents just donated that gift card money to the PTA fund that covers field trip fees for the kids whose parents can't.

You are so obnoxious.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree completely OP. I can’t imagine that question would have been asked of a dad. It’s more unnecessary expectations on women by women. I appreciate the women (usually it’s women) who step up to be on the pta but I wish they would be mindful of creating unnecessary sh*t to do. Unnecessary because I don’t think the teachers even care about this stuff.

Ding! We really don't.

Our week is laid out like this:

Monday - early breakfast; yes, arriving at school 45 mins. is exactly how I want to start off my week. Especially for some greasy Chick-fil-A.
Tuesday - flower day; my favorites are the hand-drawn flowers instead of real ones as most flowers give me an instant headache. I tell the kids I'm taking them home to brighten up my house but immediately toss them in the trash. I do feel bad for .02 seconds after tossing them.
Wednesday - gift card day; this one makes me most uncomfortable because I always feel like I'm being bribed. 99% of the gift cards received will be for Starbucks, which is awesome, but again, I just don't think that money, even in gift card form, should be exchanged with teachers.
Thursday - card day; they're supposed to be handmade, but most are storebought. Some aren't even signed by the kid and are instead signed by the parent as the kid. To make up for immediately tossing the flowers, I usually keep and display the cards for a week.
Friday - lunch & cake day; catered lunch & cake is fine and probably all that's ever really needed for this week. Some years the room parents will take up a separate collection for a larger gift card and give it to you on this day. Again, it makes me super uncomfortable. I'd rather parents just donated that gift card money to the PTA fund that covers field trip fees for the kids whose parents can't.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In every school there are those who volunteer to help make school better for teachers and students. And there are those who do absolutely nothing but certainly reap the benefits. In our PTA most of the moms and dads work full time. A few work part time or stay at home. We are all busy. However, we make time to volunteer because we know that it's important. Not only is the help appreciated, but we know that our children benefit by seeing us involved in their schools. Parents like the OP are the takers. The whiners. The unorganized, professional victims.

100% this. And you know what, OP. The moms and dads in this category do make the occasional remark (to each other...sometimes with a laugh and sometimes with an eye-roll) that "it's always the same dozen people" who do the heavy volunteer lifting--because it IS!
But we do not go out of our way to belittle your choice to not be involved. Do it or don't do it. But don't dump on us for trying to build a sense of community for our kids and show appreciation for our teachers.

It seems going out of your way to belittle someone’s choice not to be involved is exactly what is happening. Please stop. I would hope neither of you are representative of your respective PTA’s.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In every school there are those who volunteer to help make school better for teachers and students. And there are those who do absolutely nothing but certainly reap the benefits. In our PTA most of the moms and dads work full time. A few work part time or stay at home. We are all busy. However, we make time to volunteer because we know that it's important. Not only is the help appreciated, but we know that our children benefit by seeing us involved in their schools. Parents like the OP are the takers. The whiners. The unorganized, professional victims.

100% this. And you know what, OP. The moms and dads in this category do make the occasional remark (to each other...sometimes with a laugh and sometimes with an eye-roll) that "it's always the same dozen people" who do the heavy volunteer lifting--because it IS!
But we do not go out of our way to belittle your choice to not be involved. Do it or don't do it. But don't dump on us for trying to build a sense of community for our kids and show appreciation for our teachers.

Anonymous wrote:In every school there are those who volunteer to help make school better for teachers and students. And there are those who do absolutely nothing but certainly reap the benefits. In our PTA most of the moms and dads work full time. A few work part time or stay at home. We are all busy. However, we make time to volunteer because we know that it's important. Not only is the help appreciated, but we know that our children benefit by seeing us involved in their schools. Parents like the OP are the takers. The whiners. The unorganized, professional victims.

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OP,

DON'T DO ANYTHING FOR TEACHER APPRECIATION WEEK.

We don't need resentful people like you hating the PTA just because you can't get it through your thick head that you are under NO OBLIGATION, and that PARTICIPATION IS VOLUNTARY. Why are you taking to heart what a stupid and insensitive person told you? You smile, you say "hmm-mm", and you don't lift a finger.

You really need to grow up. Or maybe you're one of those people who love to feel put-upon?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PTA mom here who also works. At our pta it’s mostly the working parents who put the most time in. I know each school varies. So please don’t make this a sahm/wohm issue.

You can just do the card and send a box of store bought muffins with your kid the day before and ask them to drop it in the office. Done.

Don’t do anything and don’t worry about it like most parents. 75% of our school doesn’t do a damn thing for pta and if each family contributed just one hour a week to the school, it would make it a hell of a lot easier on those 15 parents who literally do everything because no one else is volunteering.

If you’re that upset about it, go to PTA meetings, offer ideas, offer to run just one event or at least spend one hour a year at the book fair or whatever your school has. Maybe it’ll give you an appreciation of the parents who do so much on their own time.

OP here - I have already run 2 events for them this year. I also donated a bunch of very valuable stuff from my workplace. This is one reason why it really bothers me that I was shamed for not participating in this stupid week-long show of how a lot of SAHMs just have way to much time. And how many times do I have to say it - we were given a list of very specific food items, and NONE OF THEM WERE PREPARED.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PTA mom here who also works. At our pta it’s mostly the working parents who put the most time in. I know each school varies. So please don’t make this a sahm/wohm issue.

You can just do the card and send a box of store bought muffins with your kid the day before and ask them to drop it in the office. Done.

Don’t do anything and don’t worry about it like most parents. 75% of our school doesn’t do a damn thing for pta and if each family contributed just one hour a week to the school, it would make it a hell of a lot easier on those 15 parents who literally do everything because no one else is volunteering.

If you’re that upset about it, go to PTA meetings, offer ideas, offer to run just one event or at least spend one hour a year at the book fair or whatever your school has. Maybe it’ll give you an appreciation of the parents who do so much on their own time.

OP here - I have already run 2 events for them this year. I also donated a bunch of very valuable stuff from my workplace. This is one reason why it really bothers me that I was shamed for not participating in this stupid week-long show of how a lot of SAHMs just have way to much time. And how many times do I have to say it - we were given a list of very specific food items, and NONE OF THEM WERE PREPARED.

Okay, then you just need to Practice a response. “Can’t do the food thing this time around, Karen!”

Anonymous wrote:I agree completely OP. I can’t imagine that question would have been asked of a dad. It’s more unnecessary expectations on women by women. I appreciate the women (usually it’s women) who step up to be on the pta but I wish they would be mindful of creating unnecessary sh*t to do. Unnecessary because I don’t think the teachers even care about this stuff.