Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP make up your mind. Did you regret marrying your wife from the first day or after you stopped being intimate?

You are either totally detached from reality or a troll.

I regret marrying her. It became even harder to deal with when my wife physically (and emotionally) left the marriage the day she told me that she (not we) was pregnant. It was like a switch had been flipped. And to the other poster, if she cheats, then she cheats. I don't know if I would get divorced. If she considered me cheating I am 99% sure she would not leave, she has told me this is so many words. She has told me that marrying me has "set her up for life".

Whoa whoa whoa. She left the marriage? Dude, you were never even in the marriage to begin with. On your wedding day you envisioned someone else walking down the aisle. You spend all your emotional energy on a woman you barely know and rarely see. You've basically been having an emotional affair your entire marriage. Everybody would check out of a marriage like that, quit blaming your wife for a problem that is entirely your fault. The melodrama is over-the-top.

+1 million. Puh-lease.

Also, spare us your mock indignance about how she said she (not we) was pregnant. She was right.

WTF?

I still don't get how men can be pregnant. I took the pregnancy test, I carried the baby and I gave birth. It would have been heaven to have been able a few days off especially during the third trimester when my back was killing me. It would have been awesome to have been able to take a break during the birth and let my DH handle labor while I took a nap too.

Unfortunately, I was the only one who was pregnant so I had to do it all myself.

I'm sorry to hear this has been such a struggle for you. I definitely know what temptation within marriage is like, but marriage is a lifelong commitment, as is raising a child together. I commend you for sticking to your physical morals up to this point and desiring to stay with your family.

Have you ever been completely honest to your wife about this? I feel that if you want to be able to conquer it, it's something the two of you need to fight together, no matter how hard that may be. Also, have you ever seen a counselor to help you sort out these feelings? Talking it out with somebody in depth can greatly increase your understanding of it and get you some great suggestions in dealing with it. Marriage therapy can also greatly benefit you once you are ready for it. Praying this becomes easier and that you will continue to remain loyal to your family.

Honorable is not how I would describe a married man who made out with another woman and is texting her lovey dovey stuff daily. You can tell yourself whatever you want, but you're just another cheating husband cliche.

I don't think you are in love with that person. You are however not in love with your wife.

Is it better that you divorce? I would say yes only if the kid was not involved. You are jonesing for someone who is in your fantasy. The OW is a normal person with her warts and all. She is divorced that should tell you that she is human too.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP make up your mind. Did you regret marrying your wife from the first day or after you stopped being intimate?

You are either totally detached from reality or a troll.

I regret marrying her. It became even harder to deal with when my wife physically (and emotionally) left the marriage the day she told me that she (not we) was pregnant. It was like a switch had been flipped. And to the other poster, if she cheats, then she cheats. I don't know if I would get divorced. If she considered me cheating I am 99% sure she would not leave, she has told me this is so many words. She has told me that marrying me has "set her up for life".

Whoa whoa whoa. She left the marriage? Dude, you were never even in the marriage to begin with. On your wedding day you envisioned someone else walking down the aisle. You spend all your emotional energy on a woman you barely know and rarely see. You've basically been having an emotional affair your entire marriage. Everybody would check out of a marriage like that, quit blaming your wife for a problem that is entirely your fault. The melodrama is over-the-top.

+1 million. Puh-lease.

Also, spare us your mock indignance about how she said she (not we) was pregnant. She was right.

+1
Exactly. Stop taking your cues from movies, no one in real life says "we're pregnant" to their husband, unless they are beyond insufferable.

I get a college, or even a high school love lost and dwelling on that. 2nd grade?

I doubt my children will remember who the hell was in their class back then and even if that is the case, to be "in love" sounds a little weird and strange.

Where its weird is that you formed some love for said person at such a young age. Attraction, connection, and everything. Nobody develops that in the 2nd grade. Whatever. Enjoy your miserable life. Many of you make stupid life choices based on what you think things should go and not what you ideally want in life. That does not mean youll end up with a perfect life. Just stop accepting what you think is ideal and go for what you really want at the end of the day. Might not work out, but you cant say you didnt try.

Just because you choose not to divorce doesn’t mean your family isn’t a mess. Your kid will start picking up on your melodrama soon enough.

Get over yourself.